rotten time.

[smilesallround247]

not sure where to post this. Have mercy im new!
im 16 weeks pregnant and I work in a busy bar/restaurant. im always on my feet and the only time I get to sit is on my break.

im just exhausted! I never ask to go home as I need the money for baby stuff but apparently when I say im feeling tired it means I want to go home :-/
I had my manager come up to me when I was on my break and say that im always wanting to go home (which is a lie) and that its not fair on the other staff. I couldn't believe it, I was so taken back by it I could finish my lunch and just went back to work.

im dreading working with her again.
I don't moan about being tired, its when people ask me how im doing I reply honestly that im feeling tired today.

my sales are still high and ive never been off sick. I told my partner this and completely broke down in tears, its like now in pregnant im still meant to just carry on regardless of how im feeling? I already feel crap at my job and my confidence has just nose dived.
my partner told me if someone asks how im feeling said not to answer incase its twisted. sigh. sorry I just needed a rant!
im seeing my midwife this week so illl tell her how im feeling. Gah I hate work!!

I assume they know that you are pregnant?

All you can do is just make sure you're getting plenty of rest when you're not working. Or you could try to talk to your boss?
sorry, not much help really.. thank god i have an office job.

they know that im pregnant. I'd love an office job! just to sit down would be nice.

I want to talk to my manager but I doubt she would take on board what I tell her.

As long as your employment is all above board, your employer has certain legal responsibilities, one of these is to provide a suitable place for you to rest/lie down. Your boss cannot say that you feeling tired or even wanting to go home isn't fair on the other employees. You are pregnant they are not! She can't sack you either... If you're in any doubt, I'd recommend you talk to the Citizen's advice bureau and your doctor, this can be sent to HR, if you work for a chain, like Whetherspoons... If you're working for a smaller outfit, things are more tricky, but nobody wants bad press for treating a pregnant lady badly! X

Sorry, I meant to say a dotor's note can be sent to HR.

smiles something doesn't add up and I would echo your partners comments as to not comment truthfully when asked how you are feeling. It appears that your boss (or people you work with), for what ever reason, is trying to make a thing about you being pregnant.

I don't think its unreasonable for you to feel you can be honest re feeling tired but it sounds like people are putting one and one together and getting 4!

If you do need to adjust your working because you are pregnant - for instance having the same time for breaks but maybe a bit shorter and more frequent in duration then you have every right to do this and you need to be able to speak to her about this, perhaps at the start of the shift or on a day off as to have some neutral territory? or as the above poster says speak to HR if you are able to or are comfortable to.

thanks for all the advice. im apparently allowed to sit down for ten minutes in every hour but if I do that then its frowned upon and im 'taking the piss'.
Im just going through the motions until im off on maternity leave.