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Talk about every stage of pregnancy, from early symptoms to preparing for birth.

Dramatic day - possible miscarriage

21 replies

kitkat321 · 02/10/2013 21:27

Well today has been a bit crappy to say the least.

I'm 5+4, just confirmed with a positive test on Monday, felt good - no major issues except some minor stomach cramping which seemed to have settled this week.

Woke up this morning and was bleeding and had pretty horrible cramp which went from no more than bad period pain to excruciatingly painful in about 5 minutes. I passed out, my blood pressure plummeted and I got packed off to hospital in an ambulance.

After some fluids and gas and air my bp stabilized and the pain became bearable again. Did a pregnancy test in A&E which came back positive so was then shipped off to the local maternity hospital.

The took more bloods, did an internal exam and said I wasn't actively bleeding and my cervix was closed but that I was too early to scan and all I could do is go back on Friday for another test on my hcg levels

I'm still bleeding now although the pain is ok - still managed to exercise my horse and walk the dog this evening after the dr/midwife advised me to carry on as normal because nothing I could do would change the outcome and I've never someone who is good at sitting and doing nothing.

This was my first pregnancy, it wasn't planned or expected but not unwanted so although I'm emotionally fine but I didn't realise there would be so much uncertainty around miscarrying - apparently it could take a while to fully know where I stand and midwife did say that she's seen some women who have bled and cramped through their entire pregnancy and delivered a healthy baby (although I've sort of already accepted that this one isn't "sticky").

No real point to this thread but no one really knows about the pregnancy so don't really have anyone else to talk to although OH is being very supportive!

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Writerwannabe83 · 02/10/2013 21:34

Hi Kitkat, what an awful day for you.

I'm currently 14wks+5 and have 3 'threatened miscarriages'.

First two episodes were when I was 7 weeks and again at 10 weeks. The 3rd one was last week when I started losing large amounts of fresh red blood. I went straight to hospital where I was examined and scanned and baby was fine with a happy heartbeat.

Bleeding doesn't always mean the worst. However, on all 3 occasions I was told to rest as much as possible and stay off work until the bleeding had completely stopped. I definitely found the bleeding was worse if I was active or walking round etc so I spent my time recovering and resting in bed. You are right that if you are miscarrying then nothing can be done to stop it now and I know you have been told to 'carry on as normal' but please take care of yourself x

kitkat321 · 02/10/2013 21:42

Thanks for that Writerwannabe83. Some of the nurses today were trying to be positive and explain that some women can experience this and have a healthy pregnancy.

I'm not pushing myself too much I promise - I'm going to work from home for the rest of this week as I don't want a repeat episode in from of my work colleagues! I actually found the gentle riding/walking made me feel better - I looked and felt better afterwards than I did before hand and i think the moving about and fresh air helped with the pain and being active took my mind off of things - brought a bit of colour back to my cheeks!

We'll see what Friday's appointment brings. x

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CrispyFB · 02/10/2013 21:46

I'm another one who has had lots of big bleeds in early pregnancy. Ironically in one of the pregnancies I lost (blighted ovum) I barely had any bleeding!

It really is one of those things that can go either way! Hoping for the best for you!!

kitkat321 · 02/10/2013 21:51

Thanks CrispyFB - good to hear you experiences.

The Dr seemed more concerned with the extent of my pain levels and the drop in blood pressure which she didn't feel was necessarily typical of a miscarriage. MW suggested it could be associated with a cyst that may be developing.

I'm going to try and push for a scan on Friday as I'll be 1 day short of 6 weeks so hopefully that might help clear things up.

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kitkat321 · 03/10/2013 09:05

Quick update today, very little bleeding or cramping last night or this morning which hopefully is a good sign.

Feeling a bit tired and shaky after yesterday so taking it easy today and hopefully I won't keel over again!

Now just waiting for tomorrow's tests and the subsequent results to see what the next steps are!

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PinkWitch803 · 03/10/2013 13:32

Look after yourself and keep calm

purple84 · 03/10/2013 15:56

Kitkat321
Really hope all is well with your pregnancy and tomorrow the results show your hcg levels are rising. Good luck and all the best.

kitkat321 · 03/10/2013 16:14

Thanks PinkWitch803 and purple84.

