New job and pregnant: your opinion please!

[Ikabod]

I'll start with a bit of background: I had a mc in May after trying for ages, then found out I have PCOS and ovarian drilling was the best way forward. So I had it done privately at the end of August. While I was recovering I was made redundant and "let go" immediately. I managed to get a new job pretty quickly but after a pretty gruelling process (3 interviews, 2 rounds of tests and a presentation - for a PA that's intense!). I started my new job on Monday and found out yesterday I was pregnant. Obviously this is great news for DH and I, but I'm worried about my new employer's reaction. I have a post-op follow up at the end of Oct, so could tell them after that, but when? What do I tell them? How much do I tell them, baring in mind the added complications PCOS can bring in pregnancy... What do you think?

Hi Ikabod
I have had 4 mcs and also have PCOS, I quit my job and a few weeks later found out I was pregnant, the job I changed to, was horrible and really stressed me out so myself and DH decided best I quit as stress could cause another mc.
I went for an interview for a new fantastic job, the interview went so well I told them I was pregnant, even though I was only 10 wks and scared I could still lose it, I am now 38wks pregnant and on my mat leave from that job, they were so pleased I was honest at interview they thought it showed I could be trusted etc, I didn't go into details of my history I just told them I was pregnant.
No need to tell them anymore than that if you don't feel comfortable doing so. Good luck to you for your new job and your pregnancy.
:)

Congratulations! You don't need to tell anyone til much later in pregnancy. If you can cope with morning sickness & early pg tiredness, prob best to keep quiet until you have had the 20 week anomaly scan..

Because you're so early on and in light of your history, I think you should keep it to yourself, at least until you've had your first scan and possibly a bit later if you can manage it. You may not have a choice, if you start showing early, but cross that bridge when you get to it.

Congratulations!

It's not ideal but life isn't always ideal. You could have waited years. The law supports you and frankly, unless we want to go back to the 50's, your employers will just have to suck it up. Leave it for now.
Your baby will be paying their pensions!

Oh congratulations as well!

I'm going to go the opposite and say tell them. Not on Monday but certainly by the end of the week. Legally you're protected, they can't sack you or treat you any less favourably because you're pregnant and once they know you're pregnant they can make any reasonable adjustments necessary and carry out a proper H&S risk assessment to make sure that no parts of your job pose a risk to you or your baby.

I started a new job and just eight weeks later found out I was pregnant. I also have PCOS and have had two mcs (one at 6w, one at 15w), I also have two DCs who were 3yo and 1yo at the time (now just turned 4yo and 2yo). It took me three years to get pregnant first time and at least six months each for DS and DD then after all of that, DH and I DTD unprotected once (on my birthday, embarrassingly enough) and that once was all it took. Good job we wanted another one :o

I told work pretty much straight away, in private, I also told them my history in case of another mc. They changed some of my duties slightly - no lifting anything heavier than a single file and so on - and got a risk assessment done.

I'm 22w now and I'm treated no differently to anyone else on the team (except that if I need anything lifting/carrying I get half a dozen other people offering to do it for me!), I've even been offered a new (better) contract with them.

Thanks everyone for the advice. I think I'll sit tight for now and keep quiet. Its still really early days (5 weeks) so I've got loads of time yet to sus things out. Thankfully so far no morning sickness or tiredness, which helps!

Purple84 congratulations, and I hope everything goes well. ??