BFP still shell shocked and very anxious

[Ipsumlorem]

Hi, as the title suggests I got my Bfp a few days ago and am still in a state of shock I think. We were ttc so it is a very much wanted bfp but we didn't really expect it to happen as quickly as it did and I know it is still very early days so trying to keep a lid on the excitement for now.

The problem is I am ridiculously anxious already. I am prone to anxiety anyway but am usually able to manage it a bit better than this. I had reasonably sore cramps before my period was due which is what prompted me to test in the first place. I'm still having cramps at the moment on and off and they scare me a lot - think a lot of knicker checking when I'm in the loo - sorry if tmi!

I'm just wondering if the anxiety gets better and if not has anyone else suffered with this and do you have any tips for managing it?

Hello and congratulations

I can empathise a lot with how you are feeling!

I'm currently 19 weeks pregnant which was very much planned. Me and hubby fell pregnant on our first cycle of trying so it came as a huge shock as we had been pre-warned by my GP it would take a lot longer due to the form of contraception I had been using. It was one thing being all 'let's try for a baby' to then suddenly actually being pregnant - it just hit us like a huge reality check. It took a few weeks for the news to settle in.

I also am a very anxious person by nature - I worry and get paranoid about everything!! It hasn't helped that since I was 7 weeks pregnant I have had 3 episodes of bleeding (I've been signed off sick for the last 10 weeks) but I'm trying as hard as I can to relax! Who am I kidding?? Haha.

This website has been an absolute godsend when it comes to keeping me calm. Everyone is so helpful and so reassuring and there is always someone who has experienced what you have and can give you support and answers?many a time I have felt like I'm going mad with worry/paranoia and just a few reassuring words from fellow mumsnetters has bought me back down to earth. My advice is become addicted to the forum and ask whatever is on your mind

Hi Writer, thanks for your reply. I think its nice to know I'm not the only one! We fell on the 1st cycle of trying too - it really did go from being a pretty abstract concept to a potentially massive life change almost over night. I guess I had worked myself up to think that it would be difficult or take a very long time which was kind of irrational looking back at it but it added to the feeling of shock when it didn't!

I have searched for and read pretty much every thread on the cramping so I know its normal but its just so strange how fast your body can change. I'm also working a pretty physical job at the moment so I guess that adds to it a bit - I'm hoping to get a grip soon!!

congrats on your bfp :)

Hi Ipsumlorem, I'm not quite in the same boat as you (we were 'seeing what happens' for 3 months before we actually buckled down and really tried, but we did fall that cycle!), but I understand where you're coming from.

It can be a bit of a shock at first, and after my initial crazy excitement I was completely overrun with anxiety - thinking about how many people I know who have had miscarriages, my sister having had a few, and then stupidly looking up statistics.. well, I was a bit of a mess for a few weeks. I did hpts daily until my stash of internet cheapies ran out, then bought extra clear blue digitals because I was obsessed with getting that 3+, and it didn't happen until I was 6 weeks exactly. I was freaking out to say the least. However, after I got that 3+ I stopped testing, and I booked myself a private reassurance scan for 8 weeks.

I know in the very beginning 8 weeks seems an age away, but to me it was so much better than waiting for 12 weeks for the official scan, and I had no real reason to need an early scan, so I forked over £99, saw the little ducky and heard its heartbeat, and since then that's it. No more worrying. Not even when my symptoms basically disappeared this week. Now I've got my official scan next Friday and the excitement is back in place of the worry.

And I'm going to second writer, this website has been lovely to visit. I've gotten to know a huge number of ladies in the June antenatal club (I really suggest joining the one for your EDD), and sharing with them has been tremendously helpful.

Thanks wispa and princess. I've just posted on the July EDD thread wispa so thanks for pointing it out to me

I'm hoping the more I read the less clueless/anxious I will feel