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So...did any of your friends buy the whole "I'm on antibiotics" line....

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MissCalamity · 23/08/2013 19:08

Or what else did you say and did it work?

I'm only 5+1 and off out tomorrow night for DP's birthday for drinks, I am the last person to ever offer to drive and the first person at the bar.

I was thinking about maybe saying I was out tonight, so am struggling to drink (I have an non alcoholic Koppaberg in the fridge I can put in a pint glass before hand as people are coming to our house first) and then just keeping sipping it saying, oh this isn't going down very well and order a lemonade in the pub, pretending it's vodka & lemonade.

Help!!

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ParrotsHilton · 23/08/2013 19:12

I would suggest buying all your own drinks (rounds can be precarious) and drinking lemonade/coke or a non alchoholic beer/cider. People won't check teh label. Whatever you do, don't bring up your non drinking yourself, it's a dead giveaway! Maybe sip the same wine spritzer all night?

Congratulations!

GandTnow · 23/08/2013 19:15

Congratulations! Lovely and exciting news for you. When I was pregnant I did just what Parrots said and drank gin and tonic without the gin. No one bothers too much, and so long as you don't make it obvious and sway about say 'Whoa I'm so drunk', no one will know.

Good Luck!

Carole803 · 23/08/2013 19:23

I was the same as you, but agree with parrots and grand, the big thing is not to mention not drinking, or if you can, think of a reason why you might need to drive. I said I needed to drive to my parents for an early start as I was helping them move and it didn't cross anyone's mind to question it.

On another occasion I had said my back strained again the comments night before and I was on some pretty hardcore drugs for thecpain, so didn't wantvto risk mixing in alcohol into the equation. The rest of the time,I got my own drinks and didn't mention it.

LoganMummy · 23/08/2013 19:25

Agree with above. Don't make a big deal of it and people won't notice

LoganMummy · 23/08/2013 19:26

But if you are going for the antibiotics line go with toothache as the antibiotics given are one of the few you really, really shouldn't mix with alcohol!

Carole803 · 23/08/2013 19:29

Btw, I heard a nice cover if you are going to a dinner party or house party: buy a bottle of weight watchers wine, empty it out and replace it with a wine looking substitute and take it with you to the party. People will gennerally keep away from it and you can decline sharing it because "you need to keep track of how many points you are having".

Of course, if you are driving, remember to park around the corner and out of sight.

vez123 · 23/08/2013 19:29

I was out with my work and told everyone that I was still driving that night. Perfect excuse!

Carole803 · 23/08/2013 19:33

One more thing.

After the first couple of drinks when everyone is relaxed, people won't even notice you are still on the same drink.

Personally, when I go out, my tolerance levels of other people drinking doesn't really go past three drinks. Once they reach that point, i tend to bail and let them have their night. But I have plenty of friends who don't mind eceryone getting messy around them.

LanguageTimothy · 23/08/2013 19:33

I find that as long as you have a glass in your hand people don't actually notice if you are drinking it.

Just wander around with glass in hand.

Even better if you can get a bottle if something tjat makes it hard to tell how much is gone.

Quodlibet · 23/08/2013 20:39

I managed to fool a lot of people at a work party with a couple of 'bloody Marys' (virgin, obvs) and then clear drinks which might have been G n Ts but weren't.
If you can get your own drinks and appear to be holding something alcoholic no one will pay much attention to what it actually is.

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MissCalamity · 23/08/2013 20:48

Thanks! I am feeling calmer now, I know it's not the end of the world if people know but as we've not even told family yet, and it is still very early days I would prefer not to.

There should be a few out tomorrow which does make it easier to hide; now I need to find some clothes to hide my bloated stomach...

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TheContrastOfWhiteOnWhite · 23/08/2013 20:52

Saying antibiotics is like announcing it. Except that sensitive friends won't ask you, even though they will know.

I agree with others. Either drink your beer at home and say you have to drive.

Or drink your beer at home, and pick a 'spirit and mixer' drink you are drinking out at the bar. You can ensure that when you and your DH buy it is just coke (or whatever) and you can do swaps with your DH if he is drinking the same thing.

Mayanbob · 24/08/2013 10:45

I was the friend that bought the antibiotics line!! (Wouldn't again though)

I found out I was pregnant in early dec, so had to get through numerous festivities.

'Dieting' was my friend. "Do you know how many calories are in xyz?" Backed up with, "I know it sounds awful, but I've lost 4lb since giving up booze!"

At New Years, I drank vodka and diet coke but swapped with my friend whenever possible. (Or got DH to buy plain diet coke and dispose of other) but as someone said, after a couple of drinks people don't really notice that you have the same drink.

OwlinaTree · 24/08/2013 10:51

Yes, just hold drinks and pretend. I went to a hen party at 7 weeks and just held drinks, bought my own 'vodka' and lemonade and no one guessed anything. Once the rest have had a few, no one notices anyway.

MummyPig24 · 24/08/2013 19:47

I've been out twice since finding out I was pregnant (now 10 weeks). The first time I ordered tonic. No one said anything till later when they were sharing round the wine, someone said "are you not a wine drinker?" I said "yes I do drink wine but I just fancied a g&t tonight". The second time I ordered sparkling water and no one said a thing. Maybe some suspected something but no one questioned it. I'm not a big drinker anyway.

LouisaJF · 24/08/2013 20:32

I have to take painkillers regularly so I've always had that as a back up excuse if needed.

The thing I've found is the less fuss you make about it the less people care. Announcing your excuse just draws attention to the fact you're not drinking. Just play it down and try to shrug it off if anyone mentions it.

VikingLady · 24/08/2013 21:07

You can say you're on codeine for something. If you drink with that you can be really sick, so it's reasonable! I used it as an excuse as it's a bit less obvious than ABs.

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MissCalamity · 25/08/2013 00:45

Well that didn't go down well! I've got proper nosey arsed mates!
None of them asked me directly if I was pregnant but plenty of them raised comment about choice of drinks....arrgghhh! I'm becoming a hermit now for the next 7 weeks!

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Carole803 · 25/08/2013 02:06

Well, as long as they keep it to themselves, and you prepare yourself for the expected "I knew it", then what harm has been done!

Congratulations on your pregnancy and savour each moment, even the 'less good' bits.

EugenesAxe · 25/08/2013 02:18

I used to say we were trying to get pregnant so I wasn't drinking in case we'd succeeded.

TakingTheStairs · 25/08/2013 02:22

A line I got away with was saying I was too hungover to drink. Everyone knows that feeling, and they think you've had a few the night before

Tea1Sugar · 25/08/2013 07:31

Try and arrive a little later when everyone's had a few then they won't notice! I'm nervous about a wedding we're going to when I'll be 11+2. Really don't know how to pull that off.

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