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Elective C-Section (medical/non medical reasons)

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LittlePeaPod · 11/09/2013 08:21

I understand this subject has been done before. I also know that ECS particularly as personal choice rather than as a medical need is an emotive subject and the debate about CS birth can be particularly contentious.

Considering 1 in 4 women in the UK experience a CS birth I have been disappointed to see how inadequate access to CS antenatal information is, so women can make a truly informed decision. Personally I think it's short-sighted to focus solely on VB and continually emphasise managing pain relief. The NHS is so focused on their target to reduce the 1 in 4 CS due to cost that they are neglecting their responsibilities to those women that choose or want a CS birth regardless of medical need.

I am currently 23+6 and I have chosen to opt for an ECS. There is no medical reason for a CS but this is a birth choice that I want. I understand that CS and VB both carry real but different risks but I believe these risks should be explained to women so we can make informed decisions about which birth risks we wish to take. Unfortunately this is not the case and the push for VB is so endemic in the NHS that women are not receiving the true facts on CS.

For those women like me that want an ECS birth. I just wanted you to know that due to the new NISA guidelines if you want/choose a CS the NHS now have to give you one. They will do everything they can to try and change your mind to the point of trying to scare you and make you feel guilty about your choice. But, regardless of medical need if you insist that a CS is the right choice for you the NHS have to honour your wishes and give you a CS. I am fortunate to have been able to privately pay for independent advice on VB and CS from three different very well respected professionals in the UK (two consultant obstetricians and one consultant in fetal medicine) and also received advice from a close family friend who is a consultant anaesthetist. I was shocked to hear how target driven VBs are in the NGS and how in fact this is what's driving the push for women been made to think they should have a VB and not the safety issue.

Ladies it is your choice how you have your babies and what you do with your body. If you want a CS you can have a CS regardless of medical need on the NHS. My DF and I have just spent a lot of money finding that out. I am 23+6 and the NHS have now confirmed I will be having an ECS and there is no medical or psychological need. I am having it because its my choice. I wanted to share this because prior to spending a fortune getting non biased information I was under the impression that I had to prove a VB was medically necessary, would psychologically affect me or that I had a fear of VB before a CS would be authorised by the NHS. Well that's not the case, its about personal choice. VB or CS you have a right to choose and the NHS have to honour your choice. It's just a shame and has royally pissed me the fuck off that if your choice is an ECS for non medical reasons the NHS are making it so difficult for you to opt for that choice in an informed way.

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LittlePeaPod · 18/10/2013 16:05

Munchkinjess that is disgusting and effectively it sounds like you and the baby are been penalised for you choosing to have CS. So their bias and shortsighted ignorant attitude clearly carrys on post birth. What a utter bunch of twats. Definetly complain. Are you complaining to the hospital or the NMC? My friend had appalling care from her MW and she has taken it up with the hospital and the NMC ( www.nmc-uk.org/About-us/How-to-make-a-complaint-about-the-NMC/) I hope you are feeling better in yourself and your lo is doing well. Flowers

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angryangryyoungwoman · 18/10/2013 16:08

munchkinjess I am so sorry to read this. Please do complain when you feel able to. You shouldn't be treated like this. Thinking of you and your little one x

LittlePeaPod · 18/10/2013 16:13

Munchkinjess I am so angry... If she says anything else about breast feeding tell her in no uncertain terms to fuck right off you twat. Angry

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MunchkinJess · 18/10/2013 17:00

thank you so much.

