I've changed my mind!

[BummyMummy77]

Argh! I can't squeeze out this thing the size of, well a BABY from my lovely, tiny moomin and then keep it safe for 18 plus years!

What the HELL was I thinking?!

Anyone else hitting or hit panic stations? Is this normal?

Aww u can trust me! U won't quite believe it but it works honestly! I am having the same thoughts and I've already done it once so I know it's possible. All will be fine and once u have them here u will do anything to keep them safe, it's just in u, don't worry

Deep breaths! But yes, perfectly normal!

I found it hit me leaving the hospital with DS1, I said to DP as we were leaving "any minute now, they'll realise we are totally winging this and the real grown-ups will come, they cant actually be letting us leave with this tiny helpless person?!"
But they did and he's fine, he's now nearly 3 and climbing all over me. We even did it again and had DS2.

Yes, labour hurts, no getting round that. But you'll get through it, there are fantastic drugs you can have if you feel you want to and in the grand scheme of things its a tiny percentage of your life and at the end of it you get a baby! (I found that bit weird too, realising this ginormous bump will be an actual person!)

How far are you?

39 weeks. I can't have any drugs. Not even air. I'm in the States and the hospital bills were getting outrageous so I'm having a home birth but midwives here are not licensed so can't carry any drugs.

How does it come out though?! How??

And what do I do if I get bored of having a baby around? I've been a maternity nurse/nanny for over 18 years so was really blasé about the whole thing. Until now.

I feel like running away but bump will just follow me!

Your worries are all perfectly normal but you will be fine I'm sure. If you can't have drugs can you hire a TENS machine, this in combination with focused breathing helped me enormously. I would also advise that you try and stay upright and mobile as much as possible as gravity will then help, and if the pain gets too much you can also try a bath (although not with a TENS machine attached).

And once baby is born you really won't get bored, babies are fascinating as they develop. My DS is now 3 but I never get bored of watching him learn to do new things. It really is the most wonderful experience. Good luck.

Lol @ 'don't try a bath with a TENS machine'! I can see dh suggesting something bright like that.

Is this panic reflex natural? It doesn't seem to serve a useful purpose that I can see.

I was drug-free when I had DS - could have had gas and air but didn't like it! He was back to back, although I didn't know that until afterwards.

It was fine. Painful obviously, but literally the second he was out there was no pain, just the biggest hormone rush I've ever felt (I've never taken hard drugs, but would imagine the same sorts of euphoria from them ) and I'm planning a home birth this time.

Definitely had a panic in the run-up to labour though, and also stressed about why someone would be daft enough to trust me with a tiny little newborn!

I'm a bit frightened too. Tis tiny little thing that I can barely feel fluttering will one day go to school, sit exams, get a job, maybe have babies to it's own. And I will be responsible for looking after it through all of that, ahhhhhh!

I've decided the best thing is to just focus on my next midwife appointment or I would be properly freaked out. I am sure I am not grown up enough for this...

I think we all have a moment or two of panic, having a baby is such a life changing moment and yes in my experience perfectly natural. But equally labour is natural too, your body instinctively seems to know what to do.

It's normal to panic. When I had dd, the midwife said "your baby will be here in 5 minutes!" And I just thought "WHAAAAT? NOW? Oh FUCK I'm having a baby!" It was as if the thought hadn't really occurred to me properly before that moment.
You'll be fine. Really.
Yes, rent a TENS machine.

After feeling the first kicks in the past few days, I'm definitely having my first few panic moments. It's definitely in there now because I can feel it moving. You'll be alright though, and so will I. One thing is for certain...your baby will definitely come out!

Urg but what if it kills us doing it?

It's going to hurt. I don't like pain! I wouldn't sign up to an assault course with big jumps that could break my ankle or offer a bunch of paintballers to shoot at my face.

What was I thinking?!

Oh God, I get irritated when I have to feed the cats or dh. I'm 36, I'm way too set in my ways and selfish to have a baby.

With modern medicine, the chance of dying is stupendously low, so get that out of your brain.

Yes, it will hurt like fuck knows what. But if it didn't prove to be worth it, humans would have died out...without the good parts of having a baby, we'd have all gotten sterilised rather than go through it for no reason. And your body knows what to do...it will get you from one contraction to the next and won't let you wimp out

And all first timers are shit scared of being a bad mum. I know I am. I certainly don't want to look at myself in 15 years and see me giving my baby a childhood like mine. But you being scared of it means you won't let it happen.

Now, calm yourself with ice cream. I have a milkshake craving. It's a right bitch.

Calming with ice cream sounds good.

I just wish this little freak out had come a bit earlier! I'm too uncomfortable to start pacing around. :)