Babies kick pattern???

[chowebella]

Hi eveeyone,

I'm 29 weeks pregnant and still not established what my baby's kick pattern is :/ which leaves me worrying constantly os he kicking regular enough.

He don't seem to have a particular time he kicks apart from when i first lay down to go to sleep.
I'm worried that if I can't identify his pattern how will I know when his movements change??

I feel useless that I can't even identify when my baby is active and asleep. Even if i give my tummy a rub ir drink something cold he won't always move. I've played music to him, sat quietly talking to him and I may just get the odd kick and that's it.
I do have an anterior placenta and baby is measuring a little large for dates.
How can I put my mind at ease when midwife keeps saying you should feel him regular now and he should have a little pattern. I feel embarrassed to discuss it with her as I feel like Im not being as good a mum as I should be if I can't tell his daily patterns.

Any advice would be gratefully welcomed.

Hiya chowebella, im on dc3 and only just at 16 weeks so just getting early movements so far with this one. But with my two other dcs i never noticed a pattern as such. It was'nt even sonthing that had alot of emphadis placed on it by my midwives and so long as i felt them daily once past a certain point that was sufficient. Not noticing a pattetn does not make you a bad mum at all so dont worry about that in the least.
Of course if a day goes by and you dont notice anything at all then mention this to mw. Sounds like you are feeling bubs daily though, and at the most common time (bed time) so try to relax and enjoy it x

Ignore typos, bloody phone!

I am 30 wks, I have an anterior too. I have started a new email at work I save in my Drafts folder so I re-open every day "movement" and from 26 weeks noted day & how far along I am, and exact times & types of movements i.e. Monday 29 + 2- 11.36- brief flutters high up after drinking water. Etc!!

It s so useful to look back on and really calming on days there may be hours without anything. I can see a real pattern- with me it’s around 10.30/11am 2/3pm 4/5pm and then 7/8pm and when I go to sleep 10/11pm. I do still have days where the morning/early afternoon stretch can pass without anything, so know how this feels. But I think with our anterior placentas we can tell ourselves not to panic as we will feel more muted and less regular movement.

If I went from early morning/late afternoon without feeling anything though, I'd probably call my midwife (but this is only based on my movement patterns) some women with anterior placentas have said they felt near no movement the entire pregnancy.

Hi Cowbella

First of all you are a good mum!! If you weren't a good mum you wouldn't even be thinking about it

Your anterior placenta will stop you feeling some movements so that may be why you feel he doesn't kick much but I bet he's actually having a party in there

It sounds like you have identified a pattern in that you always feel him when you lay down to sleep. Do you usually feel him at another time of day? e.g. first thing in the morning?

It might help you to keep a rough record for a couple of days (not counting but just roughly when you feel him e.g. lying down in bed, sat having breakfast etc.) as you might then notice another common time for movements.

If you're at all worried any time that he hasn't moved/you haven't felt him then don't hesitate to phone your mw/hospital. I did this a few weeks ago and they were lovely and monitored me. All was fine but it really reassured me and they didn't mind at all. They will be pleased to see you. Also, maybe mention it at your next mw appointment so she can reassure you?

Take care x

Thanks ladies. I think I will write down for a few days when i feel him and what I'm doing at the time.
Its one those situations.where you don't want to feel like the overly anxious mum calling the hospital each day because your worried bubz has only kicked once but also don't want to make the wrong decision not to call when in fact there may be something wrong.

Its nice to hear other ladies experiences :)