Husband not interested in sex

[Aaliyah1]

Sooo my husband(I have no idea how to use the abbreviations on this forum, sorry!) is totally not interested in sex. I'm 13 weeks so physically haven't changed just yet. I think he's freaked out since we had the scan how can I talk him round? He might not want it but I do!

I think this is quite common. I've read a good few threads where posters have said their DH (:)) has been rather put off sex by seeing the baby 'in situ'. ie at the scan. Sometimes it seems to happen when they start feeling baby kick too.

I hope it's temporary OP.

"But honey, if it heals over, how will I push the baby out?"

(Not mocking...I've had the same issue. Try to go about it slowly and gently. Forcing it makes it worse. )

we have same issue. But only recently since ive.gotten huge (32 weeks now). He says he 'doesnt want to hurt the baby'! but he doesnt even get erm.. 'excited' for it anymore. I got all upset last night goin off on a hormonal rant about how he doesnt fancy me anymore cause im fat an pregnant. He said that isnt the case, but i beg to differ. Heres hoping as soon as DD finds her way out we'll be back to normal.. i think with men it can go from one extreme to.the other. Some love pregnant sex, some dont. Thats my theory x

My dh is more than up for it until I hit about 32 weeks then he goes right off it, and he had the cheek to moan about not being allowed sex whilst I was suffering from severe morning sickness. Arsehole :)

Get him drunk and get really filthy...

He won't take much persuasion I'm sure, and he will see it doesn't harm the baby and be fine from then on...?

That's my theory. We had the same issue at first

Im the complete opposite. DP wants sex still at least weekly (more if it was up to him) and im completely put off by it. Im 28 weeks and bless him he says he still thinks i look beautiful :) but i just feel rank and in pain with spd im really not up for it

Glad I'm not the only one. I guess I'll give him some time to get used to things, and try to gently persuade him. I'm just worried that if he's this out off now it will just get worse as I get big

Haha 'if it heals over' will had to try that

Jesus, I hope not! I'm 16 weeks and have been horny as sin since day 1!

Totally sympathise. My last preg (and ages after) my boyf wouldn't dtd and if he did it felt like he was doing out of duty. Still can't work out why, I think it's the preg then bfeeding thing. We had a couple of months of ample sex in the summer after I stopped bfeeding.., which got me preg again...and it's all stopped once more! Grrr. I have tried everything! All he does is ask for a bj then roll over!

I've told mine BJs are bad for the bean. He's a nurse who's worked on maternity so is not impressed with my excuses
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Poor you, my DH refused to DTD from 7 weeks until 41+5 when i was induced. He just did not fancy me pregnant and said it felt wrong. In the end i threw huge strop when he refused to help me do everything to shift our son. There was nothing i could do to change his mind. It was v upsetting.

I completely lost my sex drive through most of my pregnancy, until I went on maternity leave and I'm not as tired anymore. Dp was much happier once I was more up for it!

Now I'm 37 weeks and want to do it all the time to encourage labour he's said no!! How rude!