Fears about being a parent!

[SweetPea86]

Hi I'm pregnant with my first child. My hubby and I had planned it and I fell pretty much straight away. Talked about it for about a year and a half before we tried.

I'm so excited and can't wait and my hubby will be an amazing dad.

But I'm not an overly maternal women lol lots of my friends when a baby is around they seem to be so natural with them were as I feel like I don't have a clue.

In my family my sister and I were the babies so I have never grew up with any babies in the family.

I'm worried that because I'm like this I won't bond with baby and will be awkward. I don't want to let my lovely man down to he's so natural with children and they love him.

Any body had fears like this does it go away when baby is born.

Can't advise but very similar situation to you and feel exactly the same.

I think this is quite a common fear during pregnancy but honestly once u meet your little one all those worries will vanish. And u say in your post that u are so excited and can't wait so I'm sure all will be fine. My sister is not very maternal towards babies or children and is always declaring "I never want kids" weirdo lol but she is amazing with my son and cannot wait for my current bump to arrive so just because u don't feel anything towards other babies it is completely different to ur own/or one in ur immediate family

Please please don't worry, you will "get it"

At the moment you have all these hormones, hopes and fears swishing around inside - it is no wonder that you are worried. But you are completely normal and everyone feels like this - even if they don't say it. Bet you that your DH is also worried too.

Even once your LO arrives, you'll still probably feel a bit shell shocked, but you get to know your baby - what he/she is really like - over the weeks/months/years. And you fall in love with them more and more as you get to know them (yes even when they really really try your patience)

Take time now to enjoy the last few months of child free ness (dinners, cinema, quiet reading and lie ins)

I never wanted children, not in the least bit maternal, I'd never held a baby. Fell pregnant accidentally, was completely terrified as I had no clue what to do about it all!

Fast forward 3 years, I'm now a SAHM with baby 2 on the way, I absolutely love my life and my son, can't wait for my daughter to be here! Still not overly keen on other people's children, but its so different with your own!

It's different when it's your own baby/ child. You will be fine.

rockchick I could of wrote that post about my dp he was exactly the same and still doesn't really like being round other people's children.

Thanks ladies that's really comforting to hear. And at least I'm not the only one to dislike other children lol not all I'm no monster lol I think it's my hormones and the fear of the unknown :)

OP - I could have easily written this post! In exactly the same situation. Fluctuate daily between excitement and abject terror. Feel free to PM me if you want to chat.