I am not sure who it is best to complain to.

when baby sofia was born I had to recover in the operating theater as there was no space for me in recovery. we had booked a private room for after birth so that my partner could stay the night with us (breakfast included for the price of £90). well there were no private roomes available and even no space on the labour ward for me either. my c section was at approximately 12 midday I was eventually wheeled on to a ward at 6ish . then a breastfeeding consultant came to see me. could see I was having trouble and said someone would come see me the next day in the morning. I had skin to skin as soon as baby was born and tried breastfeeding as soon as I was stitched up for all those about to jump down my throat!

anyways at around 8ish we finally got our private room. my mun at around 9 checked on the baby for me and she had a dirty nappy. no midwife had bothered to check her since she was born! ! my partner tried to go see the midwives and they told him to go away as they were doing handover. we were concerned as she was puking up brownish spit. anyways when a junior midwive came we showed her the Spit and she said ive never seen that before , I dont know what that is! she then took another 30 mins to get another midwife in who told us it was normal. I then said the baby had a soiled nappy and noone had checked on her. she then turned round and said well we don't look after your baby for you we encourage you to be independent! ! I pointed out that I just had surgery, I still had a catheter in me, and my partner and I are new parents in order for us to be independent we need to be shown first how to do it! she then gave me a look as if to say well your fault for having surgery!! may I point out that my obstetrician who did my surgery commented that I had made the right decision to have a planned c section as I had a very high placenta and they had to use forceps for baby. he said if you had gone natural it would have been veru traumatic for you and would have ended in emergency!

baby at this point still hadnt fed and no midwife bothered to check she had. the next day still hadnt fed kept being told a breastfeeding consultant would come see us by 2pm no one had. I got so angry that I demanded formal to which the midwife said we are a breastfeeding hospital! ! and I said...and your point is what?!?!? my baby hasnt fed in nearly 27 hours. she asked me to show her what I was doing as if I was making it up! I showed her and she then agreed and saw and said ok we will give her formula but only one bottle as we are breastfeeding hospital you wil have to bring in your own supply. .. she then insisted on cup feeding baby so she doesn't get confused and I can still try breastfeeding.

This is only a very small caption of my stay and experience and I truly believe a big chunk of it is because I had a planned c section and their judgement and views were brought into my aftercareSad

MunchkinJess · 18/10/2013 17:05

. oh and every time food was ready they called to me and said dinner or Breakfast is ready but you have to come out here to get it!! bearing in mind I had been fasting for over 24 hours and just had surgery. .. and breakfast for my partner was white bread and jam.

These are small things but just adds on top of everything else.

I never ate the hospital food as I couldn't bear it , I was so distressed.

angryangryyoungwoman · 18/10/2013 17:20

Oh jess that is terrible. I really feel for you. littlepeapod posted an important link above, I would start by writing down everything that happened. Then send a copy to the supervisor of midwives at your hospital, a copy to the nmc and ask for the midwife who attends you now to be changed. There is no excuse for the treatment and lack of care you have had so far and I am so angry on your behalf. I know this sounds placatory, but I am glad to hear you and little one are healthy. If you can't breastfeed, it is not the end of the world. Don't allow other people to make you feel bad about it. If they try it again, I agree with littlepeapod, it's time to say fuck off and don't accept it. Stay strong, complain, and enjoy your baby. I know it's easy for me to say, and harder to do, but please know, it's them, not you x

Handbagsonnhold · 18/10/2013 17:25

Munchkin.... just read your post and sounds as if the care you both received has been so lacking..... I hope your voice is heard and lots of luck with your beautiful new arrival x

Flibbertyjibbet · 18/10/2013 18:22

The thread was quite an interesting discussion up till just now.

There are private rooms available at our NHS hospital. However, priority is given for the rooms, to others who need them. For example for the mother if a baby has died. My friend was paying for a private room after the birth of her child and was asked to vacate it for someone who needed it more.

So, yes you can pay for a private room but its not a hotel, you will get bumped out of it (or put on a ward) if a room is not available for you because someone else needs it more.

I had a section with ds2 due to him being a large transverse baby. I don't recall that it was the midwife's job to change his nappy. Your partner was there of course he can do it! You both let your baby lie there in a soiled nappy waiting for a midwife to come and change it Confused.

givemeaclue · 18/10/2013 18:43

Mothers of babies who have died are not on maternity wards. That would be heartless. They are on gynae wards.
But yes, private rooms are notguaranteed. I had one with e en suite no charge but I was ill and had twins.

