Terrified of telling people

[MummyPig24]

We have our scan tomorrow, and providing everything goes well we can then tell everyone ours news. However, I'm totally shitting myself.

I don't know what my family are going to think. This is dc3, I'm 25, married but we live in a tiny house and money is a struggle. This baby is very much wanted and we are really happy.

Friends will all be great and happy but family, I don't know, I'm just so worried we will get a huge lecture about what a stupid thing we are doing. How do I not let it get to me?

Its a difficult one. You just have to let it go.
I am 23, married, baby planned and very happy (for the most part), money is tight, but DH and I are feeling very secure in our plans and future.
My (D)Mother told me I had ruined my life when I told her and wanted nothing to do with it, my Dad called me from S.Africa to yell at me for being irresponsible and being outraged I was expecting him to support the child (not sure when exactly I asked him to do this, but clearly I did, at some point, because he was quite adamant about it)- that was at 6 weeks. I am now 30 weeks ish and both are happy as Larry, well, they put on a facade that they are, they agree it isn't the best timing, but can see how happy DH and I are and have just gotten over it.
At the end of the day, it is not your problem, you are happy, it is theirs... They can either get over it and embrace it, or not be part of the little ones life.
Tell them, tell them how happy you are, do not listen to a lecture and tell them you will speak to them when they have calmed down and grown up. Its a baby, not a crime!
Good luck.. and HUGE CONGRATS!!! xxx

Look them in the eye. Hold the gaze. Say, in an icily calm voice "The word you are looking for is Congratulations." Walk out if you get anything further.

This is about you, not them.

Congratulations

God I'm just so nervous. It's my dads birthday tomorrow, I had invited him over for dinner but it looks like he has better things to do now so I will tell him over the phone. "If you have anything negative to say, I don't want to hear it." He bollocked me for getting pregnant with dc2 but he was then the first at the hospital when she was born!

Dhs mum said last week "shall we get rid of that manky high chair? If you have another baby we can always buy a new one." Which makes me think she will be ok but dh seems to think they will freak out.

Oh god I feel sick (more than usual) I'm so bloody nervous.

Mummypig, you arent alone in feeling this way. Im also on dc3 and havin 12 wk scan on thur so feel like ile have to start breaking the news soon.
However i know im not going to get a positive reaction. Im 33 and have dd whos 6 and ds whos 3, been with partner 18 years, we both have good jobs etc, but still struggling financially at the mo (like most people).
But apart from that i had major gynea surgery in march and almost died from heammorage, so its taken some getting over.

This baby will probably undo the repair work i had done and ile need cs, despite that its still going to be loved as much as my other dcs.

On the other hand i know my family will not react positively and am expecting comments like 'am i mad' etc. Ive decided to face it head on and as the poster above said, ask them to be happy for me and if they have nothing good to say then ask they dont say anything at all.

At the end of the day its my life/my body and ile be living with the consequences.
In a few years our homes will be bursting with love (and squabbles no doubt) but im sure we wouldnt want it any other way!

I'm so relieved. Everyone has reacted positively, my brother, in his true fashion, declared it "awesome"! Even my dad was cool about it. I'm so glad telling them is over with.

And the best thing is baby is healthy and growing.

Oh YAY! How fantastic!

That's one big sigh of relief I can breathe and look forward to d-day!