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AIBU not to put a photo of my bump on facebook??

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Bumpiemalumpie · 02/11/2013 19:18

I have a friend on Facebook who has shunned my last few dinner plans but keeps hijacking conversations on Feb with bump photo requests.

I don't publish my whole life on Feb and feel my bump, which I am very proud of, is very sacred to me after some complications.

I am getting sick of the requests but am I just being hormonal an U??

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DoctorTwo · 02/11/2013 19:22

YANBU in the slightest. She, on the other hand, is.

ananikifo · 02/11/2013 19:24

YANBU. You have absolutely no obligation to post anything on fb, ever.

BummyMummy77 · 02/11/2013 19:24

No you aren't. I've put bump pictures up but will not be putting baby pictures up.

StandingInLine · 02/11/2013 19:25

I didn't mention it on Facebook at all until is given birth. And that's how id do it next time as well.

BlueJess · 02/11/2013 19:29

She wants to see a picture of your bump?

That just er... quite odd.

YANBU

PacificDogwood · 02/11/2013 19:30

YANBU in the slightest.
YAB a person with a sense of taste and good judgement

Julietee · 02/11/2013 19:32

Uh.. no. You don't owe this friend a bump photo. If she wants to see your bump so badly she can reply to your plans!

Mintyy · 02/11/2013 19:50

What the hell is a bump photo request. You talk about it as though its an actual thing!

MetellaEstMater · 02/11/2013 20:03

Weird.

MetellaEstMater · 02/11/2013 20:03

Your friend not you OP!!

PumpkinPie2013 · 02/11/2013 20:26

YANBU at all! I'm almost 37 weeks and haven't even mentioned my pregnancy on fb and certainly wouldn't post a bump pic Shock

Me and DH are thrilled about my pregnancy as are the family and friends we have told but I wouldn't want it all over fb.

If your friend wants to see your bump that much she can stop shunning your invitations and see you in person!

GwenStacy · 02/11/2013 20:31

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Mitchell2 · 02/11/2013 20:50

Seriously why to people think your bump is public property? I'd tell her to F off. It's up to you what you want to share.

I'd be a bit insulted actually, as it seems she wants to see the bump but by shunning plans she doesn't really seem to care about wanting to see you. Hmm

RaspberrysAndIcecream · 02/11/2013 21:05

YANBU!!

I've taken a couple if bump photos and sent them to one of my best friends, but she lives abroad and she's also very close in pregnancy dates to me. We send them to each other!!! Lol, but that's a private conversation between us.

It's ur bump, do whatever u want to do!!! And if she was that desperate to see it she'd reply to ur dinner plan messages. Surely it'd be better to see u in person?!?

WantAnOrange · 02/11/2013 21:09

It's your body! Who the hell does she think she is?! Next time she asks, ask her to post a picture of her tits. Show her how uncomfortable it is for a person to demand photos of a body part which may be considered private!

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Bumpiemalumpie · 02/11/2013 23:02

Thanks all, am relieved I am not just being hormonal.

I think I wouldn't be as mad if she asked how I was as well!!!

I have sent photos over pm to close friends abroad as well and to keep my mum updated as we don't see each other much but it is my belly.

I have struggled to deal with the weight gain and this also hinders me putting a photo out there.

thank you all, I feel reassured. I think if she and many others who have made the same request want to come to meet bean once she/he is born, I will arrange a babysitter and message saying 'god yes, I would love to see you, I'll get a bab sitter and we can go for coffee!!!' I am determine not to loose my sense of me!!!!

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BummyMummy77 · 03/11/2013 02:36

It took me 3 m

BummyMummy77 · 03/11/2013 02:38

Grrrr.

It took me 3 months, countless photos and a lot of funny body angling before there was anything I'd even remotely consider going on to the internet.

lilstar · 03/11/2013 17:32

I am having my baby in just over 2 weeks, never put a scan or bump photo on fb and have been selective about who I even told I was pg. It's a very personal time and back in the day people who are not particularly close to you would only know if they happened to bump into you I guess. I don't think you have to tell anyone if you don't want to never mind everyone on fb.

It even annoys me if anyone who does know makes reference to my pregnancy on fb when it's obvious I haven't made a 'public' announcement on there.

Just do what suits you best.

gemmal88 · 03/11/2013 17:35

I don't have any bump photos of my first pregnancy and I doubt I'll have any of this one if I balloon out like I did first time. The michelin man springs to mind.

Never mind putting them on Facebook!

nerofiend · 10/11/2013 13:58

Never put photos of scan, bump, newborns on FB. I don't like to share such intimate experiences/moments. Somehow it makes them cheap for me to put them on FB.

In fact, I deleted my account and all those silly worries went out of the window too. So liberating!

Cariad007 · 10/11/2013 14:48

I find putting scan photos on Facebook really tacky - it's just not for me. I don't mind showing the picture to people person but wouldn't upload it for everyone to see. I've put holiday photos of me on it where I just happen to be pregnant but would never put up a special "bump photo" or, god forbid, do some sort of pregnancy photo shoot!

SeeYouNT · 10/11/2013 17:40

yanbu - its entirely up to you

i have been putting weekly bump pics up though

sleeplessbunny · 10/11/2013 17:49

It doesn't sound like this person is a great friend, more of a PITA. Ignore.

HoratiaDrelincourt · 10/11/2013 17:49

This time round I didn't do a pregnancy announcement on FB or put any bump pictures up.

Yesterday I put up a birth announcement and a good proportion of the congratulations messages say "omg I had no idea". Which is what I wanted because being pregnant was only one thing about me all that time but when people know you're pg it sometimes feels like that's the only thing they can talk about.