MunchkinJess · 18/10/2013 19:18

flibber I dont care for your post and next time ill remember right after surgery to jump right out of bed and rip my stitches openEnvy .. my point which you clearly missed was not that I want them to care for my baby but is the fact that no one cared to at least check and the lack of care and the fact we are new parents who may need a little support ...

I am leaving this thread now as I have a new born and dont really want to be interacting with negative judgmental people like you!!

and FYI the private rooms where not and are not for mothers of dead babies or emergencies.

thank you to everyone else for your kind words, support and advice.

LittlePeaPod · 18/10/2013 19:41

Flibbertyjibbet well you seem like a very thoughtful and non judgmental person. Always great to see a new mother who has just had surgery and feels traumatised been attacked like that! Hmm Clearly you seem able to empathise with another persons pain.. This is not the AIBU thread, its the pregnancy thread which I always thought was supposed to be supportive. If you don't agree fine but you don't attack a traumatised mother and start throwing sleeping baby comparisons around. Seriously! Confused

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LittlePeaPod · 18/10/2013 19:42

Munchkinjess I am sorry you have just been attacked on this thread. It was never set up for that purpose. Flowers

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RedToothBrush · 18/10/2013 20:00

Just come to this thread and have found it frustrating to read certain comments from both sides. Its not a competition and the mud slinging and ignorance displayed by some posters does no one any good.

Let me explain a few things which the NICE guidance on maternal request were based on and why the guidance was updated in the first place as the background is highly relevant to the whole debate and highlights a number of issues in how medical data is being presented to the public and profession itself. It highlights just how much biased information is being propagated for various agendas. And it highlights how the guidelines are being misinterpreted by some.

The NICE guideline are primarily focused on this aspect of anxiety/trauma. The reason for this was the group who wrote the guidelines identify the fact that there was a wide disparity and lack of clear definition of what 'need' was. This was leading to a wide variation of care and treatment across the country. Some consultations were more proactive than others in identifying that 'need' wasn't purely physical but also included mental health aspects. This was meaning some women who had a genuine 'need' were being ignored or dismissed and this was causing an enormous amount of unnecessary distress to them by denying them this choice. This included women going to the extreme of aborting a much wanted pregnancy in a small number of cases, but in the less extreme cases, denying a woman her choice seemed to be damaging to her health (higher rates of PND and PTSD appear to be associated with this in several studies).

It was noted that there tended to be a pattern in women who asked for ELCS - these included a much higher incidence of them having had a previously traumatic birth, had a history of anxiety or other mental health issues, had been raped or sexually abused, had delayed pregnancy until they were older, were more likely to have had fertility issues. All reasons that effectively made them higher risk or more vulnerable than the 'average' woman.

The actual guidelines are as follows:

Maternal request for CS
When a woman requests a CS explore, discuss and record the specific reasons for the request.

If a woman requests a CS when there is no other indication, discuss the overall risks and benefits of CS compared with vaginal birth and record that this discussion has taken place. Include a discussion with other members of the obstetric team (including the obstetrician, midwife and anaesthetist) if necessary to explore the reasons for the request, and ensure the woman has accurate information.

When a woman requests a CS because she has anxiety about childbirth, offer referral to a healthcare professional with expertise in providing perinatal mental health support to help her address her anxiety in a supportive manner.

Ensure the healthcare professional providing perinatal mental health support has access to the planned place of birth during the antenatal period in order to provide care.

For women requesting a CS, if after discussion and offer of support (including perinatal mental health support for women with anxiety about childbirth), a vaginal birth is still not an acceptable option, offer a planned CS.

An obstetrician unwilling to perform a CS should refer the woman to an obstetrician who will carry out the CS.

