5 weeks pregnant (IVF) after MC - is sex ok?

[Chocolatemolehill]

Hello ladies. I'm 5w+4d pregnant. It's an IVF pregnancy after two previous miscarriages. Is it ok for me to have sex? The doctors don't seem too worried but I'm wondering whether, with my history, there may be some potential risks? Are the post-orgasm cramps not going to do any damage? Or maybe I should wait till 7th week or even 2nd trimester?
I'd be grateful to hear your opinions/experiences! Very keen to resume normal sex life but don't want to take any risks!

Congrats! I can understand your nervousness about being pg after MC (sorry to hear about those), but unless your previous MC were due to incompetent cervix I don't think there's a medical reason you can't have sex - your doctors are going to be a better guide than a bunch of people on the Internet! Post-orgasmic braxton hicks (which can feel quite full-on) are considered quite normal and not harmful later on so not sure why it would be any different in the early stages when your uterus is pretty much the same shape and size it is normally. I hope it all goes well and you can relax. Ultimately you have to do what feels right for you.

Thanks Quodlibet. The problem is I don't know why the previous miscarriages happened - they happened early (6 weeks) and were never investigated.
I've had a lot of mismanaged care and conflicting advice from different doctors in the past and wanted to check what recommendations other people received.

If you are worried then I'd just abstain from sex. I'm 19+6 now and I didn't have sex until I was about 14wks. Not because I was worried about miscarriage, just because I didn't fancy it!

It's understandable that you are going to be feeling like this given your circumstances. Maybe wait until your first scan before having sex to give yourself peace of mind.

Given its IVF and after a MC I can only imagine how sensitive and anxious you are probably feeling?
Have tbh and say if I had had either of these experiences- touch wood have not and feel very grateful- I would probably shy away from sex during the majority of pregnancy. That can wait... Is it really worth any risk however small and having you having anxious feelings afterwards?
Every time we have during this pregnancy (am 34 weeks) I feel weird afterwards and convinced the pressure or weird positions etc. etc. may have caused a bad reaction.
We do roughly twice a month now and may get a few more times max in before the birth but really cant be bothered with the effort of it all!

Chocolate your IVF team haven't warned you to abstain though? Do you have a history of bleeding after sex?
While some people abstain because they don't feel secure enough to do it, I don't think there is any evidence that sex is harmful or risky for most people. Personally I have not been troubled by having sex despite a previous MMC (my pg stopped developing around 6 weeks, no idea why, discovered at 12 wk scan).

HotCrossPun - I definitely feel like it! But at the same time am very worried.

Jamimastar - you are right, I'm panicking and every day manage to convince myself that it's going to end up in a miscarriage again.

Quodlibet - they didn't say to abstain. And no, no bleeding after sex history. Maybe it's ok then, medically, and I'm just panicking. I'm trying to lead a normal life but at the same it's so difficult not to worry.

Quodlibet - I'm very sorry about your loss. But you are PG now, are you?

Jemimastar - congratulations on your pregnancy! Hope it all goes well!

Hi chocolate,
I have recently has IVF. I read on the internet that some IVF clinics advise against having orgasms until well into the pregnancy, because women's progesterone levels tend to be lower in IVF pregnancies due to the stimming medication, and they think that progesterone may stop the uterus contracting during orgasms after ovulation and in early pregnancy. My clinic said it was fine to have sex, that there is no evidence for or against this (having sex during an IVF pregnancy), its just the opinion of different Drs. Good luck with your pregnancy.

hi not ivf related multiple miscarriages and my consultant told us no sex until late pregnancy just to be safe i.e. if it it bring anything on the could intervene unlike early pregnancy.

Sleepingdragon, JoJoH1 - thank you. That's what I meant - there are lots of different, confusing opinions out there. I guess if some medics think it's better not to I may wait until later. Better to be safe than sorry...