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No space left on the NTC course- am I destined to a lonely life with no mummy friends?!

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SadPander · 05/11/2013 20:51

I've heard so much about how great the NCT antenatal courses are for making lifelong friends and a support network. I tried to sign up about 4 weeks ago (about 29 weeks) but seems I'd left it too late as the only spaces left were for after my due date. I can't see any postnatal classes for my area either.

I'm worrying a bit now as I don't have any friends with children near me and not sure how I feel about turning up to a baby group alone to try and meet people. Has anyone made good friends without the NCT courses?

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AHardDaysWrite · 05/11/2013 20:54

I am not in touch with any from my NCT group (we had nothing in common except being pregnant) but met a lovely bunch of mums at a breastfeeding group I went to with my first d&c. We're still good friends three years on and see each other regularly. So I wouldn't worry - and baby groups seem scary at first but are well worth it - it's good to get out of the house when you have a baby and everyone's nervous at first. You'll be fine!

AHardDaysWrite · 05/11/2013 20:54

My first dc, not d&c! Bloody phone!!

blueberryboybait · 05/11/2013 20:58

I went on an NCT course and never saw any of them post 1yr and I'm sure I was only invited so I would bring cakes. One of the girls took serious offence to my 'lax, hippy breastfeeding cloth nappies' parenting style and cut me out of any invites, she refused to go if I went and obviously my cake wasn't that important so I was edged out. I have loads of mummy friends from baby massage, under 1's group, breastfeeding group and now nursery. I seriously doubt you are going to be friendless because of a NCT course.

Hobbes8 · 05/11/2013 20:58

Yes I have. My first pregnancy I was induced at 36 weeks unexpectedly, so I'd had the classes booked but i'd only attended one of them. I started going to my local children's centre when my son was a few months old. I felt awkward at first talking to strangers but you tend to see the same faces every week and get to know people. If you smile and ask how old their baby is you'll be fine! I just tended to go to drop in sessions, but there's lots of more structured classes if you would prefer an activity to keep busy rather than sitting around chatting. Baby massage or signing can be fun. I have a lovely little group of local friends now.

hootintootin · 05/11/2013 21:01

Someone dropped out of our nct course after a week as it " wasn't their cup of tea" . Perhaps you could go on a reserve list? Breastfeeding groups are good , baby massage course, swimming class, rhyme time at library, music class... You won't have time for the nct lot as well!

MarthasHarbour · 05/11/2013 21:01

I didnt go to NCT for the same reason and am glad i didnt from what i have heard (a bit snooty and evangelical about certain issues!)

Find out when your local NHS Ante Natal / Parent Craft classes are and go to these, i am still good friends with a couple of my NHS group 5 yrs later and all of us meet up occasionally for nights out,

I also went to Pregnancy Yoga and met my now closest friend there, i also met a handful of others and we all met up for years after the babies were born. We dont see each other as often now they are at school but we were a lifeline to eachother back in the day.

Get yourself along to any breastfeeding support groups or if you dont BF then go to Baby Yoga, Baby Signing, Baby Massage - all of this Baby gubbins that our mothers didnt have back in the day (my DM always gave me the look if i mentioned Baby Yoga!).

Once you are back at work and if you send your LO to a nursery then you will get soooo many friends. DS has just left nursery this summer but i have made a solid foundation of mum friends who are fab. And now he has started school i am meeting even more people.

Am pregnant now with DC2 and intend to do all of the above to meet friends with babies the same age. But to be honest i have gone from knowing nobody in my area 5 years ago to having lots of friends (and a hectic social life!)

Congratulations on your pregnancy and enjoy every minute!

Anothermrssmith · 05/11/2013 21:01

Can you get a place on an nhs course? I'm not doing nct, looked into it and they were too far away and personally I couldn't splash the cash on them so taking the freebie nhs option! Plus nct seem to get a very mixed review on here, was reading a few different threads last night about them actually, so don't worry too much.

As far as meeting people goes,I'm sure once bump arrives and you start going to clinics and various mother and baby groups you'll meet plenty of people.

For what it's worth I'm in the exact same boat,first of all my friends to have a baby, not in Scotland are you, lol?