Note a couple of things about the above

  1. Although the emphasis in the document is on anxiety - the guidelines are worded to state 'because of anxiety' as just one reason why a woman might request an ELCS. This means there is no definition of what a 'valid' reason for an ELCS is. And the panel acknowledged this and stated that whatever the reasoning they could not offer a medical argument why a woman shouldn't have an ELCS if, after knowing the pros and cons, she felt it was the best option for her. In short - ALL reasons for wanting an ELCS were effectively deemed valid based on the evidence they had.

  2. The word 'offer' rather than insist on a woman having mental health support. Unfortunately this particular paragraph is the one that has been more widely be misinterpreted and misused with women feeling like / and being told they MUST have some sort of counselling in order to get an ELCS. Its simply not the intent of the document.

  3. That an ELCS should always be available no matter what. It should not be refused if a woman does understand the risks. This paragraph came from the fear that, even in women who wanted an ELCS for a 'lifestyle' choice, that denying them one might have an impact on the women's mental health. It also recognised the pattern of women who asked for an ELCS being more likely to have trust issues (perhaps from a trauma birth or from having people in a position of power abuse that trust with them) and this paragraph ensured that those women - who might otherwise completely avoid seeking medical assistance - would engage with healthcare providers and give them the chance to build up trust again. FOR THEIR OWN SAFETY AND SAFETY OF THEIR CHILD. Its key to understand this is a safety net and comfort blanket to the whole concept.

NICE also pointed out the fundamentally flawed way that methods of birth are compared in studies terms of finance and health. There is some merit to comparing an unassisted VB, an instrumental VB, an ELCS and a EMCS directly but only in certain situations. In reality there is only two methods of birth - a planned VB; which includes the risks of an instrumental VB and an EMCS - and a planned ELCS. If you just compare an unassisted VB to an ELCS you tend to understate the risks and costs of a VB and overstate the risks and costs of an ELCS making it poor methodology to do so.

They also stated that healthcare does not start and end at the maternity wards doors. So neither do the costs, financial and medical. So if you are properly comparing the two you MUST look at complications to be fair. Their conclusion was when they looked at the complications of incontinence alone then an ELCS came out favourable. They said that cost should NOT be used as justification to deny an ELCS as this was unfair and that an ELCS was a cost effective way to give birth. Remember NICE do NOT make recommendations and draw up guidelines without assessing cost. The irony was also that they found that in their models, once the level of ELCS reached a certain point, it was actually cheaper for an ELCS (think factory production line). So anyone using the cost argument to say thats why we should all be having VBs ought to be very careful.

NICE are a group who have been vilified at times for making decisions about drugs and treatments on the basis of cost. So its very ironic when they say something is cost effective, that they get ignored and the argument that keeps getting repeated is the old one with poor scientific data behind it.

Theres also another poor methodology at play here which a lot of people like to ignore. Risks are not universal. There are certain groups where the chances of being able to achieve an unassisted birth is statistically lower than an instrumental birth or an EMCS. Its still possible, but it is currently impossible to work out which women these might be. However this means that the woman does not have a physical 'need' for an ELCS and her reasons for wanting a ELCS deemed 'invalid'. Is it right that in this situation, she should be denied an ELCS if thats what she wants? Should she be automatically be forced to roll the dice and see what happens rather than deciding whether she would prefer the risks associated with an ELCS? Women in this country are not stupid nor ill-educated and are capable of deciding which is better if they are given unbiased information.

Equally the converse is also true - There are groups where the statistical chances of an unassisted VB is extremely high. And in answer to the argument on how you give birth affecting others and how an ELCS might prevent someone who needs an EMCS having one - should these women be denied a homebirth because there wouldn't be enough midwives on the ward if they attended a homebirth? Especially since place of birth study noted that women were more likely to have medical intervention if they give birth in hospital. Not to mention if more women are having ELCS, this would potential reduce the number of EMCS in the process too. (Consider the very genuine case for the argument that a sizeable percentage women requesting an ELCS might be in a higher risk group for an EMCS in the first place). The solution is not to deny others, but to make sure the proper facilities are available for all for the appropriate care for all. Which may well include this element of choice.

