I wind myself up so much before scans

[Makqueen2]

Having my 12 week scan tomorrow am I am terrified they will tell me my baby has died. This despite having a scan only last Tuesday where everything was fine. I have also had scans at 7, 8 and 9 weeks (reassurance at EPU due to previous mmc).

I had a mmc in April this year where I found out the baby he died in between a scans at 7 and 9 weeks. So now, it's always at the back of my mind that the same will happen again and I will be told bad news.

I am excited and dreading tomorrow in equal measures.

Good luck Makqueen. Have you been feeling ok since the last scan?

I'm having my first scan next thursday at 12-weeks - I'm truly terrified that they will say my baby stopped growing weeks ago & I've been walking round all chuffed & hopeful for nothing. I'm refusing to consider it, but I then worry that I might be setting myself up for a fall...

It's a scary time but let's keep our fingers crossed and try to be positive and look forward to seeing our 12-week blobs on screen fx fx

I was exactly the same before my 12 week scan. I had a mmc in March and I'm now almost 17 weeks and am still a nervous wreck despite 2 scans showing a healthy baby and hearing the heartbeat on Tuesday.
Think it's only natural to worry even if you haven't been through a mmc so it's worse when you have.

Sorry I don't have any advice or wise words but just wanted to wish you the best of luck for tomorrow

Thank you.

Yes I have felt fine. Still tired/bit sick, so still pregnant but ok.

I am just so nervous.

I am actually having two 12 week scans, one tomorrow is a private one so dh can be there (he's only been to the 9 week scan due to work) and then the nhs one next Tuesday.

I just keep thinking of the scan I had where I was told "so sorry, but it's not good news" and I keep expecting to hear it again.

Every scan I've had so far, I ask them to please tell me right away if the heart is beating.

BTDT. Once you've had a loss, the innocence is lost. Like you I have a lot of first trimester scans (most private). I also use my doppler every day, although I promise myself not to freak if I can't find it before 12 weeks.

Using the doppler the night before and the morning of the scan I find helps a lot.

Hope all goes well tomorrow!

I also had those fears.
It might help to remember your risk becomes less and less with each week that passes (until about week 15 when it gets as low as it's going to get, I think. I got this from Emily Oster's book, Expecting Better, which is really great at explaining stats).

Good luck!

Thanks all.

In my first pregancy I didn't have any of this, ds was fine. When I fell pregnant again earlier this year, I never expected to have a mmc. So this time round, everything is so much harder.

I've been in a constant state of anxiety since 4 weeks just wiring for something terrible to happen.

*waiting. Stupid phone.