Overwhelmed

[ClearlyMoo]

Is anyone else feeling overwhelmed?!

I'm so grateful that we conceived so quickly and everything is ok so far (now 14+2). I'm excited about the gift of new life too.

I'm finding everything difficult. I only got married in May and we didn't live together before the wedding. I have a 1hr15 commute 4 days/ week, a stressful job and a busy husband who needs feeding (he's lost 2stone since wedding!).

I just had a right royal argument with my Mum because we're going there (2hrs drive) for Christmas but she wants us to go there for a party 2 weeks before Christmas, and we can't stay as we need to get back here for my husbands work. I feel awful disappointing her but I'm feeling so overwhelmed.

I'm currently lying on lounge floor as I'm so knackered from a commute & day at work. I have various friends long overdue a catch up, and people promising me maternity clothes.

Everything seems like so much effort.

I'm not sure I'm coping.

Is this just me or is this normal for this stage?

I think its natural to feel like this I know I do. Like you fell pregnant second month of trying and was over the moon. 4 weeks later a dark cloud ascended and was hit with serve sickness in top of this and feel ultterly shattered and trying to mange home life with a full time job I felt like I was losing it. I felt so ungrateful as I wanted this but felt so ill I couldn't cope.

I'm 18 weeks nearly and excited for my 20 week scan soon, sickness is passing and I feel human once again, even tho I'm feeling better I do feel overwhelmed still.

This is my first baby and I have no clue, I will be dropping from full time to part time, and a month ago my hubby was made redundant. Very scary as he's never been out of work. He's telling me not to worry and he will find some thing else but he is the main bread winner.

Try to take each day one day at a time I think that's all we can do :)

Hope you feel less stressed soon :) xx

You all so have to remember that your body is going through major changes I.E hormones and lots of them. I feel like I don't know if I'm coming or going with my moods I'm so up and down.

Don't be so hard on your self were only human :)

Thank you SweetPea86. Not good that you feel the same but nice to know I'm not alone. My husband came in to a sobbing emotional wreck and promptly took over the making of dinner.... At least I married a lovely gorgeous thoughtful one...!

(Sorry for being mushy)

No no totally agree my hubby has been amazing too. In fact I love him even more now than ever top men we both have! :)

I totally understand, conceived dc1 on the first go and just recently conceived dc2 on the first go so I have a toddler and am going through hell with hypermesis and exhaustion, nearly 10wks pregnant.

You will feel better in a few weeks I promise, that's the only thing keeping me going at this point, especially earlier when I wanted to crawl under a rock and die.

I think you've posted on my 2nd trimester energy surge thread. I'm in similar position, got married on 10th August, found out I was pregnant two days into honeymoon which was a shock as I was due to start Clomid in Oct so didn't think it would happen naturally! Though I was pleased felt completely overwhelmed being married and finding out I was preg within the space of a week. I also have a stressful job and 80 mile daily commute, and am going through massive emotional changes. Just wanted to let you know there are others who feel overwhelmed even when it is welcome news

Your mood will start to buck up soon, your at that point where your brain turns into scrambled eggs. Dont worry too much about it, you will be tired from working a double job (growing a baby is most deffo a full time job) and keeping up with life at the same time. I've noticed people start to become more sympathetic to your needs once the bump starts coming through. I think everyone find its easier ignoring the fact your pregnant when its not infront of their noses.

But i totaly understand how you feel. I had terrible HG for my first 3 months pregnancy and it was only just starting to fade when i got married 6 weeks ago. Planning a wedding while suffering is no mean feat.

The only thing you can do right now is think about the fact it will get better & if your family are not putting you first, i see no reason for you to do the same. Dont feel guilty about it, its tough luck for them. You need to put yourself and the baby first right now and the rest can lump it.

Good luck witht he rest of your pregnancy & hope you feel better soon

Its good that you've recognised you're overwhelmed because now you can do something about it - its tough but pregnancy forces us to put ourselves (and the growing baby) first.

Your mums feelings, your husbands dinner, your friends wanting to catch up..these are all distractions and you need to be clear with them that you are going to step back. You can't be the same as you were before. Its really hard if you're used to helping others or looking after people etc but you have to quite firmly put yourself at the top of your priority list because nobody will do that for your baby but you.

Sounds like you have a tough job to manage,perhaps later down the line you could negotiate some working from home?

Good luck,recognise that there are things out of your control (how you feel at this stage in pregnancy) and those that you can (how you spend your free time recovering from all your hard work). I have only just realised the above at 32 wks and wish I had sooner!

I know exactly how you feel. We got married in April, and found out that I'm pregnant in September. I'm currently 11 weeks and I feel hopeless. I was told by 2 GPs that I was unlikely to conceive quickly, if at all, due to my age (38) so it was all a bit of a shock - we only started trying in July!

My job is really full on and I'm struggling to do less than my normal 10 hour days, my husband commutes and isn't home til 7.30/8pm, I can't face cooking, am shattered, our house is a tip, I'm being anti-social and am worried about my 12 week scan. I've come down with a horrible cold and decided to take a couple of days of sick to try to right myself because I'm just not much fun at the moment at all.

Glad to hear that I'm not alone but please let this feeling pass!!