First time using forum, need to have a good whinge :(

[MumToBe1982]

Hi my names Jess and I'm 31. 13 weeks pregnant with my first child.

I'm over the moon but had serve sickness and nausea for 9 weeks now. I'm on tablets but it's taking it toll. I had a cry at work yesterday as I just felt so ill, my manager turned around and said well your not the first women to feel like this and you won't be the last. Which made me cry even more.

I'm some one who never takes time off work when ill (more fool me) and I really thought work would of been understanding. I just wanted her to say go home your clearly not well instead left to cope on my own.

I'm feeling really depressed and scared about the rest of the pregnancy as if I'm stuggling now what will I be like further on.

Were I work they are really funny on time off for any sickness and when women in the past have been pregnant and off ill straight away bitchy comments go around like oh you would think she was the only women to get pregnant. I know this shit shouldn't bother me and I should just take time off but I can't I would feel guilty.

When I told work they seemed really supportive at first but now they just can't be bothered.

I didn't expect pregnacy to makes me feel depressed , isolated and alone.

I am lucky at home my hubby is very supportive,

Just needed a rant and wonder what other ladies experinces were at work while pregnant

Sickness often gets better after the first trimester. I haven't any advice about your bitchy work mates but I hope you feel better soon.

Hi, it's not much consolation but I am also 13 weeks and super sick. I am a SAHM but with DC1 I was off work from week 5-17. I too felt guilty but I couldn't have gone in. I was hurling everything up and spent those weeks in bed or sat by th loo. Some of us get severe pregnancy sickness and it's not our faults. I am afraid that were you to leave work tomorrow they would have moved on by next week as workplaces must do so don't waste your energy on feeling guilty. You and your baby are the most important people. Do your best for them but don't compromise your health. That is all anyone can ask. Harden your heart to snidey comments, mostly born from jealousy.

And, the sickness totally sucks. Most people don't understand the severity of it and just think you feel a bit sick in the morning. Nothing a bit of ginger won't cure. They have no idea....

Be sick in your managers bin. Repeatedly. All day.

Firstly, welcome and congratulations!

I was seriously ill for the first 14/15 weeks. One day it just stopped. I've been fine the rest if the way through.

Like you I didn't take any time off but was sick all over the place - almost on my managers shoes too!! They were relatively ok to my face but I overheard them bitching about me.

Says more about them than you. Take a couple of days off at the end of the week and have a nice long weekend, or as my colleague did, book the next few Fridays off as holiday to recuperate. It did her the world of good!

Hope this helps, and we are always here to listen to any rants - no judging or bitchyness here (usually!)

Thanks every one and the throwing up in her bin sounds like a bloody good idea. Things are just getting me down all I here are unwanted opinions when not asked for which really just doesn't help lol

Things this last couple of weeks have just got on top me. Once this sickness passes hopefully I will feel better x

Congratulations on being pregnant! Sorry to hear about your work situation, your manager sounds delightful. I was sick up until about 18 weeks and my manager kept asking me when would it ease off and comparing me to other women in the office who were not sick during their pregnancies. I ended up being signed off work a couple of times as I was just so weak and they had to just get over it. I'm 36 weeks now and have been signed off early due to blood pressure and nausea and yet again I was compared to others who managed to work up until very end but I honestly don't care. Baby is so much more important than idiots at work, you have to put yourself first regardless of what they say or think!