feel like nobody cares!!

[jessandalfie]

I had my 20 week scan today and I feel on top of the world all I want to do it talk about how great it was seeing how much the baby has grown but apart from my mum and partner nobody has even text or rang to see how everything went. Feel like nobody wants to talk about my pregnancy I feel as soon as I talk about my baby to someone the subject is being changed am I just being stupid, or does anybody else feel like this??

Congratulations on a fabulous scan!

My friend had a scan today & I waited all day to hear from her! I would never ring or text just in case something wasn't right & she wanted her space.

People have also waited for me to tell them how my 12-week scan went rather than asking 'just in case'

Could this Be the case do you think? Maybe you have friends glued to their phones waiting for the beep!

Congratulations

I think sometimes people don't want to ask how it's gone just in case something was wrong. I would call my sister or best friend but I'd wouldn't want to intrude otherwise. I'd love it if they sent me a pic though!

When you are pregnant it is, quite rightly, hard to think of anything but your baby. It's called primary maternal preoccupation and means that on a deep instinctive level you prepare to be a mother (nesting etc.) Other people who haven't been pregnant might not realise, even if they have they may have forgotten.

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At first I thought that might be the case but once I was home and spoke to my mum I put the picture on my bbm profile and wrote a comment saying my beautiful princess still no1 wrote to me. I probably sound really stupid ino but if it was one of my freinds I would want to be there for them and talk to them about there pregnancy, and as you said be waiting with my phone in my hand when they had there scan x

I had 20 week scan today too, its my second baby so perhaps I am less excited but I was quite worried about scan so didn't tell many people, I also am trying to avoid giving an exact due date as can't bear the thought of people testing to tell me baby is overdue, as I think by that point I will be quite aware of that!
I agree with posters above, I would love to hear positive news from a friend about a scan but probably wouldn't ask, my best friend didn't tell me her scan date, so we just caught up on the details when we next met up? maybe I am weird

testing meant to say texting

This is also my second child maybe that's why no1 is that interested this time, but I find it more exciting as I know what to expect this time and also tried for 2 years to concieve x

Feeling exactly the same here. To be honest I feel like I'm boring everyone talking about it; even my parents (stupid I know!) dh's family don't ask much, well FIL doesn't really. Whether it's because he's not interested or isn't comfortable asking about a baby growing inside me I don't know

I've kept it very quiet from most people and we've only spread the word to family and close friends. I didn't want to publicly announce it on Facebook; I don't want people to look at me as one of those new mums that plasters every little thing about their child on the internet. Maybe I'm weird, but I feel it's right.

Yeah I'm glad someone feels the same as me I feel the same about facebook to and only have 5 contacts on my bbm and 1 of them is my mum lol so my pregnancy is pretty quiet to I don't think freinds of freinds need to know my buisness so I'm with u on that 1 lol x

Some of the people I have as friends know 'everyone' in my old home town too so tbh I don't want gossip starting (not that I have anything to hide, I'll be wanting to show my baby off to everyone but again won't be plastering pictures all over the internet) it pees me off when all I see is little Harry eating his tea, or asleep in bed. Yes it's lovely, but 99% of children do what little Harry does!

Most of us regularly complain about how annoying it is when people only talk/ask about the baby!

People can't win...

With me it also goes the other way, I feel I can't talk to anyone honestly about it! I'm a member of a private group on Facebook of mumsnet mums due around April next year, it's great to talk to people who are around the same point and understand the little things! Xx

Jess- have felt so similar during my pregnancy too (34 weeks now).1 of my eldest and best friends has been totally useless- yes she has got engaged but she'll send emails/texts asking me for advice and tips with wedding planning and not even bother to ask how I am, however casually. She knew I was having my 20 week scan- and only asked about it weeks after. Her reaction when I told her I was pg was complete anti climax.

Other friends have been better but still not quite what I'd expected, and don't even get me started on the public/commuters generally, they really couldn't't give a sh%^ to mind out of my way/not bump into me/offer me a seat- despite my now pretty huge bump. By far the nicest people apart from DP and mum have been my lovely work colleagues, who have been really excited for me. It sucks but focus on the amazing adventure ahead for you

When, i had my scan i was so excited and i felt quite hurt when my two close friends didnt show much interest. It felt as tho i was bothering them with my excitement. I can only think its because they havent had kids themselves and either dont understand or something?

I don't think other people's pregnancies are that exciting and I find it quite annoying when people constantly post updates about their pregnancies or their children. Obviously these things are important to the people themselves, as they should be, but why do I care that you're child ate solids for the first time? Sure, some people, especially those closest to you do probably care, but most people don't. Those without children won't understand the relevance of a 20 week scan anyway and those with children have probably been there/done that so often with other important milestones that this one pales in comparison.

It can also feel like you're rubbing it in if you have friends who are single or who have problems TTC. I would love to blast every detail of my pregnancy all over FB but I'm going to try to restrain myself and keep it to the most important details. Or maybe I'll just go ahead and do it anyway