I also want to comment on the number of people who say "if you want a ELCS you should use a private hospital". The trouble is, that simply isn't an option, even if you can afford it for the majority of the UK. Virtually all private hospitals do not have the facility and experience to perform an ELCS; there is only one private maternity hospital in the UK and all the private maternity wards in NHS hospitals are in the SE. So effectively you are denied this option. And as I have already stated, in terms of cost, the stick to beat women with, has been deemed totally invalid anyway.

All in all, this debate is totally dominated by emotion and ideological belief. It shouldn't be. It should be dominated by evidence based medicine rather than ideology and politics - you know like what NICE did when they wrote the damn guidelines. And the panel fwiw was made up of both midwives and consultants working together, before that old chestnut pops up.

When the guidelines were about to be published in their final format something very interesting happened. A number of hospitals preempted it by saying they had a policy of refusing ALL maternal requests. Which is a very interesting move don't you think? Why preempt the publication of a paper which did lengthy research into the subject and deliberately state you are going to ignore it, if it supports maternal requests? Why do that unless its a political move? Why ignore the idea that women are capable and making a decision based on evidence? Answer: Its very easy to paint the picture of the selfish mother who is too much of a princess to give birth naturally because their is so much ignorance and prejudice on the subject. Some of which is displayed on this thread.

Every woman is different. They have different needs and different ways of assessing risk and coping with things if the worst should happen. We need to put this into the debate, especially if the equation is saying that on balance there is a very valid and justifiable argument financially and for her health to state that women should be given the choice.

Instead, despite the intention of the new guidelines, nothing has been achieved in terms of ending the disparity in care between hospitals. If anything its made it far worse. However, it has achieved raising awareness and a growing acceptance that birth trauma and fear of childbirth does exist and needs to be taken seriously and treated. And it has raised the debate about women's autonomy over their own bodies in childbirth and what this means in terms of rights. Which is actually good for everyone regardless of whether you'd prefer a homebirth, a midwife led vb a consultant led vb or an ELCS.

This needs to stop being one group pitted against another group and it needs to become about identifying the needs, rights and differences between women for the benefit of all.

angryangryyoungwoman · 18/10/2013 21:10

flibbertygibbert midwives are there to care for parents and babies pre and post birth www.nct.org.uk/pregnancy/role-midwife read this if you want to educate yourself. I wonder what good you think such a post would do, especially as the poster has just had a baby and is obviously upset. If you didn't mean to be so insensitive then maybe you are just misinformed. So the above link should help. I do hope you are treated with more sympathy than you give if you are ever feeling vulnerable. redtoothbrush; what an interesting post, thank you.

Flibbertyjibbet · 18/10/2013 21:23

givemeaclue: My friend was asked to vacate the private room and go on the ward, because a mother had lost a twin and was being given a private room.

givemeaclue · 18/10/2013 22:07

And rightly so.

crazyhead · 18/10/2013 22:12

RedToothBrush - excellent post.

I am opting to have an ELCS this time round at UCLH in London (post a previous EMCS and with various VBAC aint happening factors so I'm not a hard ELCS sell) and they've been brilliant so far, but I've been shocked at the variation in experience of many of my friends who have wanted to talk about the options. In my case - I'd love to feel I could have a straightforward VBAC and feel quite sad about having another section, but like any woman have to balance up risks and possibilities in my case, whether those are emotional, physical or both. And you can never ever know what's 'right' you just have to try.

As flibbertygibbert says, it is quite true that you can't generally reserve rooms, they are allocated on the basis of need. However should have made that clearer to munchkinjess though - it is sad women often have such a horrible shock. I think that generally, it helps to know that the postnatal ward is may well be unresourced hell - I remember getting shouted at for ringing the help button at night to ask the midwife, three hours post surgery, to pass me my crying baby, even though I was on a catheter and had no other option! There's a lot of that.

