Pregnant & DD1 only 3 months old, please tell me this will be ok???

[Citybaby]

Hello,
So just discovered yesterday that I am pregnant, this is great news as we were planning to try for another but in a years time not right now! DS1 is only 3 months old and is a wonderful baby but how do you cope with 2 under 2? Or being heavily pregnant with a 1 year old? So many questions are going through our minds right now (once the shock and swear words stop going round and round!)

Please can anyone reassure us or share your stories with us good or bad?

Got to tell my mum soon, going to get such a lecture on contraception, I'm 32 years old I really should have known better!

Thank you in advance x

Congratulations citybaby

I had 2 under a year, got pregnant when DD1 was 3 months....she was 11 months when DS1 was born (he was a little bit early!)

I actually found it fine once I got used to having the 2 of them, and as they have got older they both get on really well (they are 7 and 6 now!) We have gone on to have another 3 DC, and chose to have another small gap between DC3 and 4 as it had worked so well before.

I did get quite a few comments along the lines of "don't you have a tv at your house?!" so be prepared for that - but in terms of having 2 so young, I didn't find it that different having an extra one - you are already restricted on things you can do with one very young child anyway!

Good luck but I'm sure you will be fine!

Oh thank you so much 5kids! That is so good to hear. That is what I was thinking that at 1 years old DS1 wouldn't really know how to be jealous so they should bond really well. My husband and I both have 2-3 years between our brothers/ sisters so that is the only reference we have.

How did you find coping being pregnant with a young baby as well? I am hoping people will say it is easier than having a toddler while being pregnant as they are heavier and faster, fingers crossed!

It is funny what comments you get isn't it? People love commenting when you are pregnant anyway, I'm sure they will have a field day with this one!
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Can't comment personally on the matter as our age gap will be 2 years 10 months when DS arrives. However I wanted to share with you a comment my friends mother made to her when she found herself pregnant again with a small gap.

'Yes it will be hard and stressful at times but much less so than trying to get pregnant and not being able too'

I thought this was a brilliant way of looking at it.

Good luck.

We would of had a smaller aged gap, however it took us over a year.

Clearly life has a plan for you!

Wow, you are me. Sort of. I was pregnant with a 3 month old when I was 32! Same reason as you - wanted another but intended about a year gap. I'm now 37 with a 5 and 4 yr old and preggers again. :) :) :)

It's fine, it's great. It's tough at first. Not the pregnancy but having two littlies. But from what I hear, it's hard having one baby anyway.

It'll fly by and soon you'll have two gorgeous DCs playing together with a lovely strong bond and without the sibling rivalry I hear about from my friends.

I feel like I got lots of comments early on but now I'm having the last laugh.

Aw, enjoy it all. The constant nappy changes, the constant fire fighting, the tiredness....it's all just a phase.

Congratulations on the pregnancy. X

Thank you Daughter, that is a very true comment and a great way to look at it, I am a believer in fate and this must be mine so I will rise to the challenge.
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Congrats City , just think how much money you will save with clothes & toys because of the small age gap

Me & my Db have a 9 month age gap & we get on much better because of it

I've got 3 under 3 :) 2 yr old, 1 yr old and a newborn :) its fab, most days :/ you'll be fine :)

Haha so true Heads! I literally packed up DS's 0-3 month clothes up last week for the attic thinking I wouldn't need them for a few years, how wrong I was!

Wow Tinker, you must be amazing at multi tasking with 3 under 3!

Thank you both for your kind words.

I am getting quite excited about it now, I still feel embarrassed that we were so silly and thought we'd get away with not using protection (can I blame baby brain?! ), and I'm rather sad I have to give up the vino again but I realise how lucky I am to be in the situation so I should just embrace it and un pack the maternity jeans and bio oil!

At least you won't have to deal with endless questions from people enquiring when you're having another baby! Is incredibly tiresome especially when you're desperately trying to get pregnant and it's not working.

Must people will just be surprised you're having sex! Really with a new born..how? Must be a sleeper etc etc

Hehe! The ridiculous thing is we've only did the deed twice out of kindness to dp so can definitely pinpoint the conception date!

After I typed my previous msg I realised I am actually wearing my maternity jeans right now so no need to dig those out then! Darn things are too comfy.

