Every thing getting on top of me!!! So scared

[Sarahmains40]

Hi sorry I just need to let off steam.

I'm 11 weeks pregnant feeling so ill with sickness on tablets which has stopped helping.

I hate my job and I'm so miserable. My job is only min wage it's long hours over 6 days I'm finding it hard to cope with being so ill.

And to top it off my hubby has just been laid off his job today. He earns good money were as my wage will just cover bills and mortage. He only just got made redundant in February then got a new job on a non permeant contract. But he was told not to worry about that, with no warning or sign today they finished him and a few other people.

I'm trying to keep a brave face on as I don't want him to feel pressured.

But I'm feeling totally hopeless, panicking thinking about baby to come bills and mortgage. Im so useless at the min I'm sick all the time and when I'm not throwing up i feel exhausted and nauseous. I could cry I wanted a baby so bad and I feel awful saying this but I feel like what have I got my self into.

I feel so anxious and feel like I'm going to have a panic attack and I'm scared I'm so stressed I'm going to harm the baby

Sorry just needed to write it down

You poor thing! It sounds like everything is really getting on top of you at the moment.
Having a baby is a wonderful thing but that doesn't mean it is easy especially when you have so much going on.

Best advice I can give Rest as much as you can, have a chat with your hubby about the way you are feeling and maybe a cup of tea??
Lots of wise people on mums net can hopefully give you more!!

Try to relax and just cope with whats happening this evening. You have had a shock regarding your DH job and its a lot to take in. Tomorrow is another day and you/your DH can start coming up with an action plan then.

Your DH will be able to get a new job, and you will cope. Also being 11 weeks you are hopefully nearing the end of the sickness.

Look after yourself, see your gp if the stress & sickness is gettting too much, they may sign you off work for a few days to rest and you cant be disciplined at your work due to pregnancy related sickness (as long as they know) so dont worry about that.

I think the main thing to do is take each day as it comes. Look into wht benefits a re available to you ASAP and get the ball rolling with them. Secondly, DH is clearly a resourceful man and he will get another job so try not to worry too much about that.

As for the sickness go back to the doc and explain your worries as well as your nausea. Let them help you as much as they can.

I think the best thing to do is just take each day at a time. No point in worrying yourself sick over things that are months from now possibly going to happen.

Focus on today...what do I need to do today? At 11 weeks the most important thing you have to do is to try and rest as much as possible, take care of yourself and focus on some of the tips from other mn'ers that could help with the nausea and sickness.

Horrible list of worries, poor old you. Nothing worse than feeling all vulnerable whilst pregnant, and lots of stuff going wrong round you. Totally agree with the other posters - hunker down, take good care of you, and this will pass in its own time (sounds very pollyanna optimistic, but I've been in very similar circs in the past) . Partner will find another job, he can look into benefits and support, and feed back to you once he's found out all the facts and details.

Hang in there, much love x