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Need to vent argument with nurse at gp surgery!

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charliedrinks26 · 01/10/2013 14:49

Aibu ??? 19 weeks pregnant had what we thought was a urine infection for nearly 3 weeks, 2 lots of antibiotics and still in pain when I go for a wee , dr was gunner send me for a scan last week but said try another lot of antibiotics sent urine off to lab asked me to come back after tablets finished

So the last three days been trying to get an appointment ( have to ring the surgery on the day can't pre book) no appointments so I played the pregnancy card and said I need to see someone's today I'm pregnant and in pain !!! They said nurse will phone back today .... Nurse phoned me and said can you bring a sample in at 6:20 pm tonight ??? (First I need to explain... I don't drive and I finish work at 4 pm drs is five mins from work but I live about 7 miles away from surgery) I explained that
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Tiredemma · 01/10/2013 14:52

is there a Walk in Centre anywhere near you?

polkadotsrock · 01/10/2013 15:03

Take a sandwich and hang out there after work- I'd be surprised if they didn't manage to squeeze u in a little earlier

HaPPy8 · 01/10/2013 15:16

Could your partner take you as its at 620? After work?

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charliedrinks26 · 02/10/2013 10:46

Oops basically the nurse told me to move gp surgeries and "how was I going to get there with a new born !!!!!!" Fummming!!! I've been going there with my partner as we went through fertility investigations and I've been with them all my life!!! She has no right to question me and tell me to move it's my choice to be there I was just saying that on this occasion that I was really hard for me to get in at 6:20 she ended up shouting at me I burst into tears and hung up!! I was so mad she got me in at 5:30 last night but wasn't seen til 10 past 6!!! My husband normally takes me but last night he couldn't as our car was in the garage :( I felt so stupid and so angry

Just needed a rant!!! I am complaining about her she was awful and to top things off it's not a urine infection I have spd :( rant over and breathe! Xxxxxxx

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andadietcoke · 02/10/2013 11:15

Glad you got sorted in the end. She has a point though about when the baby's born - mine are 5 weeks and we've been to the GPs three times already and have more appts for jabs and check ups in the next week or so.

Rockchick1984 · 02/10/2013 14:43

I understand why you're frustrated but if you choose to use a dr's surgery that is difficult for you to get to, then you have to be willing to travel to it! And how will you get there if baby needs to see the GP when your partner is in work, its a valid question - I know I wouldn't have been wanting to get taxis etc with a poorly newborn.

She has obviously fitted you in somewhere despite there being no appointments left; if your surgery uses the stupid system of not letting you prebook appointments then she could have just said no, try again tomorrow. As it was she has done what she could and it wasn't good enough in your eyes

MrsCampbellBlack · 02/10/2013 14:45

Very frustrating for you. But our Dr's are very strict about living near your surgery for that reason and also in case they have to do home visits.

I really think you'd be best to move to a surgery much closer to your home.

Hope you feel better soon.

Vassia · 02/10/2013 15:39

I think you were being very unreasonable and totally overreacted. She did what she could for you and you threw it back in her face. It's not her fault you don't drive and live 7 miles from the surgery! She, and everyone else, are right, you should probably think about moving to a new doctor before you bring a newborn into this equation. What are you going to do if they can fit you in 10 minutes after you call them and you can't drive and are 7 miles away with a sick baby? Throw a tantrum? Demand they come to you and scream at them if they don't? Think about it.

Jollyb · 02/10/2013 16:39

I agree with other posters - with young children it really would be sensible to change surgeries to one within easy reach of your home.

enjoyingscience · 02/10/2013 17:19

I'm pretty surprised they are letting you stay on the books to be honest, mine are really strict about moving out of area.

You will need to see the doctor etc much more frequently with a newborn - you'll have jabs, 6 week check etc to get to, plus any newborn sniffles you want checking out. Having one closer will be much easier for you.

It sounds like she bahaved in a perfectly reasonable way, but didn't manage to do what was most convenient for you - that's kind of your tough luck really, and would be considered normal in most areas.

fuckwittery · 02/10/2013 17:21

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ihearsounds · 02/10/2013 17:54

She is right.
Also chances are, because you are out of their area, they won't make a home visit if you need one.
How you going to get to the surgery with a newborn? Not all appointments will be at a time convenient to you.

froubylou · 02/10/2013 21:19

Poor you op. I sympathsise. It's no fun being pg and in pain and then feel as though you are being messed around.

Have an unmumsnetty hug. And my surgery is about 4 miles away and in town so not brilliant to get to unless you are in town.