Sorry! Thank you Findus! Think we cross posted so only just saw your post! Thank you for the reassurance, so good to hear from people who have been through this especially at the same age!
Thank you xx

5 months in between DS1 ad DS2 here. In many ways it is easier as you have two babies. DS1 was a late walker and that helped I think. A double buggy, a good play group with good friends. My DH works away a lot and still it wasn't awful.

Now DC1 is nearly 12 I look back and think 'how on earth...?!' But I did and all I remember is that it was fine! So much so DC3 was born two days after DC1s third birthday.

(And there's a DC4 too so it REALLY couldn't have been too awful)

Congratulations

waves another one here with a small age gap (15 months)!

I was horrified when I found out I was pg with DD, when DS was only 5 months old, just wasn't expecting to get pg so quickly, and we really weren't exactly, Er, 'at it' very much at that point! Did get lots of comments about "having no tv haha!" but people soon got used to it.

Actually found having a 15 month and a newborn ok, DD was a very chilled out small baby, which was a godsend. Being pg towards the latter stages was not fun, DS didn't walk until 14 months, so was lugging him around up until 8 months pg, not great for the back.

DS has never been jealous of DD, she's just always been there. They get on ok and clearly love each other, however they do fight a lot already, personally finding it really hard now with two toddlers (2.7 and 16 months). When we go to the park, I never know who to chase after first!

Not going to lie, having two so close put a big strain on DP and my relationship (tiredness, having a constant bump for nearly two years, sleepless nights for a lot longer), but we've come out of the other side now, are enjoying our family, and can actually remember why we got together in the first place (that didn't involve breeding! ).

Those of you who went on to have more children after small age gaps are clearly crazy!

I am currently eight months pregnant with a one year old! It's tough and I'm knackered but you'll cope. I cried and cried when I first found out I was pregnant again, I was so worried about how I'd cope etc but now I'm looking forward to it all and focussing in on the positives. Just think what wonderful friends your little ones will be.....and all the nappy years over at once......
Congratulations!

yes citybaby you are right about it being easier being pregnant with a younger baby. DD1 didn't crawl until she was 1, and while I was pregnant she would be quite happy laying in bed with me while I was having a rest!

Dam sight easier than my last pregnancy when my other 4 were 6,5,2 and 1 - I really don't know how I made it through that combination of kids and pregnancy - I seem to remember dragging myself though it

My mum had me, then my sis 16 months later, then my brother not long after so tjere were 3 of us under 4. We all have the most wonderful relationship.
Good double buggy and youll be fine. Congratulations!! :)

Organisation is the way forward. DD1 & DD2 are 14 months apart and then a 53 week gap between DD2 & DS1 - DD1 was 2years 3 months when DS1 was born with a non-walking 1 year old inbetween! At least in the early days of having 3 little ones no-one had to be at school or pre-school so if we didn't all manage to get dressed before 10.00 it didn't matter! By the time the eldest started school they were all independant so no buggies to mess about with, no worry as to whether to feed, dress or change the baby before or after the school run. Brilliant as they got older, no problems with activities/amusing them as they all played with same age toys, were able to see the same films at the cinema, go on rides at theme parks at similar ages etc. A friend had 5 years between each of hers so whatever we did or where we went it didn't suit a 2, 7 & 12 year old - to me it was my worse nightmare! It will be fun, despite everyone asking if you have a TV or 'are you catholic?'

ohforfoxsake how did you manage to get a 5 month gap? Was DC2 really early or do you have the gestation period of a cat?!

Thank you all! Feeling much more positive, the panic is clearing slightly so we can start to work out a plan. Point number 1 being get a cleaner for when I am heavily pregnant! The flat went to pot last time!
Point number 2 read the reviews for double buggies.

DH and I are not planning to tell anyone for another few weeks yet (as we have a few family weddings coming up so don't want to steal peoples thunder) so we have time to prepare ourselves for the comments

Thank you all again.
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I have 2 within a year. They are now 2 and 3. It is hard but gets easier. Long term so worth it- a ready made playmate!

I have a friend that has a 9yo, 2yo, 1yo and two week.old twins

She is still sane. You will be fine.

Congratulations.