In need of guidance, hope, reason, anything really.

[davidtennantsmistress]

We had an early scan today, I have a history of mmc, and today the sonographer couldn't get a clear pic on the outside (bladder wasnt full) and did an internal one.

At this point I knew it would be bad news, by my dates I'm 9+2 and had a bfp from 3+5 ish, anyhow apparently there is a fetous sac but no heart, measuresn20mm and is 8+3

We have a report to take tot he doctor. I have no bleeding or cramping. Am I mad to think if we wait a week and have another test then? My doctor isn't in until Friday I'm swaying between I want it sorted and I want to wait it out. All of my other m.cs have happened as a result of bleeding.

Has anyone had an internal scan at this stage with no heart and had a positive outcome?

Hello, I'm sorry to hear about your scan. I had a mc at 6 weeks, I knew it was happening as I had lots of bleeding but it must be worse when it's a shock and there's no symptoms. I guess you just have to wait and see what happens, but prepare yourself for the worst outcome. X

Hi,
I'm in sort of a similar situation. Had an early scan last week at 6+2 and the couldn't see a yolk sac and gestational sac was measuring earlier. The sonographer didn't really give me much explanation, gave me a leaflet about miscarriage and sent me on my way! :(
It's horrible being limbo but from research, things can vary alot. The not knowing and waiting around is really hard but I don't think you have much choice but to wait and see.

I have another scan booked in two weeks, can you book another one for a few weeks? Sending you lots of love x

Poor you.
I had the same thing a few months ago. I would definitely wait a week and have another scan to be sure. You know it's extremely unlikely that the first scan was incorrect, but if it's a missed mc (i.e. no symptoms) as i had, then i found it necessary to be absolutely sure before having the procedure. Having no symptoms makes it really hard to believe it's not viable, and having a confirmation scan a week later will confirm that there's no hope.
i'm so sorry. It's such a horrible horrible thing to experience.
sending love x

Thanks ladies, the doctor has me booked in for 10.30 tomorrow he says that it's possible the hb was missed, however it's highly unlikely. I'm pretty resolved to be honest and not holding out hope. :(

Hope your ok today, sending you lots of love xx

Good luck this morning x

Thanks ladies, apparently the bean has shrunk slightly which is normal, still no pan or bleeding feeling a bit of a fraud all around, trying to block things out but booked in for a d and c tomorrow. Shitty time all around but dp is being a rock so that's a blessing. Trying to keep my other two as close a possible, think they're a bit over whelmed with all my cuddles and kisses. But they will have to suffer. Lol. I'm not expecting much tomorrow I know it's not an easy road, and some will judge for the op but having done a natural mc at the same stage it's emotionally all I can manage if that makes sense? X

Really sorry to hear your sad news.
No-one would judge you for anything, you're in an awful situation and need t resolve in the best way for you.
Xxx

No one will judge you. I'm so very sorry for your loss. If it helps in any way I think choosing the operation is the right thing. My mum didn't have chose to have it and nearly died after a lot of bleeding, she then had to have an emergency d and c with no pain relief.

This is an awful, awful time and choosing the safest and best approach is the only thing you can do. Sending lots of love xxxxx

Thanks all, I know we will try again as I know I'm suppost to have three babies, just not yet, but you are right the d and c is best for our little unit, I can take control and charge with this m c likewise dp can be with me, as his biggest fear I think deep down is that he's not there when I need him. Ho hum, it is what it is. :( on the plus side now we get to have a holiday next year (was booked for when I was due) I know it's poor taste but having a focus is a good distraction ATM.