anybody else not enjoying their pregnancy so far?

[jessandalfie]

I'm 12 weeks and I'm not really enjoying being pregnant I feel sick all the time, dizzy,no energy, my excma has come out 10 times worse, my 3 year old son is really misbehaving lately also me and my patner arnt really getting on at the minute. I really want to start enjoying being pregnant because I loved it with first pregnancy. How can I make it different?? Help please

Im 33 weeks now, but until about 16 weeks I hated it. I was so sick, a hormonal, anxious, crying mess. Told dh we were never having any more children, told him I didn't think I could do it for 40 weeks. Then around 16 weeks it started to get easier and I actually really love being pregnant now. The second tri was so much easier and even with the massiveness and the aches and pains I'm still pretty happy now.

It could get better for you too!! Once your energy levels pick up a bit and the hormones level out a bit I'm sure it will feel a lot better. It must be so hard looking after one dc when early pregnancy is making you feel so shitty. Is there anyone who could help out a bit to give you time to rest?

Sorry to hear about you and your partner not getting on too well. Is he not being very understanding? My dh has been 100% more supportive and helpful since I started looking pregnant. I think until then it was easy for him to forget really.

Sending you lots of support :)

ME! oh gosh I hate it. It's my first baby so I never know what the aches and pains mean. I had horrible morning sickness untill I was 14 weeks and I am now 24 weeks with a BP that wont behave. Everywhere hurts and no clothes fit because I am the size of a small planet. I am going to have my own gravitational field pretty soon.

on the flip side, I love feeling baby kicking and squirming inside me. It's a constant reminder why I am putting myself through this. It might be 9 months of feeling crap, but at the end you get a snuggly newborn and that is amazing.

Don't feel bad for not enjoying it though. I think there is alot of pressure on pregnant ladies to love every second of being pregnant, whereas in reality it is hard. Things will pick up for you though, don't worry.

Thanks for your comments girls :) my son goes back to nursery on wednesday so hopefully he will be back to his usual self, I think its just boredem with him, (even though we go out somewere everyday) my partner is very supportive but I have never got the energy for sex anymore and just not enjoying it, I still love the bones of him, but its pushing us apart. An he just thinks I'm going of him which really isn't the case and I find that's all we ever argue about

I know exactly how you feel.
sex is an issue for us too, i feel too sick to have it (but really want it) and frustrations on both out ends may be building up.
how many weeks are you?

heffalump i think DP will be the same. once im showing he will be more supportive and understanding.

I'm 12+5 iloveweetos hopefully I will start to feel better soon, because we tried to concieve for 2 years had 3 mc, so I'm over the moon I'm pregnant just wish I could enjoy it more

I hated the first trimester both times, especially this time with toddler. Nobody would expect you to enjoy yourself if you were ill for three months, so I'd take the pressure off yourself and just wait till you feel a bit better and enjoyment comes naturally.

As for your partner, I'd tell him to visualise quite how sexy he thinks he'd be feeling in the middle of a stinking cold, or the flu, or a stomach bug. Then tell him to imagine it going on for three months. Basically, if there's a time for a man to back off the sex question, this is it :)

Crazyhead I think that's exactly what ill be saying to him lol. Well on the up side I'm really excited for tommorow its my 12 week scan not looking forward to the bloods needle phobia lol

Sorry to barge in but i'm in the same boat. 12wk scan tomorrow after a mc, petrified but grateful but oh so very sick!!! Have just been sick twice, i'm going to be a mess in the morning.

I have a 5 month old, hated the entire pregnancy, swore it would be the first and last one, could not bear the boredom, the tiredness, the nausea, stomach acidity, hip pain, nights awake, weight gain, etc. But now that he is with me I fee like it all went too fast, and we have decided to try for another one asap. Hang in there, it will all be over too soon, though it certainly does not look like it now!!! As for your partner, I agree entirely with crazyhead...

From about 6 weeks to end of first trimester I didn't enjoy it. I had threatened miscarriage so was ordered bed rest and that drove me crazy. I had too much time to focus on my nausea, heartburn, fatigue etc and started to feel quite depressed in fact. But now, at 35 weeks,what a change..... From second trimester on I have just felt better and better, love my new shape body, can't keep my hands off bump, love the attention I get from everyone, feel healthier than I have in a long time and can keep the heartburn in check with medication. Swollen feet I just have to learn to love!!!!!

Hi williwonti hope your scan goes well, I think I will feel rather sick too 2moz, let me know how your scan goes :)

Hi wokeupwithasmile. I loved pregnancy with first child it was a breeze lol, hopefully soon I will enjoy this one too, good idea to have next baby so soon. You will have your hands full though lol

Hi freckelygirlabroad glad to hear your having a good pregnancy, sometimes I feel like iv never been pregnant before as all the symptoms are totally new to me all the best :)