I've prepared myself for the worst - I think that's probably the best way rather than get my hopes up. I know people have kindly shared their success stories but I think those are the exception rather than the norm.

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PinkWitch803 · 03/10/2013 17:20

I will keep everything crossed for you and hope for the best.

kitkat321 · 04/10/2013 13:28

Just back from hospital having had my bloods taken. Wednesdays hgc levels were 46 so very low. Should get today's results back in a few hours.

I just hope it's clear either way as this not knowing is very difficult and frustrating and I really don't want another trip to the hospital just to confirm bad news!

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CrispyFB · 04/10/2013 14:42

46 is low if you're definitely nearly six weeks. But if you ovulated very late it could just be catching the start of something. I guess you will know for sure in a few hours - lots of luck!!

kitkat321 · 04/10/2013 15:01

Dropped from 46 to 9 so definite MC.

I've been discharged though so not more hospital trips and I can stop feeling like a pin cushion.

One thing this has highlighted as that we are mentally ready to have kids so we're going to try again in the coming months. It's also showed that we are both fertile as this was our first attempt which is reassuring.

Thanks for the good wishes x

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CrispyFB · 04/10/2013 15:52

Oh, I am sorry Sad I lost my first pregnancy ever too. Miscarriage is so common yet the way society behaves is that a second line always means a baby without fail. I wish!

I'm glad you can find a silver lining to it all - not the happiest way of realising now is a good time to TTC admittedly, but there was something positive from the whole experience.

I hope you don't have to wait long for your next second line and you don't have to go through this again! You would be very unlucky twice in a row.

kitkat321 · 04/10/2013 16:39

Thanks CrispyFB. I've been very lucky to have a good friend have gone through something similar and she's been such a good help. I know a lot of girls who mc'd their first and went on to have a successful pregnancy soon afterwards. Unfortunately I'm surrounded by pregnant friends/colleagues at the moment so I'm having a bit of a "it's not fair, why me" moment but I'm sure they've got their own pregnancy challenges to deal with.

Not sure how long I need to wait - mw didn't say and I didn't ask and online advice seems mixed so will just go with how we feel. It will give me time to get in better shape too as I'm carrying a bit more weight thank I'd like.

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purple84 · 04/10/2013 18:38

So sorry for ur loss kitkat
I found the mc group on here very helpful with all of my mc's
Best of luck for your future pregnancy x

CrispyFB · 04/10/2013 18:54

You'll find there'll be loads of people around you with accidental pregnancies now which will work out just fine.. it is always the way!!

If your HCG is near zero I suspect you won't have long to wait fortunately.

PinkWitch803 · 04/10/2013 20:15

I am sorry you have received this news. You seem to be approaching it the right way and taking the positives from the experience. I wish you all the best with your future pregnancies.

FatPenguin · 04/10/2013 20:27

Sorry to hear of your loss kitkat. I am glad to hear that you have good support. Take care of yourself Thanks

elcranko · 04/10/2013 22:21

So sorry to hear this OP. Take care x

kitkat321 · 04/10/2013 22:25

Thanks everyone.

I had a lovely evening tonight - went out for a quiet hack on my horse - first time I've really had to myself since it happened as OH has been very attentive - and was able to just relax and breath. Although I was sad, it was a relief to know definitively what was happening and this is mixed with some excitement that hopefully, one day in the future, I'll have a successful pregnancy.

Will have a look for the mc group as it might be good to understand what happens next and when my body will be back to normal (although it's already feeling like it's almost there which feels strange given 2 days ago I was in hospital!)

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Chacha23 · 05/10/2013 09:47

kitkat, I feel for you. I also lost my first pregnancy, at 13 weeks, and it was horrible.

like you it did reassure us that we were both fertile (I'd been worried about it because of DH's medical past), so that was my silver lining too.

also: I MCed in early December, and the doctor who carried out the "evacuation" (how I loathe that term) said I should wait 6 months for my body to get over it. Sod that - I was pregnant again by January, now 39 weeks!

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