BFP - Terrified.

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I've just had a BFP.

I have a 4 yo and a 3 month old.

I can't believe I have been so daft

The condom split one night but I was sure I would be ok taking the risk.

I must be about 6 weeks.

I am so so scared. Dp is going to hit the roof.

I don't know what to do

Oh no, OP. I'm sorry you feel like that. Why would DP 'hit the roof'??? Not like you got pg on your own... Are you scared of him? Have you got someone who can be there when you tell him - if you tell him (nothing wrong with waiting an deciding what you want to do)?

I know that feeling. I fell pg strait away after having dc1 there's 10.5 months between him and dc2. There was a gap of around 16 month between dc2 and 3 then 3 years till I had my dc4 and found out I was pg again when he was 5 month. Dp was never as mad as I thought he would be.

I'm not scared of him absolutely not its just the timing and he was very clear that he didn't want any more dcs.

I'm waiting for my friend to calm me to calm me down.

There's part of me that's but I know I'd have to make a lot of sacrifices to have dc3

Sometimes life throws unexpected things at you. You don't have to go ahead with a pg if you don't want to, but if you do, things will work out; somehow, they always do. You and your DP will make it work. And if you're feeling at least in part, that's great. Don't be scared. You've done it before and you can do it again.

I'm so sorry you are going through this.

Sorry, posted too soon.

You have options, depending on what your thoughts are on adoption/abortion etc.

I'd also remind your partner if he gets cross that it takes two to tango, he hardly prevented you getting pregnant now, did he?

I'm going to wait until I get my head straight before I tell him.

Adoption is a big no. I couldn't do it.

I've always been very anti abortion - I just don't know If I could actually go through with it.

I'll need to move house, get a bigger car, cancel my holiday.... And I'm still on maternity leave.

I actually just told dp when he phoned me. I was upset and I couldn't lie to him.

Hes not happy but he's not angry either. He knows it takes 2. He doesn't want to continue with the pregnancy but he understands it's my body my choice. I'm going to speak to him about it when he comes home.

I've done so much I shouldn't have the past few weeks.

My head is a mess

What do you mean by 'done so much you shouldn't have'? Do you mean like alcohol etc? If so, I believe the placenta doesn't develop until about 6-7 weeks and the foetus is nourished from the corpus luteum up till then, so you shouldn't have passed anything over.

Have a think about what you want to do, and what's best for your whole family. You don't have to decide overnight, and there are plenty of people on MN to support and advise you either way. Hope you're ok.