Partner says he's happy but I'm not sure

[franiewood]

Hi all I'm new to mumsnet!
I'm 31 weeks gone with our 1st me and my fiancé have been together for 4 years and got pregnant by accident, the pill decided not to work!! But straight away it felt right in my heart, he was shocked but happy we decided to go ahead.
As the weeks past he is just not bothered he makes an excause everytime I say come feel the baby kick, he hates every name I come up with yet never gives a suggestion and hasn't lift a finger with the nursery. He comes to the anti natal appointments but looks board.
When it comes to me having a bad day, been suffering with my legs, and feeling tired he just doesn't care, Infact last night I got an earful because I ate an extra bit of garlic bread and his lunch wasn't done, btw I work full time also. But if I tell him I'm resting he thinks that's an excause and expects me to cook and clean but I'm so tired, ive tried speaking but it's always an argument. What doesn't help is the last thing I want is sex but I'm I being emotional or does he need to step up to the mark?

Didn't want to read and run.

Your fiance needs to step up to the mark! No excuses for that behaviour!! What was your relationship like before you got pregnant?

I don't have much to say. But I think hr definitely needs to stop up! Making a baby is hard I've found it exhausting. Dont worry about the sex thing. I have has any since about 23 weeks and I'm 30+5 now!

You need to sit down and have a chat with him. Ot write down how you feel abd give it to him ( I did that with my dp.. Seeing the words helped him understand more) ..

Sometimes men just take a little but longer to adjust because they can't feel the changes that are happening.
Make sure you talk to him
We have a December thread In yhe ante-natal club bit. Your welcome to join and have a moan we are all very friendly :)

Haven't had any** predict text will be the death of me lol

Relationship was fine before I was pregnant, I think I'm really starting to notice his behaviour for example when I'm round friends and family they would run round after me while he would never do that, not that I expect it but its noticeable!
I'm going to wright this down when we talk we end up going off on another subject and thanks Stom91 ill take a look at the thread

If im honest my dp didn't take notice of how exhausted I was until I ended up in hospital while he was abroad in Hungary! Since then he's been more on my wave length and makes sure im ok..

I'm not saying you news to end up in hospital! Lol
I'm just saying sometimes it takes something for men to take notice..... DP was treating me like crap a couple weeks ago.. We had a massive chat/argument / cry (the crying was me) but he finally took notice and saw how bad he'd treated me... Just the little things... He apologised and realised what he had done.. Got me a lovely bunch or roses (he never buys me flowers) and since then we've been fine again..

I really hope you manage to sort it out. But make sure you talk/write it down.. Before it gets worse xxx