Can't talk to anyone - feel like a bad mother already

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I seriously don't know what's wrong with me. I've been so excited for the birth of my much wanted little girl. I'm due to have a section on fri but since yday I've nt been able to stop crying and I don't know why. Everyone I've seen/spoken to today has been saying thing like 'next time I see you you'll be a mummy' ' bet you are so excited' etc. and whenever I've heard/read messages they've started me off. Why have I suddenly gone so :( I do want this baby, but every on saying wont be long etc makes me feel upset and panicky. I've ever felt like this until now :( x

Try not to worry. I'm the same. I'm due #4 in 2 weeks and finding everything horrendous. I cry at the drop of a hat and am having some seriously bad days with my 3 year old, not to mention the discomfort I'm in.

I think when birth is imminent all fears of responsibility and asking ourselves if we are prepared come to the fore, not to mention stupid hormones

I can categorically say that I hate being pregnant. With me, all the feeling of crappiness goes away the second I hold my babies.

Good luck with your CS - you will soon be holding your baby and wondering what on earth you were stressing about

Totally, totally normal to feel this way. (At least: I felt that way!)
I don't know why people say 'You must be so excited' to first-time mothers in their last days and weeks of pregnancy! Most have serious cold feet and anxieties, which is a perfectly logical way to feel if you think about it.

Very best of luck for Friday OP.

I was very emotional the week or so before birth and just wanted to close myself off from everyone and their messages / interference. I think it's natural to feel that way.

However, if you feel you aren't coping do talk to someone eg midwife or GP.

Its ok. It's actually quite normal. I was a mess those last few weeks waiting to go into labour and that wasn't even with a planned section! You are tired, and hormonal, and scared. Everything is imminent now and it is terrifying. I had a similar wobble at 24w when I started thinking about how this really was it now, I couldn't change my mind (not that I wanted to) and I got scared and upset about that.

Good luck on Friday, and be nice to yourself. Don't ignore how you are feeling, it's all natural. And remember that it's also ok if you aren't overwhelmed with 'oh my god you're amazing' feelings for your baby in those first few days - a lot of women don't get that and that too is perfectly natural, but I imagine considering how you feel this week you might be more upset about it, so I just wanted to mention it.

I'm due next week and posted last week that I am totally freaking our about becoming a mum for the first time.
I spent most of yesterday crying for no reason whatsoever.

Seems to have passed today and I feel normal again but I really do think that at this point it's understandable that we are feeling anxious etc. We have a massive change ahead with lots of unknowns, add to that crazy hormones and it makes for a scary time.

I am just practicing the art of ignoring comments about how I 'must' be feeling as I don't think they are helpful. I'm also trying to ignore the media hype about people bouncing joyfully towards motherhood without a care in the world - I think this is true for some but is not the 'norm' by any stretch of the imagination.

I strongly believe that we will get through this though ad the fact that we are worried shows we are taking this parenthood thing seriously!

Totally normal. It didn't happen to me often, but I do remember one morning, standing sobbing at my husband at kings cross station. We were there about half an hour with me sobbing and saying 'there's nothing wrong', 'I don't know why I'm crying' over an over while sobbing and sobbing. It was surreal, but eventually it passed and I went to work!

Not long to go now. Just keep the tissues with you and let it all wash over you :) Just don't do anything drastic, like divorce your DH or resign your job for the next little while; you're really not up to making such decisions!