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Success stories after miscarriage please

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fliss02 · 03/11/2013 22:56

Hi,

I had a miscarriage three months ago (first pregnancy) and I've just started ttc again. I'd be SO grateful if anyone who has had a miscarriage and then managed to conceive again and have a healthy pregnancy could share their story. It's been a tough three months and I could really do with knowing that other people have gotten through it and ultimately had a healthy baby. Thank you.

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Scarlettsstars · 03/11/2013 23:07

I have had 2 babies since my miscarriage in 2009. One is now 3 and the other 4 months. No problems with either pregnancy and both children strong as oxen. I'm so sorry for your loss. Take some time to grieve though as otherwise you could end up, as I I'd, spending the whole of your next pregnancy in a state of total panic and not enjoy it at all. Thanks To you. Be strong and be kind to yourself

Audilover · 03/11/2013 23:09

I had a miscarriage in 1999. Since then I have gone on to have 4 children making 5 in total ( I already had 1 when I had my m/c ).

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fliss02 · 03/11/2013 23:14

Thank you SO SO much scarlettstars and audilover. Did you do anything different with your healthy pregnancies? I find it hard that the doctors can't explain why it happened.

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Coldcuppacoffee · 03/11/2013 23:14

I have a lovely 2yo after a mmc and I wouldn't swap him for any other baby. It was hard being pregnant again. Lots of fear but the minute I had him it was gone and I fell in love.

Good luck.

dogsdieinhotcars · 03/11/2013 23:14

1999 I had miscarriage of first pregnancy, one year (almost to day) I had first son, then 2005 second son. Be positive. 25% of pregnancies end in miscarriage. It's the circle of life. I am a gynae nurse and see it every day, and I was when it happened to me. Life is a miracle. It will happen for you and life will be good. Try for another sooner rather than later, you will be fertile, do not dwell for too long because you will get something beautiful and it will be worth the pain you feel right now. X

2kidsintow · 03/11/2013 23:17

I had 3 miscarriages in a row. We had the investigations and there was nothing wrong. I went on to have DD1 (who would have been a twin pregnancy, but it turned into a single pregnancy at around 8 weeks) and then DD2 with no problems whatsoever.

Sickandsad · 03/11/2013 23:19

Hi Fliss, my two precious DCs are safely tucked up in bed. I had multiple MCs before dd (10) was born. I bled heavily during both that pregnancy and with ds (6) as well. The only thing I did differently was to completely cut out caffeine and alcohol both when ttc and obviously throughout both pregnancies (not that I drank much of either before).

Be kind to yourself and take care.

RemindMeWhatSleepIs · 03/11/2013 23:21

I had a MMC in 2009 found on scan at 10 weeks. Since then DD born in 2010 and DS in 2012.

I was a nervous wreck for the first 4 months of both successful pregnancies. Be kind to yourself, there's plenty of support around on Mumsnet to get you through those nerve wracking times.

Good luck!

LunaticFringe · 03/11/2013 23:24

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Scarlettsstars · 03/11/2013 23:25

Fliss, I did nothing different. In fact with Dc2 I did lots of the things they say not to (drank the odd glass of wine, kept up my coffee intake). You won't have done anything 'wrong' to bring about your miscarriage, love. They do say that at least 1 in 5 ( some say more than that) of all pregnancies end in miscarriage it's just in earlier times women might have suspected they were pg but it didn't get confirmed by a dr until they were near the end of the first timester so so many early miscarriages were believed to be just 'heavy periods'. Today we know earlier, and we grieve more because of it. Hmm but its not because we did anything (or failed to do something) that made it happen

RemindMeWhatSleepIs · 03/11/2013 23:32

The only thing I did differently was regarding a research article I read about "stale sperm". Sorry I can't find it now to link it.

Basically it said there was an increased risk of abnormalities that could lead to early miscarriage if the sperm had been hanging around for a week or more between ejaculations. This could be couples who abstain from sex until the fertile window. In my case DH had worked away for 10 days and we'd conceived on the first day back.
It advised you "waste" a batch of sperm so you conceive with the freshly made stuff.

It made sense to me.

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fliss02 · 03/11/2013 23:34

Thanks so much everyone. Reading your experiences really, really helps.

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Scarlettsstars · 03/11/2013 23:37

Cross posted with lunatic fringe there - sorry!

Ra88 · 04/11/2013 07:57

I had a mmc in March this year , I then got pregnant straight after having my first period , and I am now 29 weeks , no issues, no bleeding etc .

