Furious and Fed Up!!

[harman]

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Congratulations she's the one that's missing out, miserable cow...honestly some people don't good things when they are staring them in the face...Let her do the running...she is one sad mother (or grandmother)

My mum was so stunned when I told her I was pg (no idea why, was married and everything!), she actually changed the subject - no congratulations, nothing! I was so upset I put the phone down and burst into tears. She later apologised and couldn't worship ds more if he was made of diamonds and ruled the world. People are funny.

Well, I think it's lovely news. Well done you.

I mentioned as airily as I could to my mum that I was pg and she said 'oh goodness, you girls never fail to surprise me'. Eh?????

I told a friend once, expecting her to be happy for me. She said, in a really dead-pan voice, 'That's good isn't it...' silence I was stunned, but afterwards, I wished I had said 'Yes, WE think so'.

i add my congrates ! families are a strange thing ! My ILs are great , just my own parents are f*ed up , oh they are interested , but only on there own time and if i listen to their probs 1st !! take no notice and enjoy this tim with dh

Congratulations Harman, is it at all possible that your PIL are having big problems with something else and that is why they haven't responded as you and your husband had hoped that they would?

I agree with the more children you have the less congratulations you get - I am pregnant with no. 2 and bil's wife could only bring herself to say "so soon?" (ds will be 28 months old when the baby is born), another one of her comments has been "look at the size of you??".. I can only assume in her case that she is jealous as she has one 6 year old son and no other children and this may be an issue. Luckily grandparents on both sides are pleased but even someone as distant as bil's wife annoyed me with her lacklustre reaction so I can imagine what you feel like. Do you get on with your MIL in general? Is this going to be your first baby?
Anyway, I think babies in general change the dynamics in families in ways which take a while to get used to so I would just accept that for the time being and get on with enjoying your pregnancy and all the exciting things to think about with your dh and other family and friends .