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Getting upset in morrisons car park!

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MummyJetsetter · 03/09/2013 11:28

I'm due dc2 in a few weeks and I've been finding myself welling up when I think about my ds not being the only one anymore. I'll just be making the bed or some other menial task and suddenly picture that moment when ds1 turns up to visit me in hospital and just cry! Is this weird or does everyone feel that way?

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HenriettaPye · 03/09/2013 11:33

Oh mummy, it's hard isn't it? It's all those pregnancy hormones!!
I felt exactly like that. I actually felt guilty that I was having another baby and felt I had let my child down by having another.

Fast forward a year and DS is 3 and DD had just turned 1 and they are best friends! DS never remembers a time when DD wasn't here.

What age is your DC?

muppetthecow · 03/09/2013 11:33

I've just had DS2 and was the same for about a month before he was born. I just kept worrying that he would think we didn't love him any more or were trying to replace him I think my most embarrassing moment was when I burst into tears in the corner shop and the old guy who runs it went and got me a Wispa to eat (free of charge!) because that's what I always bought with my milk and bread

If it's any consolation, DS1 is a much happier boy since his brother came home! Partly because I'm in a fit state to play with him again (SPD put a bit of a downer on that during pg) but mostly because he has a fabulous new 'toy' to play with

candr · 03/09/2013 11:37

Feel the same. I love DS so much and it seems impossable that we can love another one as much but I know we will and I really look forward to seeing the differences and similarities between them and can't wait till they are old enough to play together but do worry that DS will be upset at not being able to have cuddles and kisses whenever he wants as he loves just climbing up for cuddles a lot.Have 5weeks left till due date so am trying tothink of all the posotives.

HenriettaPye · 03/09/2013 11:42

You will love number 2 just as much, seems impossible but you will! And there's no reason why DS can't still come up on your knee for cuddles, alot of the first months were spend with a child on each knee

SoupDragon · 03/09/2013 11:43

If you think it's bad now, wait until you see your PFB son for the first time after having your baby. I still remember the gut wrenching feeling I got when I saw how much he'd grown in that 1 day and thought "What have we done to him?!"

It passed and for at least 10 years a brother was the best thing I could have "given" him. Less so now he's 14 and they irritate each other! :)

HenriettaPye · 03/09/2013 11:54

I made the decision that I didn't want DS to visit me in hospital- he's always been close to my mum so he went to stay there while I was in hospital, then DH brought him up to take me and his new little sister home.

It was a hard 2 days not seeing him but I knew it would have been harder seeing him for an hour at visiting time then him having to go home and me staying there with a new baby. There would have been tears from both of us!

But yes, when he walked into the ward to collect me I burst into tears as he was so big!! He looked like he had doubled in size!

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MummyJetsetter · 03/09/2013 12:27

Oh god I'm crying reading all the responses! Bloody hormones!

He's 3.5 henrietta. I don't know if I feel guilty or what, I think I'll just miss him. He's so excited about the baby and we say it's our baby, him included so I'm not even worried about how he'll react or behave. Think it's safe to say it's just those wonderful hormones floating around my brain!

I do remember when he was born and we went home, the cat suddenly looked huge and she's the tiniest cat and my friend visited with her 4 month old who also looked huge with a big head but seemed tiny before!

Thank you for responding, glad it's not just me! x

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HenriettaPye · 03/09/2013 13:52

Laughing at 'big head' - I couldn't get over how big DS hands were- they were like big adult hands!

What your feeling is so normal, please don't stress. Your DS is at a lovely age, and kids are so adaptable! Try and enjoy the last few weeks of your pregnancy because life is gonna become alot more hectic!

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MummyJetsetter · 03/09/2013 14:50

I'm now thinking about what you said about ds visiting then having to leave!

I just hope I go in to labour in the night when he's asleep and if all is straight forward I can be home that day so he can just come and pick us up! I was really fast with him so fingers crossed for the same again! x

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HenriettaPye · 03/09/2013 14:56

I had a planned section so knew when I was going in and how long I would be in for so made it easier to plan. I personally found it was definitely easier not to have him visiting, but I'm sure others have had their DC visiting and they were fine with it!

FobblyWoof · 03/09/2013 14:58

I'm 23 weeks and I'm already feeling so guilty that I'll be in hospital and away from dd for a couple of days (elcs) and even worse that it's around Christmas time.

LeBFG · 03/09/2013 15:05

We (parents) worry so much about our little ones...no need to though.

I thought DS might collapse in tears at the momentous arrival of DD - nothing of the sort. Barely gave her a glace in the hospital and a few weeks at home he was giving her his toys and little kisses.

Was weird changing a little baby after giant DS though.

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MummyJetsetter · 03/09/2013 15:15

I'm not even worried about him, he's such a caring and sweet little boy, I asked him if he wanted to give any of his teddies to the baby and he would have happily given them all so ended up just picking the babyish ones out. I think what I'm feeling is actually totally selfish! It is irrational and I might not even be emotional at the time. I always thought I'd cry when holding my baby for the first time but after going through all that pain I didn't even feel emotional just bewildered and a bit relieved it was done. I did get upset having to stay in hospital though when my oh went home! x

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SoupDragon · 03/09/2013 15:37

I found dressing a newborn tricky after all that time spent dressing something broadly cooperative :)

But yes, DS1 was fine about his sibling(s - DD arrived when he was 7). It was just the hormonal pregnant/postnatal woman who was the problem!

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MummyJetsetter · 03/09/2013 16:28

Oh yeah dressing a little wriggly thing is a distant memory! So are nappies, bathing, feeding etc! Hope it all comes back to me! I read books to teach me 1st time but can't be bothered with that now! I figure I can refer back if I need to! x

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LeBFG · 03/09/2013 16:39

I'd didn't cry with either of mine. Just happy/contented that's all. Best of luck with your newborn.

Andanotherthing123 · 04/09/2013 07:46

My eldest is currently quite cross he won't be the first to give DC3 a kiss when it's born, but I can't oblige as I'll be having a planned cs. He was entranced by dc2 when he was born and that was the most amazing moment for me, watching him gaze at his new brother. He then proceeded to take complete ownership of his brother, to the point of telling me when he was about to leave the room and reminding me to look after the baby. He was only 2 at the time!

jennimoo · 04/09/2013 08:00

I was sent home from the hospital to labour at home, where my mum was looking after DD (almost 3). I managed to join her for bedtime story before heading back to hospital. Made it home before she got up, and she discovered DS in his crib. It was magical and I managed to film it.

The look on her face when she sees him hasn't faded yet, but he's only 8 days! It makes me realise there are so many benefits for her.

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MummyJetsetter · 04/09/2013 14:09

Aww jennimoo that sounds magical! I'd love to have it that way! Put ds1 to bed, pop the baby out (painlessly of course) then when he comes in in the morning the baby is in the Moses basket by the bed. Perfect! x

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HorryIsUpduffed · 05/09/2013 08:00

I definitely felt like you, OP, to the extent that I focused all my planning on him and sort of forgot that there would be an actual baby to look after...

He recently told me that the best thing in his life is having little brothers. Which is handy, since I'm due DC3 in eight weeks.

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MummyJetsetter · 05/09/2013 11:25

That's sweet horry! x

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