RedToothBrush · 19/10/2013 07:45

This is the thing crazy - 'need' is such a subjective word on this topic and covers a few bases.

Obviously there are clear cases where an ELCS extremely advisable for medical reasons.

But then there is this grey area which is a lot more contentious and hard to argue. If the doctors are putting your chances of being able to have an unassisted vb at quite a low level, then to restrict your choice to have an ELCS is not a good thing, given that an instrumental birth and an EMCS carry higher risks. But at what point do you do this? Its an extremely difficult thing to assess.

We need to get away from this automatic assumption that women who are choosing to have an ELCS would have had an unassisted vb otherwise, because its simply not true and I think there is a strong case to be made that the opposite is actually more likely.

What we might find longer term is that the number of EMCS goes down due to women being more able to access an ELCS and actually the CS rate overall stays a lot more stable than people might think. I don't doubt this will cause its own moral panic as concerns rise about defensive medicine and too many women having unnecessary surgery, which will cause the focus to slip back to restricting ELCS - hence the real need to do proper research to assess what is going on, and to closely examine women's satisfaction with birth as part of that process.

Also in terms of 'need' I do think its worth giving consideration to how different people cope after birth, even if things go well. How do you assess whether someone needs a private room more than another? The example above is probably one of the few which is quite clear, but in other circumstances there may be women who have had a rough time physically but are better equipped to deal with emotionally than another woman who has had a relatively 'easy' birth.

I think you need to be looking at reasons why women might be booking a private room in the first place. I think if you do, you might actually find something quite interesting happening. Can all women who book a private room actually reasonable afford this or is this a stretch for them? If they are prepared to stretch themselves financially, why are they doing so? Are they more vulnerable and more needy in the first place? If this is the case, I think you then need to ask the question about how we can provide more private facilities and more support to women in this position. Its no good to simply say, "oh well that woman has more need than you so tough you can suffer and we won't consider how you feel". The trap is to believe that birth is purely physical and that the experiences of people like MunchkinJess are 'not valid' and should be disregarded as being unimportant or worst still that they are treated as women who simply need to "toughen up and stop whinging".

The trouble is, that people tend to see the subject in black and white, rather than allowing for a sliding scale in women in terms of anxiety, risk and ability to cope which makes it so much more complex and much more gray. We need to inject humanity into the process.

cocinelle · 28/11/2013 01:51

RedToothBrush - your posts, particularly that on the detail around the NICE recommendations have been enlightening. Thank you so much. Injecting humanity into the debate and rhetoric around this and other women's issues should absolutely essential, and it pains me to see such a lack of respect for opinions shared on this thread.

As it has been said countless times now, we are not all identikit dolls. We are not all predestined to have the same birth experiences. All we can do, and all we should seek to do, is make decisions for ourselves based on the values we hold, based on risks we are willing to take. We do not always need to agree with each others choices, but we have to defend everyone's right to make those choices. Essentially, the reason that this debate is able to become so emotive is because of a lack of readily accessible resources for weighing up those risks and factors. We are women. We are not stupid. We shouldn't need to fight for the ability to make decisions on what happens to our bodies and our children based on facts and personal experience not biased and potentially spurious information.

While I totally support and agree with the viewpoint that the point of giving birth is all about getting that baby into your arms, we cannot ignore that the potential traumas of birth - physical and psychological- can continue to have repercussions long after labour is done and dusted. To not be supportive of another persons choice in this regard is unfeeling. To jump a position of judgement rather than trying to understand and give merit to another viewpoint is just unkind.

Loved this thread otherwise, shame it seems to have died a death! It was stimulating to read well articulated arguments on both sides, and it has really helped me work through my very conflicting opinions on the issue.

