Can't stop crying. Is this normal?

[FredFlintstonesSister]

I'm 15 weeks pregnant and very happy about it. In fact, DH and I had some minor fertility treatment to get pregnant so it's not like it was a surprise. However, I woke up this morning in tears and have been crying ever since. My hips hurt at night, which means I get a crappy nights sleep, I'm so constipated I look twice as pregnant as I am and I am totally exhausted. I've ended up taking the day off work as between the crying and the exhaustion I'm in no fit state. Now I feel terrible for missing work! I thought I was supposed to be feeling good by the second trimester. Anyone else experienced this?

I don't know why this posted twice! Everything is going wrong for me today!

fredflintstone ooooh those hormones can be a nightmare! Try not to be too hard on yourself though! You are only Human and you are bringing a new person into this world real soon so your body is going through lots!
Don't worry about being off work. Non pregnant People go off sick all the time.
Sounds like you need some time to chill and take time out for YOU! I had a major attack of the weepies about 14weeks (with my first baby)and this was mainly due the fact I had been sooooooo sick and it didn't stop until week 17. It all just got a bit too much. After 18weeks I felt less weepy and things got back on track.
Hope you feel better real soon x

Thanks crazycranberry, I also had really bad morning sickness until a few weeks ago but thought I'd be feeling much better generally now that I can eat better. But you're right, there is a lot going on physically and hormonally so I guess it's never going to be plain sailing.

Poor you - being pregnant is tough. It is much nicer when you actually have the baby, I did not enjoy my first pregnancy at all. You sound like a nicer person to be around than I was during my first, my hormones made me very grumpy and cutting with everyone, particularly dh. I knew I was being irrational and my family told me it was so unlike me but I didn't give a damn - my response was I must be too soft with them normally and this is how I should be with them all the time! My morning sickness and tiredness stopped around 14 weeks, but being extremely grumpy and sensitive stayed the whole way through, only disappearing when the baby arrived.

Surround yourself with supportive, understanding people and try to explain how you're feeling. You did the right thing staying off work - IME no one thanks you for going in when you're under par and very few workplaces make much allowances for a woman being pregnant. Put yourself and the baby first and good luck, it will be worth it!

Thank you. It's reassuring to hear I'm not just being self indulgent. Taking time off work for any reason always makes me feel guilty but it helps to think it's not just me, it's for the baby too.

I could have written your post! I have been all over the place emotionally. Have had lots of medical problems which haven't helped, but tbh my head has been a bit crazy regardless.

It did get better in the mid trimester. But then recently I have been vile to live with again and bawling all the time. I am usually a very calm and rational person so no idea were it is coming from.

Am knackered, in pain, used to being in control, high pressure job which i take in my stride. Now everything annoys me!

Be kind to yourself, it is hormones, it will pass.

And on the days when you feel more normal, be really REALLY nice to everyone!

The control thing definitely hits a nerve. I like to think of myself as quite capable but at the moment I feel like an invalid. This in turn makes me feel like I'm letting everyone down. Trying to spend the day doing a bit of housework and then probably watching a movie to try and pamper myself a little.

Totally normal! My hormones didn't really kick in until the second trimester - had a complete meltdown at DH because I couldn't fix the washing machine .

Seem to have settled a bit now at 20 weeks although we ce very close to WW3 on Sunday when no matter how hard I tried I couldn't manage to use a tape measure properly. Luckily DH is being an angel and is mostly managing not to die laughing at me but its always when I can't do something that I lose it, especially if I've got it into my head that I should be able to! Also like to think of myself as very capable so learning to let people help is proving rather difficult.

Lots of hugs and enjoy your afternoon

I think it's normal for many, me certainly!

I was approached by a charity collector outside the supermarket last week telling me about the work this particular charity did with special needs children. To my horror I started crying, tears streaming down my face, it was just so sad! :( I felt a right wally but the guy gave me a hug and I walked off (all outside a big supermarket!)

Likw Fredflintstone I too HATE not being able to do things. I want to be sorting out our new house, doing all the housework, sorting the garden etc. But I can barely find the energy to get my arse of the sofa some days! :)

Oh me too! 16 weeks, and also thought by now I'd be full of energy and loving being pregnant. It's my second pregnancy and I don't remember this from the first one.

Instead I'm still really tired and frustrated at how little I'm getting done, plus fine and happy one minute and a mess the next. The other day I had to go to my bedroom (away from DS) to have a proper sob because I'd splashed myself with a tiny bit of bolognese sauce, on one of the few tops I have that still fits and was clean on!

It's so unlike me, I'm normally very calm and no-fuss, so not enjoying this at all!

Yes! I'm at 38 weeks and still crying but loving being pregnant despite all the stress, worry, uncomfortableness that goes with it this afternoon's tears are proudly brought to you by 'scared that baby will die in childbirth'. Yesterday's were courtesy of 'house is so untidy it scares me' and I can't remember what yesterday morning's were about, but there were some, I think dh said something lovely!!

Enjoy ... keep drinking and don't let the tears dehydrate you! Laugh about it as much as you can and accept that it is all mental hormones