It is hard but try to relax , there is hope !

lastnightopenedmyeyes · 04/11/2013 08:01

Sorry this happened fliss. I have a 3yo DS, and had a miscarriage at 7 weeks this march. 6 weeks later fell pregnant and am now 28 weeks into a healthy, normal pregnancy.

Best of luck with your future pregnancy.

EeyoreIsh · 04/11/2013 08:02

Sorry for your loss.

I miscarried in February this year. I don't know why, I bled from the start of the pregnancy.

I'm now 27 weeks pregnant, due Feb next year. I bled at the start of this pregnancy too but not as heavily. I did cut caffeine out.

As someone said up thread, there's almost certainly no chance that the miscarriage was a result of what you did.

lastnightopenedmyeyes · 04/11/2013 08:04

Fliss I forgot to say, I didn't do anything differently in any of my pregnancies. It's nothing any of us did or didn't do - just nature I think. Miscarriages are so common :(

kilmuir · 04/11/2013 08:05

I had 6 miscarriages before i went on to have 4 successful pregnancies. Good luck

shelley72 · 04/11/2013 08:06

I had a MC in 2009, was to be our second baby. It was heart breaking. We started, like you, TTC three months later and conceived first time. She is now 3 and we also have a 4 month old Smile

I spent the first twelve weeks of each pregnancy in a state of panic and didn't want to look at the scans, just in case. Of course you will worry, just give yourself some time to come to terms with your loss. I did nothing different in any of my pregnancies, and I still wonder why one didn't make it and the others did. But I try and think we'll if they had I wouldn't have the family I have now IYSWIM.

Hope it all goes well for you OP

IBelieveInPink · 04/11/2013 08:10

Hi fliss
Sorry for your loss

I had a mmc at 8 weeks last October. Then had an early mc in January. I am now 38 and a half weeks, and hoping to pop any day soon. Bump is massive, and I treasure every single wriggle.

Don't get me wrong, I have found every day of this last pregnancy hard (not physically - I've been lucky) but emotionally. Not trying to say this to scare you, just so you can get yourself a good support network up.
These forums have been my lifeline. We have a thread for pg after mc (the posifrikentivity one) which has got me through every day of this pregnancy. There are ladies at all stages of pregnancy there (including a bundle about to pop which is very encouraging for newbies!) so as and when it happens, pop yourself a long to join us if it would help.

Good luck, hope it happens again very quick for you.

TruJay · 04/11/2013 08:21

Hi Fliss, I am so sorry for your loss, it is such a hard thing to go through. We have a son, almost 4 and then had a MMC and lost our second baby at 13 weeks in Oct 2012. We started trying again after a few months and we caught on on the second cycle of trying. It's very hard being pregnant again but u can do it and honestly by no means is a miscarriage your fault even though the docs can't find a cause. I'm now 40+2 with our baby and getting impatient so there is light at the end of the tunnel. Wish u all the best with ttc x

SummerSevern · 04/11/2013 08:42

Sorry for your loss, Fliss.
I had a mmc in June 2012, found at a 10wk scan.
Started ttc straight after, and got pg after 4 months.
Found the 2nd pregnancy very nerve-wracking; little bit of bleeding, lots of placenta-related scans.
But my 15wk DD is currently fast asleep next to me.
I know it's near impossible, but try to relax and spend some time looking after yourself - lots of pampering.

Anyfuckerisnotguilty · 04/11/2013 11:20

Hi Ive had two miscarriages one around 9 weeks and one at 13 weeks and one neonatal death
my lovely ds1

and I have a lovely dd had her before my losses and now I have a lovely ds here

If its your dream you Just have to keep going and going until you realise that dream

Teabird · 04/11/2013 11:24

So sorry for your loss.
I had 2 MMC's 3 months apart in 2011. They were so distressing and I really doubted we would ever have a baby. I then fell pregnant 3 weeks after the last erpc, much to my surprise and it was a very stressful time. We decided to have an early scan at 8 weeks which was amazing when we saw the little bean and heartbeat for the first time. It was the first time we hsd ever had an enjoyable scan. She is now 8 months old! My advice would be to be kind to yourself and take one day at a time. Wishing you all the luck with ttc and lots of sticky baby thoughts.

Rufus44 · 04/11/2013 11:25

Sorry for your loss

I had ds1 and when he was about 22 months old I had a miscarriage. It took 2 years and fertility treatment to get him and a year of trying to get the baby I lost

Dd arrived when ds1 was about to turn three after another solid year of trying

Ds2 arrived when she was 17 months old!!!! Not an accident as such but certainly he was a surprise

Hope it all goes well for you