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10 weeks pregnant and no other mummies to talk to.

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loveLife14 · 10/10/2013 11:10

Hi ladies,

I am looking for some reassurance really. I am around 10 weeks pregnant this week and I just feel like I have no one to talk to.

My husband and I have decided not to tell anyone until after our first scan (which is not until the end of the month!), but I just wish I had another lady to talk too.

I have been feeling really awful. very queasy but not sick, although I've had a funny tummy every morning instead. I always seem to feel sick in the morning, but man, by 4-6pm I am wiped out. I have to lie on the sofa and not move for fear of being sick, or I just go to bed and try to sleep through it. I just feel so miserable.

Also, I love my husband so much but jeez, he is getting on my nerves over the last few weeks. I can't even think about sex because it makes me feel sick. I'm not even that interested in having a cuddle, all I want is for him to rub my feet or back. I know he is trying to be supportive but I just wish I would feel myself again. Will I?

I haven't touched the housework for ages or can be bothered to cook any dinner! I am trying to eat healthy but because of feeling sick, I can only stomach certain things. I used to love food.

I really enjoyed my exercise but can't face that at the moment because my tummy is so unsettled.

Also, I am so thirsty. Did anyone else experience that?

As you can tell, I am a walking ball of misery. I can't even believe there is a baby in my tummy making me feel like this too! It doesn't feel real yet. I am now worrying about the scan in case there is something wrong. I am not sure I can bear going through the first trimester again :(

Will I ever feel myself again? I feel like a shell of my former self.

Any advice or just reassurance would be wonderful xxx

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okavango · 10/10/2013 11:15

Didn't want to read and run. It sounds perfectly normal I'm afraid, the first trimester is hard core but you should perk up soon. I have been thirsty throughout and am now 36 weeks. just be kind to yourself and ignore the housework etc for a couple more weeks.

K8eee · 10/10/2013 11:30

Lovelife first of all congratulations! I am pg with baby number 1 and am 16+4 weeks. I totally sympathise with you as many other mummy's to be will also know how you're feeling. I have had sickness and nausea along with some really awful headaches. It's only been the last 2/3 weeks that I have felt thirsty but keep your fluids up. Your midwife should be keeping an eye on the amount of sugar in your wee so that can hopefully rule out gestational diabetes if you have any worries with that.

Tiredness is a killer and I too avoided cooking and housework. I just about managed to put washing on, but honestly it should get better for you. I hope it does. Now I'm 16 weeks I am feeling a lot better, only being sick 2/3 time a week at most thank god.

I don't have any friends or family that live on my door step so I too find it difficult to get advice or help but your midwife is the best person for any advice I would say.

Good luck and I hope it gets better!

woollysocksaresexy · 10/10/2013 11:41

You sound just like me!
First trimester was been the hardest bit for me. HG, scan fear, unable to move due to exhaustion and vomiting yet being expected to carry on as normal, DH and my parents got bored of me being so miserable (and let me know that I was being a total pain) and was unable to talk to anyone else about things. For me, this all added up to the most isolating, unhappy time of my life. And pregnant fury like no other! The fury has continued, on and off ever since, how bad it is depending on how crap I'm feeling.
Things will improve very soon for you. Some people feel wonderful when they get to the 2nd trimester, others still feel rubbish, but a million times better still than before. Everyone is different, but even being able to talk about things with other people for me felt like a huge relief and like a weight had been lifted off my shoulders.

Hope this helps, you are really not alone!

Rockchick1984 · 10/10/2013 11:47

Congratulations! Have a look on the antenatal groups topic, there will be a thread for people due the same month as you. Was a complete lifesaver for me, particularly in the early days where you can't really talk to anyone about it!

Minions · 11/10/2013 06:59

Hello, sorry you're feeling so rubbish but you're definitely not alone. There's a whole pile of us on the Maybies (due in May) feeling the same way as you! Come join us for a moan and to feel more normal

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/antenatal_clubs/1875623-Due-in-May-2014-The-Maybies-Roll-On-Together-Come-Join-Us?pg=9

It's helped me :)

brettgirl2 · 11/10/2013 07:32

If you want to tell someone then tell them. I'm afraid that full equality in pregnancy and child birth will only happen when men have to go through it. It's happening to your body not his.

mummybearah · 11/10/2013 13:32

Congratulations!!

I totally understand how you feel; my partner didnt want to tell anyone till three months and I felt totally alone! I agree with brettgirl.

If you need to speak to someone, please do, you will feel much better after having the support.

With regards to the sickness- I was exactly the same. A ball of misery-awful! Happy to say towards the end of first trimester I starting loving food again and felt much better! Don't worry it gets much better, chin up! :)

moobaloo · 11/10/2013 17:28

Congratulations!

I'm 7+5 and know exactly how you feel! We are not telling anyone until our scan either and it's so hard making excuses for not drinking etc!

I'm the same, sick but not vomiting, only eating certain things, NO energy at all, working lots of hours unfortunately and tired tired tired. No energy to do housework or cook or be interested in much. In bed asleep at 7pm some nights! Also very thirsty - I've read that your developing baby needs lots of water particularly at this stage so I guess that's why, but it means I have to pee all the time!

Luckily I have this forum, which satisfies my need to talk about what the HELL is happening, even if I don't comment that much I can read all about what everyone else is going though and it helps and definitely join the Maybies!

Sammi1986 · 12/10/2013 11:10

Hi! I felt the same until I joined a group on FB. Are you on Facebook? We are all due around April and we all have a moan or a laugh about anything and everything xxx

Blankiefan · 12/10/2013 17:50

I pretty much hated the first trimester. The fear that it'd go on forever was awful. But... It didn't.

Second trimester was a breeze and whilst the third has been harder work (more tired, becoming huge and related issues, etc); it's still nowhere near as grim as the first trimester.

Good luck with your pregnancy and I hope you have a more gentle 2nd trimester.

Legalbaby79 · 12/10/2013 19:33

Hey , have no fear I m feeling exactly the same at 11 weeks with my scan on 31st. I ve had horrific nausea however that seems to have gone a little. However the tiredness feels like I've been hit with a brick x

Frizz1986 · 12/10/2013 22:06

I felt the same until 16-17 weeks. I wasn't sick just nauseous and exhausted. The house looked shocking and i would just try and quickly clean up in 5 min bursts when i could.
Dh was supportive as we often had to change our meal plans last minute as i would get home from work and want something else.
I am now 27 weeks and feel so much better! I sometimes struggle to remember how pants i felt at the start as its a different story now.

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