I am currently 4 months pregnant with my boyfriend of 7 months' baby, who is six years my junior, I will be 40 by the time the baby is due, and he'll be 34.
I am what people consider an 'older' mother, but I feel very much young and energetic. Maybe because that's because I live alone and have a very active social life ... You know the saying, 40 is the new 30.
I've always wanted children, and I thought my dreams of becoming a mum were over as I never met the right guy, and my biological clock was ticking fast.
But, this isn't an ideal way to start a family as we don't feel that our relationship is stable. We don't currently live together and we aren't even ready to marry nevermind have children. He tried initially to talk me into giving up for adoption, but I know I want to keep it, a decision which he supports.
We have no worries financially as I have a stable, well-paying job, with a 2 bedroom property, enough to accommodate my child in the long term, and
Family and friends are very excited and supportive about my pregnancy, especially my parents as they are thrilled about being grandparents again for the first time in 9 years!!
I will primarily be raising my child as a single parent, but my boyfriend will remain very much involved in the upbringing of our child, and maybe one day we might move in together for the sake of the child, which we have talked about.
Of course I am very excited as is the boyfriend, just that it's really an unexpected turn in our relationship, but we are determined to make this work.
I am just writing this to see if anyone was in a similar situation, or you would like to offer advice?