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Subsequent Pregnancies, struggling with No 2

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MoreBoober · 05/10/2013 08:39

So I'm just wonder what other people's experiences of subsequent pregnancies are. I have a DS who is 3 at Christmas and I'm currently 26 weeks with my DD but struggling.
Physically I was much bigger earlier and my bump has lots more wobble than last time.

However the main difference seems to be emotional. Carrying my DS seemed lots easier. I felt good emotionally and had a great libido. This time I'm very sensitive and emotional with very little libido. I can't decide whether its because I'm carrying a DD and it'd different hormonally or whether I'm just a bit frazzled from being pregnant whilst having a toddler (who has been a wee devil for the last week), and effectively working a full time job in 3.5 days a week...

Sorry for moaning but feeling really fed up at the moment which is sad as this will be my last pregnancy and I want to cherish it

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Monkeyandanimal · 05/10/2013 08:57

I know how you feel (see prev post) i think it is much much harder on second/third/etc pregnancies as you can't just look after yourself; there's always the older sibling to think about. First-timers don't know how good they have it in my opinion (I know i didn't appreciate it as much as i should have at the time!). not much help though, sorry!

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MoreBoober · 05/10/2013 09:36

Thanks Monkey sometimes it's just good to know your not alone

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cathpip · 05/10/2013 09:46

You were me when I was expecting my 2nd, it is nearly over! Saying that I'm now pregnant with no3 and the god send for me is that I am a sahm now, not having to work has made pregnancy with small children a lot easier.

Monkeyandanimal · 05/10/2013 10:33

Yeah, at least i don't have to work....mind you my kids are driving me nuts at home.....what do you do with yours all day cathpip ?

plentyofsoap · 05/10/2013 12:41

I felt like this and I moved house too, madness! I finished work earlier and paid for extra childcare on days when I really felt tired. I also made sure dh helped out more too with housework.

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MoreBoober · 05/10/2013 12:49

Actually now you mention it we did also get married 6 weeks ago after a frantic 5 weeks of planning! So maybe I did just take on too much!

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plentyofsoap · 05/10/2013 14:13

I bet that is it. Moving, wedding, baby the most stressful things you can do! I got quite poorly though so be really careful and listen to what your body is telling you.

cravingcake · 05/10/2013 16:41

I'm with you, expecting DC2 (24 weeks) and have an active 23 month old DS. I've been saying to DH i'm sure i wasnt this knackered this early when pregnant last time.

Cant offer any advice, but it is nice to know we're not alone.

OnlyThePurpleOnes · 05/10/2013 18:43

Same here as well. I've a 2.10 DD, DD2 is due Jan. I'm working FT but flex hours round nursery and I'm frankly exhausted. I could have written your post. Bigger than last time, wobblier than last time, far more aches and pains than last time. I sailed through my first pregnancy and birth and feel like me paying for it this time round!

NoodieRoodie · 05/10/2013 18:47

Can I join in please, DS is 23 months and I'm 37 weeks with DC2.

First time round I bloomed, this time I've been nauseus and knackered throughout! And to add to all of my fun DS decided that we would start potty training last week!

I'm just crossing my fingers that this one comes early, I'm trying not to think that I could be pregnant for another 5 weeks.

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TeWiSavesTheDay · 05/10/2013 19:04

I've got a DD and a DS and am pg with another DD. I have found a gender divide with the pgs for me, definitely much more emotional and also sick with the girls.

But I think it's always tricky when you are pregnant and looking after a small child, you just don't get the chance to rest in the same way as you did with your first, and being tired never helps! Plus by 3rd I really don't think my body is coping as well physically.

You'll forget about it all when baby arrives though.

MrsRV · 05/10/2013 19:24

Oh god, I'm only 8 weeks and am struggling already with DD who is 19 months & has turned into devil child. I thought it was just a first tri thing & I'd feel better soon. This time I'm knackered, feel ill, headachy, back aches & its all just taken me a bit by surprise as I kind of assumed I wouldn't feel pregnant. Last time I remember sitting on the loo one morning praying to feel sick just for reassurance. This time, I feel dodgy quite a lot & my gag reflex has gone into overdrive this last few days.

