Meh!!!! wish people would stop commenting on my size!!

[blondebaby111]

Anyone else have this, I suppose its the only time people can comment and get away wth it but I'm starting to really get annoyed

Is it my immagination or are u getting a bit fat (this was before I'd announced I was pregnant)
Is it twins!!!?????

My, your bum has got big, you could give Jlo a run for her money

You had such a lovely figure before you were pregnant, I think your gonna be huge!!

Arghhhhh!!!!!! Yes I've put on weight, I'm pregnant big deal!! I was a slim size 10\12 before and I've only gone up one size in clothes so 12\14, that not bad for 5 months is it lol!!

Er.. This is the reality.. Oh you having a boy/girl .. Size of your bum. You're boobs are big.

Yep, expect it from now on.
You are very big / very small. It's a boy / girl.
People touching your bump!
It is all very rude.
I wish I had the nerve to just quietly say "p*ss off" after every comment. (not brave enough)

Most of the time I don't mind people making comments. It is there way of showing an interest. And I do think it is quite sweet. Especially when people try to be creative with their questions and not ask thecsame run of the mill questions. And to be honest I am enjoying most ofvthe pregnancy journey, but I do feel a little bit tested when people comment on my size.

I was size 14 before being pregnant and only 5'3", but since being pregnant my body has been storing water like it is going out of fashion. I am 22 weeks and have some way to go, so I am baffled when people think it is ok to comment on size.

Even close friends havevto be careful, so why do strangers or colleagues feel they have more rights? Most of them have been pregnant or close to pregnancy and know first hand how much of whale pregnancy can make you feel, even if you were superslim before.

In my opiniom, the worst comment is "so when areyou due?" "Christmas" "oh!..it is going to be a big baby"

My answer should be "Really? Is it? What qualifies you make that call?"

Instead, I answer "no, it is just going to be a good swimmer" which most people don't get and it leaves themm a little confused and dazed.

It's a weird thing that people somehow think it's ok to say things about your size or private body parts.

During a family get together. My son was just born and someone thought it was ok (in front of everyone!!) to ask me how many stitches I got in my vagina.

Because, he said: You're small, so you must be small down there too. You got a big baby. You must have stitches down there.

I told him that was private and body size and size of someone's private parts are 2 different things.

And, I was almost shouting so everyone heard me. I'm not asking you how big your penis is, now am I?
That's private.

He got the message. I really thought that was way out of line to ask.

Somehow when you're pregnant or just had your baby people forget that some things are private and that there're some things that are really rude to say. Like commenting someone on their bigger size etc.

Just touching your belly without asking.
Complete strangers asking what's it going to be.

If I say it's a boy or I don't know.
Then 9 out if 10 response (when I also have my 3 sons with me)

You must be hoping for a girl!
Or
didn't you wish it was a girl?

Or some people have started to laugh and say:
You're doing something wrong then. Again a boy... and they keep on laughing.

It's soooooo annoying!!!!!!!!!
I usually don't even know these people and they don't know me. I'm happy with my son. I don't care if it's a boy or a girl.
It's nice to know with the name and clothes and everything what's it going to be. That's all.

It's nice that people want to chat with you when they see that you're pregnant. But there are still lines that shouldn't be crossed.

I also hate it when you go outside and people think it's ok to just touch your baby.
Keep your hands with you! I don't even know you! Get off my baby.

But you got to stay polite........... Otherwise you're the hormonal bitchy mother. The crazy woman or whatever they can think of you.

It's almost like you became a pop star when you're pregnant. You get a lot of nice attention, but also a lot of negative attention.

I may slap the next person that asks 'are you sure it's not twins??' arghh!

Yeah, me too. I also get that one. Your belly is big. Are you sure it's not twins?

Idiots. Like I wouldn't know what goes on in my own belly. Like my midwife or the people who do the scans haven't got a glue what they're doing......

Your baby must be huge as your belly is huge.......

Some of these comments made me laugh, people are so rude!! Esp your syl, its worsee when men ask ackward questions. Most of my comments are from some of my clients, the older ones which they can be worse because sometimes the older generation don't realise how rude they are. My dads always asking how is the twins but he can get away with that coz he's my dad and he's never serious about anything ;)

A 40yr old male customer at work once asked me if my nipples have started leaking yet. I was too dumbfounded to do anything but shake my head and walk away!

Comments I had included:

"Gosh QotH, I never thought you would be someone who'd look fat!" Whilst pinching my side. I'd just announced it & had been so pleased to see people.

"Well of course you're much bigger than most people at five months aren't you" Am I?!
Five mins later from someone else...
"Someone just told me you're five months pregnant! You're so tiny, I didn't even know!"

I actually found all the comments really affected my confidence & I just dreaded socialising at all.

There is only one thing to say to a pregnant lady, if you have to say anything:

"Wow your hair looks amazing! & your bump is perfect isn't it?"

My personal favourite so far is that slow-nod and smug-smile, followed by, "you're having a girl. I can tell because you've put weight on EVERYWHERE."

Thank you. Now please do fuck off.

I have a very small bump. Am 36 weeks and measuring at 29. Saw a consultant for a growth. scan last week and all is fine.

When people ask how far along I am and I say 36 weeks, I always get an "are you sure?!?"

Yes people feel they can make comments when you're pregnant that would be blatantly unacceptable/down right rude at any other time. You're very big/ you're very small/ are you sure you're not further along/ are you sure you're that far along? My personal favourite though is, 'was it planned?' WTAF? None of your damn business!!!! Grrrrr (flounces off in a sea of angry pregnancy hormones !)

I kind of expected the attention & it doesn't really bother me. In fact I like it when I get comments but to be fair none if mine have been nasty. I have had the "are you sure it's not twins?!" But I am happy to have a bump and embrace being pregnant. I have a relaxed attitude about it and I don't see any point in stressing about something we can't change, generally people love and are fascinated by pregnant woman and I don't see that ever changing.

I think the best comment I have had so far was an old lady who had been eyeing me up for a while sitting on the bench next to me. She then leans over and said "I do apologise for butting in on your day like this, but I just wanted to tell you that you really suit being pregnant. Some people look like hippos, but you have elegance and hold yourself well" I got up shortly after to continue my walk and walked smack bang into a lamppost. I'm full of elegance and grace me

on the flip side I have been called the size of a house and asked if I have obese triplets in there.

I'm nearing 40 weeks now and so sick of heading the same. 'Wow, surely you can't get any bigger.' 'You're enormous.' My favourite though was at 28 weeks when my neighbour asked me, the day before I went on holiday, 'Tell me, whatdo people as big as you wear on the beach.' I was a size 10 before pregnancy. Granted I've gone up a size or two too, but what?!?! If only tact were shared equally amongst people. Xx