Due in Nov - plans for Xmas?

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Hi, I am due on 29th November and we have been invited to spend Christmas with a close relative who lives a three hour drive away. Do I accept?

Hi

I am also due in November and have just started making plans for Xmas. Its so hard as you don't know how you are going to feel and if you are going to go past your due date.
I am going to my mums as the thought of cooking Xmas dinner with a newborn to look after fills me with dread lol x

im due on the 1st/2nd.. ive already bought bout a third of the pressies. im eating out for xmas dinner this year. sod cooking a massive roast wiv 3 hyper kids n a newborn lol x

I'm due on the18th Nov but went 2 weeks over with DC1 so I suppose part of me is assuming that it will be the end of Nov. I am absolutely dreading Xmas this year as we should be travelling up DH's family who live 3.5hrs drive away. I accept that I may be feeling fine but with DC1 I remember still being in pain at the check up with the GP 6 weeks later and I was worried that the stitches had got infected (they hadn't it just really does take that long to heal).

The pain meant that I also couldn't do things like stretch my legs wide enough to use the toilet sitting down so it was all a bit awkward. Obviously tricky and uncomfortable things like are just better done in your own home in my opinion. Not to mention being confident enough of the stuff that you will need to pack a bag.

That is only my opinion though and I think it depends how comfortable you feel with the people you will be staying with. Personally I don't feel very comfortable with my in laws and I would be embrassed about some of the yukky stuff post giving birth around them. They would also consider an emergency trip to the supermarket to pick up something we had forgotten to be a great inconvenience instead on a natural part of going away with a newborn.

Can you tell how much I am dreading it!!!! Why won't they leave me alone?!

Personally I would stay at home. You might feel fine but you don't know and if you make the decision to stay and people accept that then you don't have it hanging over you. Enjoy your babies

I would go.

Sit on your bum.with the baby and everyone will.fetch amd carry for you.

I did a week family holiday (14 of us), 6 weeks after dd was born (and I drove the four hours too). Loved it.

Hmmm ... I'm hoping I will be fine and would love to go and put my feet up etc. plus it would be great for extended family to meet the new member of the family. I suppose I don't want to commit but want the invite to stay open iyswim, a bit unfair on our hosts because they need to plan. Oh well.

At least being due when we are, we know our newbies will be here by Xmas! Even if they are just 10days old

Actually just writing about it on here is helping me decide, I think I will be brave and almost certainly accept

I think you need to find out what sort of Christmas they are thinking of having, and whether the possibility that you might need to cancel at the last moment would be a show stopper. For, unless you already know you will need a Csection and have date booked, you cannot be sure when the baby will be born, nor what sort of delivery you will have.

If everything is on time and delivery is straightforward, then I think it would be easily doable (and jolly nice to have someone else 'doing' Christmas for you).

I was due on 29th Nov last year but ended up going 12 days over.
we decided to just do Xmas at home. ds1 played with his presents, dh cooked and I sat on sofa snuggled up with the baby. was lovely, wish we could do it again this year but think we're expected at the in laws!

I am also due the 29th and going to my parents 3 hours away. As you say, at least we will know they'll be born by then! If you can't face it you can always cancel, but I'd assume all will be fine!

I would stay at home enjoy xmas with your new baby

I would make the trip if I felt up for it. I'm due in mid-November myself. If DH and I tried to stay home for all of Christmas, the in-laws would come to us. Which means cleaning. Better that we're off the hook for housekeeping and head up to SIL's instead.

That said, SIL usually does a pot luck Xmas dinner, and last year asked DH (so, me) to roast the turkey. I've already told DH I'm not roasting and transporting a bird this year. Either he has to feel confident with roasting one himself, or he needs to handle appetizers or desserts. I will be on the couch attempting to breastfeed and watching Christmas movies. :)

I'm due November 15th. We'll be going abroad by car to visit my family for about a week around Christmas. DP doesn't drive so I'll be doing all the driving - we're taking the ferry across the channel so can take baby out of the car seat and feed him/her etc.

Go for it if you're up to it. Depends on how you feel and how much you want to go.

I wouldn't want to do that...3 hours is a long way.

We will be going out for lunch at a lovely hotel restaurant 15 mins away, as we do every year, I have zero interest in cooking or stressing or entertaining and would much rather pay someone else to do that!