LemonDrizzleCake11 · 05/10/2013 20:00

You are absolutely not alone! First pregnancy: absolutely fine, didn't even go into maternity clothes until 35 weeks. Now in second pregnancy with DS 2yrs old, and highlights of this pregnancy so far have been:

continually shattered. No risk of bump hearing any post-watershed tv shows this time since 9pm is past my bedtime.
lots of niggly aches. Feels a bit like I've been at the gym lots. Except obviously without the toned body.
feeling less blooming and more blooming awful.

I think its a lot to do with not being able to just have those precious lie-ins to catch up when tired so everything just accumulates. Was promised a lie-in by OH this morning but after having to appease DS with a cuddle at 0530, provide information about the location of spiderman slippers at 0600 and translate DSs plea for his soft toy from his language to daddys language at 0700 it didn't feel much like a lie-in...!

Misty9 · 05/10/2013 20:19

Yep, struggling here too! 13wks pregnant and have 2yo ds, though I work 4 days a week while dh looks after him. Absolutely knackered, feel sick most of the time and just had to stay on the sofa most of today after I got breathless and palpitations every time I stood up! The joys. Thankfully, dh is doing the bulk of childcare and cooking, bless him.

With I'd enjoyed my first pregnancy more, but then I was mega stressed with my thesis for most of that... Oh, and we moved house two days ago! never learn

YoMamma · 05/10/2013 20:26

I'm currently 25 weeks pg with no2. No1 turns 1 this week. I found the sickness and exhaustion of the first trimester absolutely horrific this time around as there was just no chance of catching up on sleep. Second trimester was ok but now as I near the third I'm feeling like a whale and carting DD around is knackering. I will be finishing work in a couple of weeks so keeping my fingers firmly crossed that that will make a positive difference!

imme · 05/10/2013 20:43

So glad I am not alone! Currently 25 weeks with No 2, have a 3 year old DS and working long hours in a high pressured job Mon-Thurs. DS is an early riser, always has been and is very energetic. Not getting much help from DH on weekends or early mornings as he is doing all our renovation work in his free time so is knackered himself. Not sure if it will be easier once the baby is here. Trying to be in bed at a decent time but 9 is just too early when I only get home from work around 7..
And I am huge too already. Cannot believe it's still nearly another 15 weeks until due date!

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MoreBoober · 06/10/2013 00:01

Ok so it's really not just me!!!
I've watched 3 other friends have their second baby and seem fine. Maybe they just kept their bad days to themselves.
I feel bad moaning about being pregnant as first time round it was difficult getting pregnant in the 1st place and I was looking forward to doing it again. I'm not due to finish work till Christmas with baby due 9 th Jan and a C section likely just after New Year just hope I can last till then without becoming a total loon

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Chocolateteabag · 06/10/2013 07:35

Hi - I am pretty much you but 4weeks ahead.
Due mid Dec, DS will be 3 at start of Nov. I am shattered.
I worked to 38 weeks with DS but have just asked to start my ML this time at 34 weeks (was planning 36) as I really can't hack the commute and my SPD pains are horrid.
What doesn't help is getting woken up by DS's nightmares at 3-4am - he falls asleep in seconds and I am then awake for the rest of the night as my tummy invader starts booting me in the ribs!

moanymandy · 07/10/2013 08:37

I am 39 weeks with dc2. ds has just turned 3, I too have found this pregnancy so much more difficult physically and emotionally.
I had quite a heavey bleed at 14 weeks and from then on in it has been one thing after another!

I ended up being signed off work at 28weeks for 2 weeks and then brought my maternity leave forward leaving at 34 weeks I just couldn't go in at work any more!
I'm lucky in that my ds is a very placid child and generally easily pleased.
I would really like dc3 but not sure how I would cope being pregnant again!

But now I am 6days away from due date the endbis in sight and I feel a lot more positive! you will get through, you are stronger than you think!

PamRavenscroft · 07/10/2013 11:06

I'll join in! I'm 25 weeks with an autistic 4.5year old dd - I was doing really well till a few days ago & suddenly feel too huge to even move - so uncomfortable, bloated etc... All my '2nd trimester energy' has gone & I can't imagine how I will last another 15 weeks. Also I live in Australia & it was 37 degrees today & we don't have aircon so I'm feeling extra sorry for myself!

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