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when did your DH give up drinking?

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Toowittoowoo · 11/10/2013 22:34

Just enjoying a glass of wine with DH at 35 week PG with DC2 and it suddenly occurred to me that maybe he should be sober enough to drive?

Can remember when he gave up drinking with DD1 but as she was 2 weeks late I think we have lulled into a false sense of security.

I should add that he is not getting drunk - just you know, it is a friday night and he has had a couple of glasses of wine which is enough not to drive.

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HotCrossPun · 11/10/2013 22:37

I don't understand the question! Sorry OP

ilovepowerhoop · 11/10/2013 22:38

I dont remember dh giving up drinking tbh

ilovepowerhoop · 11/10/2013 22:39

p.s. our maternity hospital is in our town so we could have phoned a taxi if required

Shellywelly1973 · 11/10/2013 22:43

Dp doesn't drink every day...

He didn't give up drinking.

Mogz · 11/10/2013 22:48

I've just had this discussion with my DH this evening, he's not much of a drinker but every now and then will have an ale or glass of wine in the evening, we've agreed that one I'm 36 weeks he will stop as we live an hour away from the hospital with not a cats chance in hell of getting a taxi.

AnythingNotEverything · 11/10/2013 22:49

From about 37 and a half weeks my DH has made sure he can drive at all times. I'd rather he didn't have anything, but this is a decent compromise.

MummyLuce · 11/10/2013 23:01

Err never!! That's what taxis are for right?!

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Toowittoowoo · 11/10/2013 23:25

Sorry thread title should have read

'When did your DP give up drinking if he was responsible for driving you to the hospital when labour started'.

I am ashamed to say that this time it has not crossed my mind until now!

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Anothermrssmith · 11/10/2013 23:53

I live about an hour from the local maternity hospital and have no family near by that could drive us thete so have 'informed' my husband that I will be enforcing a strict alcohol ban incase we need to do a mad dash to the hospital from about 36weeks.

Unfortunately for him 36 weeks is Christmas week!

Being induced at 38 weeks so chances are there will be no need to rush to the hospital but knowing my luck he would do his usual Christmas night with the boys, get hammered and I would go into labour!

PumpkinPie2013 · 12/10/2013 09:05

Not quite there yet (only 33 weeks) and my DH doesn't drink much at all - most nights nothing and occassionally 1 beer/glass of wine.

He said from 36 weeks he will make sure he is always under the legal limit for being able to drive.

We are only about 30 mins from hospital but we live in a very rural spot so trying to explain to a taxi driver where we are would be difficult.

Excited85 · 12/10/2013 09:11

Mine cut back at 38 weeks, which was pretty much his decision but obviously I was very happy with that. Yes there are taxis but why should we have to give over our bodies for 9 months to grow a whole baby and the men get away with absolutely no change to lifestyle?! I'm sure giving up the drink for a couple of weeks to be a supportive and fully aware partner at the labour isn't too much to ask!

Soupqueen · 12/10/2013 09:11

He hasn't. He doesn't drive anyway and we're a 10 minute taxi ride from the hospital.

However, he has only been having 1 or 2 when he does have a drink from about 37 weeks - so that he isn't a tipsy or hungover birthing partner!

cravingcake · 12/10/2013 09:29

Last time my DH and I agreed that around 35 weeks he would cut back enough so that even though he may have been over the limit to drive he would still be sober enough to still be able to remember it and be helpful during labour. As it turned out my waters broke when he was 5 hours drive away with work when I was 38 weeks.

This time I'm due at the end of January and it will probably be the same, around Christmas time he will have to cut back (he is a big drinker) just in case we need to go in. We are lucky to have family that can drive us at any time and we are only 10 minutes from hospital. Plus I'm having an ELCS this time too so hopefully it wont be needed.

I just laid on the guilt trip about how if he was too drunk to remember his own child's birth, or to support me when I really needed it etc then how would he feel.

duchesse · 12/10/2013 09:33

He didn't. Neither of us drinks much anyway (maybe one glass of wine of an evening) so would have been fine to drive anyway. Two of em were home births, and one was born in very non-standard circumstances after I'd been in hospital for a few days anyway.

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Toowittoowoo · 12/10/2013 09:56

36 weeks seems quite sensible then. He obviously doesn't mind in the slightest but it was funny last night as he was finishing his second glass of wine and I was feeling the effects after my half a glass that we suddenly realised that it may not have been the most sensible thing!

Although taxis are indeed a possibility in an emergency we have DD1 to deal with so it is all a bit more complicated.

DD1 was induced at 42 weeks so we never had the mad dash to the hospital. I have been considering that if I think labour is real possibility then I should probably make some effort to pack my hospital bag too!

Next week....definitely next week!

Cheers all for your thoughts.

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SolitudeSometimesIs · 12/10/2013 09:57

There will be a ban introduced as soon as I'm 4 weeks away from my due date, sadly for him that is December, but I don't care. We live 30 mins away from the hospital but the traffic around that area can make it over an hours journey- it's all one way systems and at rush hour it can be complete gridlock.

He seems ok with it, but it's not really a choice. I haemorraged very badly with DS 1 and we're not willing to take any risks.

Igloofornow · 12/10/2013 10:08

36 weeks for my first but much more laid back with second and didn't even think about it with third induced every time at 42 weeks so wasn't a problem anyway.

Blankiefan · 12/10/2013 17:45

I'm 36 weeks and DH had his final "sesh" last weekend (to be fair, he only goes out with the boys a few times a year - I broke him out of his bachelor-level drinking ability some time ago )

He might have an occasional beer now but not more than one...

MultipleMama · 13/10/2013 08:43

DH and I are both Straight Edge which really came in handly as all my DC were born before their due dates! Haha.

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