Anyone else on a sex ban??

[Writerwannabe83]

Due to 3 episodes of bleeding which pretty much started soon after my BFP, me and hubby haven't actually had sex since our TTC days and are under strict instructions not to have sex until after my 20 week scan and only if my Consultant is happy there are no problems with my placenta

So we have not had sex since mid June

I'm 16 weeks at the moment so potentially only another 4 weeks to go but I'm hating it!

Has anyone else been through this?
How did you manage the frustration??

Not on a sex ban, but it's just happened organically that we've ...stopped.
Are you allowed to masturbate?

I have no idea, lol. I couldn't quite bring myself to ask my midwife...

We're not on a sex ban, but I've been too sick to even contemplate it. We do plenty of cuddles instead. DH is being very good about it!

Definitely ask if you can - at least that would deal with some of the frustration! :)

Why not just ask if other non penetrative sexual activities are allowed if asking about masturbation embarrasses you? The midwife should then point out if you climaxing is a problem. I know it would embarrass me to ask too, daft as it is

'Non penetrative sexual activities' sounds like a very grown up term actually, I reckon I could ask about those without blushing

I really wish I had a friend who was a midwife who I could go running to with all the embarrassing questions...

It's rotten isn't it? Due to various complications DH and I haven't DTD since about 6 weeks, am now 32+6. Frustrated doesn't quite cover it.

We haven't dtd since ttc not for any reason other than me being irrationally worried itd do damage. And if I bled afterwards I'd be so upset and cross with myself. Yes irrational. But we're having plenty of non-penetrative stuff 12+5

Does the sex ban include an oral sex ban? I think I'd still want to be giving it to him, even if I couldn't receive.

DD2 is 3 today and when I was pregnant I was diagnosed ith placenta praevia at 21 weeks. We were put on a sex ban, so in theory that was 19 weeks plus 6 post delivery. Pretty much 6 months!

DD2 was 4 weeks early, everything was fine.

We utilised non penetrative amusements.........

So orgasms are fine then? Just no penetration?

You need to check for your own individual case- orgasms not always fine due to the uterine cramping that can follow which could be more problematic than irritation to your cervix.

Well I gave myself a 'gentle treat' last night and no adverse effects yet

Not on a sex ban from the docs but I'm on a sex ban from dp... We haven't DTD for months and I suggested last night and he says he doesn't want to until after the lil one is here as it's too weird for him... I'm 30 weeks so potentially adding the 6 weeks after birth it could be 16 weeks until we do it again.... Its driving me crazy! I don't like it often but it's been so long.. A woman has needs lol

Blimey Stom!!!

When I was much younger I went out with somebody who was in the Marines so we obviously spent quite some time apart and once, before he had to leave for 2 months he gave me the sweetest goodbye present: a vibrator and a box of 100 long life batteries, haha

Just something to think about

Haha! That's really cute!! Lol...

I actually bought a small one from Ann summers... It came on Saturday and do asked what is was (he picked up the post was a pain package)... I told him it was his Xmas present someone touch.. Lol...

I feel bad telling him i got it.. I don't want him to think I'm replacing him.. Cos 1 it's tiny and 2, I like sex with dp lol....

I just want to feel close to him.. But it's weird for him which I understand..

No proper sex ban here... But bled through pregnancy with DD & had miscarriage in June. If I bled after sex we've both said we'd never forgive ourselves. And, I know it sounds awful but I just can't be arsed!!!! Poor hubs, I know, I know...