LittlePeaPod · 28/11/2013 07:25

cocinelle. Thank you for your contribution and I completely agree with your position on this. With regards the thread going quite. My intention is to continue to update the thread through the process so women are at least aware of what to expect or what I am going through it case it helps them consider their position. My next update is due next week following my NHS Consultant Obstetrician appointment.

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terilou87 · 28/11/2013 11:38

I was waiting for this thread to be brought back up.
I think you are a week infront of me Littlepeapod iv got my consultant appointment in just under two weeks so it'll be interesting to see how yours goes!
I'll be getting the date for c section at that appointment consultant said it will be around 38 weeks, iv worked out that's 27th dec 'ish. It's starting to set in how soon it actually is till little man is here! Eeek
Cocinelle great post, I agree with everything you said, I found both views on vb and c sec helped me making my mind up which I wanted to go for aswell.

Chocolatemolehill · 28/11/2013 13:32

As some people have already commented - it's sad how much judgement and criticism women opting for ELCS get. And to what extend these opinions are, most often, completely not backed up by science but rather by myths and wishful thinking.

It makes me laugh when I hear that 'women were made to give birth naturally' and 'we should trust our bodies'. (Especially as mine is an IVF pregnancy :-)) There is an excellent book ('Eve - Sex, Childbirth and Motherhood Through the Ages') describing what happened to women and how natural childbirth really looked when the medical interventions we have now were not available. A huge % of women and babies died during delivery and women went into labour expecting they may not survive. (The book also shows how much what we think about childbirth is influenced by historical time and culture.) Natural selection, I guess...

Also, recovery after a very traumatic VB with 4th degree tears, forceps or other interventions could be just as long (and sometimes longer ) than after ELCS. Not to mention long-term effects resulting from pelvic floor damage. There are many people out there who had both VB and ELCS and would never choose VB again and research shows that levels of satisfaction with own birth experience are, on average, higher after ELCS than VBs. (Although, of course, there are many women who had great VB experiences.)

I've had many consultations with medics and have done a large amount of research (and I'm a researcher by background so know how to read, evaluate and interpret academic articles) into the pros and cons of VB and ELCS. Based on this I'm convinced that ELCS is going to be a safer option for my baby. As to me - I'd rather take the risks of ELCS than risks and unpredictability of VB.

I've made an educated, informed choice and really don't want to be patronised by those who made different choices for themselves. I personally can't get my head round why somebody would put their baby at risk by having a home birth (what if, for example, the baby is not breathing after birth and it dies before being transferred to the hospital? In such situations it's the matter of minutes!) but wouldn't judge or criticise women choosing this as their birth method. I respect their choice and want mine to be respected as well.

BTW - another interesting read on ELSC: 'Choosing Cesarean: A natural birth plan'

thecakeisalie · 28/11/2013 15:21

I don't know why home birth's keep getting brought up in this thread. If your going to make a sweeping statement about the risks of a baby needing resuscitation following a home birth at least read up on it quickly first.

I do find it amusing that on on hand you don't want to be judged but immediately make a judgmental statement about the risk of babies dying following a home birth.

LittlePeaPod · 28/11/2013 15:43

thecake I think if you read through the thread you will see that both positives and negatives have been discussed with regards most birthing options (home birth, CS, VB in MLU etc.). Home births are simply one of those choices. No one is judging those that choose a home birth. All people are saying is in the same way some people do not feel comfortable with the risks attached to CS others (like me) don't like the risks attached to home births. Does take any of our choices wrong. We all have our own perceptions of which risks are acceptable and which are not.

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LittlePeaPod · 28/11/2013 15:51

Terilou87 I am scheduled in at 39 weeks so it either 27, 30 or 31. I am going for 30 or 31 so not there over the weekend. MW said its better through the week when staffing levels are higher. So at this rate we may be ELCS birthing partners,, Grin

chocolate thank you for sharing your thoughts and information.

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