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Talk about every stage of pregnancy, from early symptoms to preparing for birth.

just got a positive test, freaking out.

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stella30 · 25/10/2013 11:59

I just feel so alone and I need someone to talk to. I was in a relationship for 9 years and deeply in love, but my partner died of a sudden heart attack. I deeply regretted not having children with him and was terrified that I never would. 3 years later, still grieving, but found myself in a very unstable relationship with a man who unknown to me seems to have some serious mental health problems (schizophrenia?). I knew it wasn't right, but I suppose I have been vulnerable. We had an argument and broke up, but then my period was late and just got a positive test this morning. I feel so confused. I should be over the moon, but I am in a very bad place financially, I am terrified about a man like that being in my child's life, and I know that my parents (who are lovely, but old fashioned) will be extremely shocked and upset by this news. I didn't even tell anyone I was with this guy, because of the guilt I felt over my partner who died. I'm an emotional wreck and I just needed to get this off my chest.

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CluelessNewbie1 · 25/10/2013 12:07

I have nothing useful to add but I wanted you to know you are not alone. Someone will be along shortly to offer you good advice. You will not be the only person who has been/is currently going through this situation. And what ever you choose to do, you will be fine.

Sammi1986 · 25/10/2013 12:39

I'm so sorry you've been through so much. Do you have anyone that you could talk to in person? We are here for support if you need it xx

stella30 · 25/10/2013 13:02

No, I have no one I can really talk to at the moment. I am thinking of talking to my brother, as he's someone I trust, but he is traveling for the next few days and not contactable. I have made an appointment to see my GP today. I just feel terrified. Thanks for replying to me.

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CluelessNewbie1 · 25/10/2013 13:06

How do you feel - ignoring everyone else's reactions?

Sammi1986 · 25/10/2013 13:50

Put aside worries about reactions or the man, do you want this baby? Xx

RaRa1988 · 25/10/2013 14:09

Sorry to hear you're going through this, OP. I would advise talking to someone in real life - if they're just a sounding board for your ideas rather than giving you any advice - so speak to your brother if you can. As Sami said above, do you want a baby? Do you want this man's baby? If you do, everything else can be overcome. It probably won't be easy, but there are ways.

Xenadog · 25/10/2013 16:01

stella the first thing I would say is don't panic. You still have time to sort your head out and make the right decision for you. The instinct is to go into panic and think: "I have to make a decision NOW about the rest of my life!" And the truth is you do have some time to process and think through what you want to do.

It's good you have a doctor's appointment as they will be able to give you your choices and probably arrange for some immediate pregnancy counselling - you may have to ask for this - to help you talk through options.

I wish you well.

stella30 · 26/10/2013 23:04

I have been to talk to my GP and am going for a counselling session on Monday. I am also planning to tell my brother tomorrow, but feeling terrified. I saw the father today, but still haven't told him.

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