keeping the secret

[bebopanddoowop]

I'm 7 weeks and finding it so hard to keep the secret! My husband and I agreed to not tell anyone except my mother 'til after our scan.. But I'm finding it very hard to explain why I'm not drinking.. To cover up that i'm constantly feeling/being sick. I don't want to tell everyone but people keep guessing, as we are newlyweds and everyone knows babies were on our agenda. I feel like when people ask if I'm pregnant I can't say 'no' for fear of jinxing it! What did/does everyone else do in this situation??

I told people at work for health and safety reasons and it has been a God Send because now they know why I look and feel like crap most days.

I have also told one of my aunts, my sister and one of my best friends - my husband doesn't know this though!!

Loads of people are making comments as we are also newlywed and always said we'd start baby making ASAP but I have no problem lying to them I have come up with some right porkies in order to throw people off the scent!!! I actually enjoy doing it, but I just love seeing how gullible some people are!

I just keep imaging their face when we actually come clean and they find out we have Ben lying to them for so long!

We have got our scan in just over 2 weeks so I'm going to enjoy keeping up the pretence until then I'm so naughty

If anyone does ask you if you are pregnant I would reply with something like that's very rude/personal question but we are trying so who knows what will happen in the future. Obviously this depends on how well you know the person asking. Its not a lie but not saying yes either.

I got all offended and asked "are you saying I've gained weight, I didn't think a few lb was that obvious"

All very good advice thanks!
Being a wee bit overweight anyway, I like to use the line "you don't get pregnant in your arms and legs ya know" pointing at my bingo wings hehe but with those that know me well it is hard to throw them off the scent! Am going away with friends this weekend from London to Glasgow so might just have to pretend its travel sickness I'm having, not 'morning'!

We were 3weeks when we found out and as i am so superstitious we only wanted to tell our mothers till we were 12 weeks...my mother in law decided to tell everyone so the choice was taken out of our hands!!

If it helps I'm 12 weeks and have just told everyone having hidden it for weeks and they are all thrilled and not at all cross that they weren't told.

I know what you mean about jinxing it - when I was quizzed at work because I was unwell one lady asked - "are you pregnant?" And I just shrugged and said "I've taken a test, think I've got a virus". Not technically a lie....I had taken a a test and it was positive :)

Mrs Muskett - that's exactly why we haven't told my MiL! I love her but she loves a gossip.

Charingcrossbun - yes tactical lying seems a good idea! Have used the line, 'well I can't hear a heartbeat, just my dinner' which is true!

We just told everyone right away both times. I was too excited! What we decided to do for a bit of fun this time was to find out the gender but tell everyone we didn't so everyone's going to be like, I thought you didn't know so why is the baby dressed in pink/blue as soon as it's born? I wonder if anyone will be annoyed! x

We told everyone yesterday and only a select few before. I hit 12 weeks today. I'm now absolutely shitting myself that I've told everyone without knowing if everything is ok as I only get scanned next week

Told my team at work straight away due to incredible sickness and now most of the building know as I'm always in the loo. Couldn't have kept it secret if I wanted to. Had two early scans so decided we may as well as seen heartbeat and risk of miscarriage falls dramatically once its heartbeats. Even show people my scan.
The way I see it is that if it all goes wrong I will need the support from friends/family/colleagues and have more rights at work when they know

Aaaarrrggghhh! Keeping this from my friends is really hard! My partner and I also decided not to tell people until we'd had the scan. I am going into 8th week tomorrow so at least another 4 weeks before we can tell.
I have to tell one person though and I'm dreading it because my due date is her wedding date and I am her only bridesmaid (we are booked in to go bridesmaid dress shopping in 2weeks)! Not sure how she will react to be honest.

We just got the BFP this morning so am 4 weeks.

Last time round we told family around 7 weeks and I was planning on keeping it quiet until the 12 week scan but ended up telling my manager at 8 weeks cos I was sooooo ill

This time we're planning on telling family at 7 weeks (at a family party) but I don't want to tell work until I'm 4 months because I'm in line for a promotion and don't want to jeopardise it (and yes, being pregnant would be held against me although officially I just wouldn't be "ready" )

Have no idea how I'll keep it quiet if I'm as ill as last time though. Am really quite concerned about it.

My dh came up with our response, we just turn it around and say "Broody are you?" :-)

I'm about 7-8 weeks and I told my work about 3 weeks ago I'm glad I did because I have horrific sickness and they have been really understanding I have only told a few close people at work and managers other than that I'm keeping it quite even tho impossibly hard lol I've told my mum first and my close friends. The rest will find out at 12 weeks scan is done. I know they say best to keep it quite but it's too big of news to keep toooo quite lol and you have to think if something went wrong god forbid those important people you told will support you. Today I got support I had a teary moment going in to work coz I'd Hardly slept my sickness is that bad and I felt exhausted and emotional friends did make me feel better