The unacknowledged grief of miscarriage

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An upcoming anniversary prompted me to write about my experience with miscarriage...
Story Of A Miscarriage (Part 1)
Story Of A Miscarriage (Part 2) What No One Tells You
Simply sharing what happened can make it easier on others.

I thought this was very good and if you haven't already, I think it needs to go on the miscarriage forum.

Thank you. I didn't see a miscarriage forum, could you post a link and I'll add it.

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/miscarriage

This is such a good read and so beautifully written. I can relate perfectly to your feelings and the term 'unacknowledged' is so fitting with miscarriage. Because really who else does give a crap, you get the odd person who is truly there for you and happy to listen otherwise you are met with the most insensitive comments and several "get over it" statements! Its coming up to the year anniversary of our loss and yeah its been a year but it still devastates me, I should have an almost 6 month old not empty arms but who else cares aside from my hubby and I?
I am so sorry for your loss and thank you for sharing your story x

Thanks for your supportive comments. Not an easy subject but just talking brings soooo much relief. It is a very isolating experience and there will always be a part of me that wonders what our family would have been like if...
Thanks for the link - have posted there too.
Please do stop by and leave a comment on the blog, however short. Talking about this to a wall of silence is an excruciating experience you have rescued me from. I'm immensely grateful xxx

Thank you for sharing your story.

I recently attended a service organised by Saying Goodbye. I'm not remotely religious but found it very comforting to sit in beautiful surroundings with so many other people who had also lost babies during pregnancy, at birth or in infancy. I cried far more than I expected, but it felt like I was doing something necessary for myself and my lost babies.

Perhaps you could get in touch with Saying Goodbye, or follow them on Facebook?

Reading about your experience brought me right back to the place I was when I experienced a MMC at the end of last February.

I had, had 5 healthy & normal pregnancies. It was a hideous shock to find out my little baby had died.

The reactions I received from my close family, sisters, mother, dp & friends affected me deeply. Some of those relationships no longer exist.

The mmc changed me. I ached for my baby. The only thing that helped was time & another pregnancy. It wasn't until my 20 week scan with this current pregnancy thst I realised I was going to have a baby...

The pain never totally goes away-we just learn to manage it & carry on...there's not much else you can do.

That's a really touching blog, thanks for sharing.

The pain is unacknowledged. I broke apart when I miscarried, and I was fortunate to be surrounded by loving friends and family. The level of grief was entirely unexpected and so painful. Little things still hurt, like being called a mummy when pregnant now, I was a mummy before too.

I second the suggestion about saying goodbye. They've really given me hope with their tweets and blogs. I'd love to go to one of their services.