unprepared and over emotional

[puggywug81]

I am ridiculously over emotional at the moment, I cry at everything and I am really worried that the nursery will never be ready, I'm only 16 weeks so I am totally aware I am over reacting but the room which will eventually become the nursery is floor to ceiling with years of stuff and my other half doesn't seem to want to throw anything out. He either wants to Keep stuff or sell it but is making no effort to find anyone to sell it to. I know we have ages yet and he has been great in every other way but I am freaking out!

Have you told him that?

If it makes you feel any better, I moved house at 38 weeks so nothing was ready at 16 weeks ... but... if stuff needs sorting then it needs sorting. Could you agree to 30 mins a day of sorting/photographing/ebaying until it's clear?

Congrats puggy on your wonderful news

I know how you feel. Admittedly our spare room for the baby wasn't THAT bad but since march the room was full of boxes until July time. Dh had no interest in sorting or moving the stuff, so I decided I'd be brutal and bin things I didn't want and knew he wouldn't use/wear and have tidied everything into our attic bedroom where boxes have been neatly tidied into one corner and dh has a few boxes of his own to sort before the baby arrives. Would this be an option for you to do?

Hello,

I am 16 weeks pregnant and we are moving house on Monday. This is DC2 and we haven't seen quite a lot of our stuff since getting pregnant with DS1 3 years ago, lots of our things have been in storage as our house is too small. I think there are lots of people in similar positions. It is do-able, honestly!

Ebay is your friend - you can sell almost anything, even if it means you don't make a lot of money but someone else has the hassle of collecting your unwanted stuff!

DH can be a bit like this - if you ask him what colour to paint a room, you can't get an opinion out of him at all. If I ask which of these 3 colours he likes, he always has an answer. I suggest you simplify the problem. Lay out his stuff a bit at a time, get him to sort it into keep/sell/throw away or charity piles. Then you can start getting rid of it. You will get there eventually.

Don't forget that you should keep baby in with you until 6 months, so you actually have a year to get it sorted!

Aww honestly try not to worry. I'm 32 weeks now with DC1 and as we have been renovating our house it still feels like there is loads to do.

Baby's room has been our office so we are clearing that at the moment and painting our room and en suite!

Friends of ours are in a similar position as they moved not long before baby was due and the house has quite a lot that needs doing so it wasn't anywhere near 'finished' when baby came. However, they are getting there and the baby is a lovely, happy little boy.

I agree with others break things down into small chunks as it makes it much more manageable rather than trying to do it all at once

Good luck and enjoy x

I think a lot of men might not feel the same urgency as us poor, pregnant and normal women until the baby actually gets here as its a bit of an abstract concept to them. Just have a talk with him and hopefully he'll get a move on.

Aww thankyou so much lovely ladies, think I'm just having a bit of a freak out! He knows it bothers me but I am a natural worrier and he is super laid back. After reading all your replies I feel much more reasured!

I wouldn't worry too much - we relocated when ds was 6wks old so didn't bother getting a room ready for him at all. He had his first proper room at 7mo (after we'd moved again...) and now at 2yo we've just moved into our first home that we own and finally he has a bedroom we have painted

Congrats!

Didn't realise there was a rule about keeping baby in parents bedroom until six months

It's not a rule madame but it's proven to reduce cot death so highly recommended.

This is one of those things that REALLY annoyed me as a new Mum. The HV insisting that you had to have your baby in with you for six months to help reduce the chance of cot death. (They can't prove anything does or doesn't cause cot death because they just don't know, they can only suggest what they think statistically increases or decreases the chances. Statistically the biggest risk factor by far is smoking.)

The advice is fine, but if you live in a fairly modern house there is a strong chance you can't fit a full size cot in your room, so the baby only really fits in with you while its in a moses basket. I don't know why they feel the need to be so insistent about something that most people can't do anyway - just another way to make a new Mum feel bad.

I would read up on a few issues if you have time now - one is the studies around cot death, and the other is weaning. If you are a natural worrier then it might be better for you to research these things now before you add being horribly sleep deprived into the mix.