pressie ideas to sibling love from baby x

[honey86]

need some ideas... i have 2 boys , 7 and 5, and a girl,4.
there was alot of upheaval around dd's birth and it ended up in horrendous sibling rivalry between the younger 2. while i know its impossible to eliminate competitiveness, i wanna try and make of good start

i dont know what to get them from the baby.. something special like as a hello gift... dd particularly as for the last 4 years shes been my 'baby' and i think shes more likely to be jealous, also my middle boy as he might be thinking 'here we go again' lol

Special baby doll/doll's pram etc type stuff for DD so she can play babies/copy you?

Don't know what your boys are into, but Dr Who? Lego?

Maybe also some special toys for everyone that only come out when you need to spend time with baby eg feeding time?

Have you resolved the issues that caused problems last time round?

Do children ACTUALLY believe though that the new baby has bought them a present?? Surely they can't??

I have always found this concept really strange.....

Why not just buy your children a present and say it is from you and your partner to congratulate them on becoming big brothers and sisters?

If my sister had another baby and bought her 7 year old son a present and said it was from the baby he'd probably just start laughing and ask a 101 questions as to how the baby managed to go shopping

@clobbered yeah it took a good few years though to build up their sense of equalness... basically their dad (my dp) suddenly died of sudden cardiac death at christmas when i was expecting dd, and the boys had to stay with their auntie while i had dd home with me n worked through my grief (i werent functioning very well to adequately give them the attention they needed). plus i had to move house due to the mortgage, funeral costs etc they were grieving themselves too so its taken alot of cruse and school involvement to settle them again.

they like to talk to my belly and seem excited so so far so good x

point duly noted writer

DS2 "gave" DS1 a set of books from the Book People which were then "sit down with mummy while she bfs yet again" books. I will do similar for DS3 to DS2.

DS1 bought DS2 a little teddy bear. Again, similar.

DS3 to DS1 is more tricky though so am marking place for ideas. At 5.4 I am considering the Usborne pirate ship book he has had his eye on though.

At 4.2 I was enchanted by the Gloworm DB had given me, but pestered DF about when baby had possibly had time to go shopping

I'm so sorry to hear about your partner Honey.

My son is 3 and 7 months and baby due early Nov. I'm just putting together a little basket of goodies for him, so far a money box that says special brother on it and am going to get him a t shirt that says great big brother or something and maybe a toy he has his eye on.

I'm also going to let him choose a present to give to the baby so that he's involved that way too.

DS1 has got soon-to-arrive (I hope!!) DS2 a squishy bus which he and daddy chose and wrapped up. DS2 has 'bought' DS1 a remote controlled car. DS1 is 2.5 and very into the idea of gifts at the moment - he loves to wrap things up and give them to everyone, and always says 'a present because I love you' :) so we have used this to our advantage. He knows that he's got a present for the baby and said to my tummy last night 'come out baby, I've got you a present'. We've been saying 'maybe the baby will get you a present too' and he is curious about this too. He's very into the idea though - if he wasn't, I wouldn't have pushed it, just maybe got a gift from all of us, buy it seems to be working.

Now all I have to do is get this baby OUT (40+1 and had quite enough lol)