What did the dr say about your spd?

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charliedrinks26 · 05/10/2013 19:47

Oh dear :( wasn't expecting ppl to be so harsh! I was annoyed at the nurses general attitude towards me tbh - I didn't throw it back in her face and didn't "throw a strop!" I was in pain, upset and just wanted to get sorted, it is my choice to stay there- I have reasons why I wanted to stay there aswell I was under going counselling for fertility issues and if I moved surgeries would nt have been able to see the counsellor and after 18 months of seeing her I didn't want to stop and have to start the whole process again with someone new! And I am currently learning to drive and hoping to be passed by the time baby comes so hopefully won't be a problem - all of which I didn't feel was any if the nurses business tbh when she was telling me to move surgeries!

I understand I am not the only patient and not the only pregnant person but I am first time pregnant (taken along time to get there so also a bit of a worrier!) in pain, worried as I was told twice by 2 different drs it was a water infection and had read this could potentially cause harm to the baby :(

Thanks froubylou - They said there's not much they could do for spd ! She printed me some info and said if it gets totally unbearable I can go back to see them, I'll see how I get on :( at least I know the baby's safe and it's not causing him/her any harm xxxx

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DuckWaddle · 05/10/2013 20:00

I completely understand not wanting to move surgeries. After becoming quite ill I became kind of attached to them as they were so good. However I moved house and so had to leave. I would research the best ones near to your home. There are reviews online. My experience of having a newborn is that you want one close to home. You probably will visit far more than you'd think now and the last thing you want is a big trek.

ifitsnotanarse · 05/10/2013 20:06

Stop having a go at the OP. The thread topic is entitled "Need to vent...". and surprise, surprise this is not AIBU.

OP it's hard when you're pregnant and ill. I hope they sort you out soon.

Have you tried yoga - it may help with the SPD and also any anxiety you may have. Instructors usually run special classes for pregnant women.

HTH

fuckwittery · 05/10/2013 21:23

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vj32 · 05/10/2013 21:44

What if you have a C-section and can't drive for 6 weeks or more? How will you get baby to the Drs then?

I think what you have said about staying with your previous surgery makes sense, but actually now you need one close by your home. I couldn't drive for the last 5 weeks of pregnancy - was huge, couldn't really turn round/twist etc so it wasn't safe! Plus I then had an emergency section so in all wasn't driving for about 12 weeks.

You could get lifts, use taxis etc but it is a much better idea to be registered at a Drs surgery close by. My Drs is at the end of my road and is amazing - we are moving three miles away soon and I don't like the idea that we will have to go somewhere else. But that's what happens when you move house.

perfectstorm · 05/10/2013 23:16

I stayed with a practice years because they were brilliant. Have done the same in current town for the same reasons. Not all practices are created equal - some are shocking. I totally understand why OP would want to stay, and taxis are no big deal if an emergency with a baby.

And the nurse was totally wrong about SPD! There is a huge amount that can be done. Her ignorance is leaving this patient in treatable and often wholly avoidable pain! She needs a physio referral and the SPD factored into her birth plan to avoid such minor details as, oh, lifelong mobility impairment? There are exercises that strengthen the pelvic area, tips on safe forms of movement to reduce increased injury, and sometimes they recommend hands-on physio treatment to correct any misalignment. Just leaving the patient to cope alone is a bit of a recipe for disaster according to my present and my former Trusts.

Finally if all they wanted was a urine sample to establish whether an infection was present, I completely fail to see why she had to be present to provide it. Why couldn't she drop in at 4 or whenever it was, fill the sample pot, label it and leave? She could collect a prescription when they'd had time to test the sample and establish the need. How is her presence necessary when all they really needed was her urine?

OP call for a phone consult with your GP - don't be fobbed off with the nurse - and ask for an antenatal physio appointment for Pelvic Girdle Pain. Do you have one of those thick velcro support belts to hold it all together?

slightlyinsane · 06/10/2013 00:59

7 miles is nothing! For those of you who are questioning what op would do in an emergency and how she will get to frequent appointments, she just will cos that's what some of us have to do. My nearest drs is 10 miles away with a really poor bus service or £50 round trip in a taxi. It is wrong to question peoples choice of drs you have to be able to trust them 100% and if that means travelling what people see as that little bit extra then so be it. Out of a practice of 5 drs I will only take my kids to see 2 of them and if I didn't have those 2 I would gladly travel the 15 miles to the next drs practice.

Op good luck with your spd and if your happy at your drs stay there, it's usually the receptionist I clash with as she seems to think she has a right to try and diagnose things over the phone

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