Hi,
My wife recently had a miscarriage. It seemed to be at about 5.5 weeks when the discharge happened but the nurse said it was a “chemical pregnancy”. We were booked in at just over six weeks for an early scan since she had what the doctor called spotting. The NHS is understandably overstretched so although the nurse was very compassionate (given she must see this kind of thing day in, day out) we were in and out in a blur.
I'm naturally a private person and have been more upset and anxious than I'm letting on. I just want to be a decent, supportive husband and be there for my wife.
However, I am also a natural born worrier and have a few questions and find it easier to ask via the anonymity of the Internet.
My questions are:
1.While I'm not even sure we had a chemical pregnancy as the discharge was nearly six weeks on, when you read the quite alarming miscarriage statistics, are CPs included? I've read miscarriages are between 1 in 3 to 1 in 5. Does this include CPs? We are both 30, by the way with no known medical issues.
- It seems we know about CPs because pregnancy tests these days are so sensitive. This may sound like a really stupid question but is there any way to only test once an egg has attached?
- We weren't trying for very long to get a positive test. Is it a good sign that we got a fertilized egg so soon? The thought that makes me sick to the stomach is what if we miscarry every single time. Is that something that happens to some people?
I know the later you miscarry the worse it is and for that I am grateful. Please don't think I am just making a mountain out of a molehill. I do appreciate people go through far worse than this. I guess I'm just trying to be a bit better informed for the future.
Many thanks,