Wonderstuff · 05/11/2013 21:04

I didn't do NCT and I was initially a bit sad about it, but I made friends at lots of different groups, you'll be fine.

bundaberg · 05/11/2013 21:08

i never went to NCT and sitll made friends.
went to local baby groups and met people that way

ugglyboots · 05/11/2013 21:08

I did NCT and NHS classes and made friends with people at both and also at various baby groups. You'll be fine as long as you're happy to put yourself about a bit (in the nicest possible way)

heritagewarrior · 05/11/2013 21:09

I did do NCT, but bonded with my group (including some people who hadn't done the ante-natal course) when we did an early days course immediately after all the dcs were born. They are all turning 5 at the moment and I went out for a meal with some of the mums a couple of weeks ago. Get yourself booked onto an early days course!

2blessed · 05/11/2013 21:11

I didnt do the nct classes but have made a few firm friends by going to clinic and rhyme time. You will be fine OP.

Tommy · 05/11/2013 21:14

I started with the NCT "Bumps and Babes" group but didn't carry on after my bump turned into a babe....
I did however, meet some lovely people at the NHS First Time Mums' group that my HV sent me to recommended and I'm still good friends with all of them 12 years later. DS1 and DS3 are best friends with the children of one of them and we see them every day :)

Mondayschild78 · 05/11/2013 21:19

I did not do NCT either but made a few friends at pregnancy yoga. Also made a friend in a local playground. You never know where you might make a new mum friend and don't forget so many mums are in the same boat. With a little effort on your part you will be absolutely fine.

Wishfulmakeupping · 05/11/2013 21:19

I couldn't get on the Nct course near me either went to an independent one suggested to my midwife so might be worth checking with them too in case. But although I did make a couple of mummy friends at the antenatal classes I met most other mums through groups we met done at baby massage and some more at the local library group that we go out for walks with etc you meet so many people at groups :)

Wishfulmakeupping · 05/11/2013 21:19

Some not done

BlackberrySeason · 05/11/2013 21:23

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curlywurlyllass · 05/11/2013 21:52

Theres no nct courses near me (rural scotland) that i am aware of. The only nhs course i can do are 2x half days on labour/birth and early days with baby...... They dont run courses in december so i have to do both sessions on one saturday.

So i too wont get to meet many others.

I will just need to get my big girl pants on and go to some after birth groups to meet other new mums

Good luck finding a group near u

BikeRunSki · 05/11/2013 21:56

I did NCT classes,made some friends. Made more, and better,friends at local children's centre.

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SadPander · 06/11/2013 21:17

Thanks everyone, its good to hear that its not the only way to meet people! I was sure it couldn't be, but everyone seems to suggest that you're really missing out if you don't do NCT. I will follow some of your tips.

I'm a chatty person and happy to talk to people in smallish groups, but don't have much confidence in actually introducing myself to new people, or joining in conversation if a group already know each other. I'm just going to have to get over I think and take the plunge!

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LadyMedea · 06/11/2013 22:20

Just because you haven't gone on a course doesn't mean you can't meet people through NCT. Whether you'll make friends from a particular course I'll vary hugely... We've had one all day session so far and our group is fairly chatty so I'm hopeful.

Our local branch runs all sorts of activities and also is a bit of a clearinghouse hours for information on all the other baby groups in the area.

See if your local group has a Facebook group and see what gets advertised.

BikeRunSki · 06/11/2013 22:28

Look on the NCT website for coffee groups and Bumps and Babies groups in your area.

hazchem · 06/11/2013 22:52

I didn't really click with anyone from my NCT antenatal group. I did however click with my branch (this is the local mums who are members) so i go involved in running the local NCT playgroup, helped at nearly new sales, went to committee meetings, went to babies groups, tea parties loads.

I also found going to sling meets really good, people were less focused on time and numbers and a bit more relaxed no one seamed horrified that DS was still co sleeping at a year. Also really liked toddler yoga.

If you were really just wanting to make friends don't worry but if youa re wanting to do some antenatal preparation try you NHS or local children center other private providers are Daisy birth, hyno birthing, natal hyno or some independant midwives run classes too.

lagoonhaze · 06/11/2013 23:04

Look up babycalm classes.

I went to yoga and made more connections that way.

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