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Big baby??? Freaking out slightly....

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MrsPatMustard · 21/08/2013 18:16

I'm 17+1 with DC1 and I'm freaking out a bit lot.

Saw the midwife today and she felt my bump and said she thought I was more like 18 weeks in size. Does this mean my baby is getting big for his/her gestation period? And do these things run in families? I'm really anxious because I was almost 9lbs when born and my brother was 10lbs. Plus my DC is a big bloke - over 6ft and stocky with it....

I want to try and keep to a healthy weight but it's been really hard because my blood pressure has been very low all pregnancy and I get dizzy and breathless really easily, so exercising has been SO difficult. I'm terrified I'll end up blowing up like a balloon and will have a horrendous labour trying to give birth to a baby the size of a labrador...

Can experienced Mumsnetters out there pass on some pearls of wisdom slap me about a bit until I calm down

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purplemurple1 · 21/08/2013 18:20

Measuring 2cm (which is equal to 2 weeks) either way is pretty normal, and even with scans the 'guestimates' of baby size of fairly inaccurate.

Queazy · 21/08/2013 18:30

I'd second that - it's entirely normal x

Smerlin · 21/08/2013 18:30

I was 2cm over at 25 weeks but since then have evened out. Being less that 1cm (as you were just over 17 wks) out is nothing really!

heidihole · 21/08/2013 18:31

2 weeks either side is no problem.

ChunkyPickle · 21/08/2013 18:36

Remember they're measuring something squishy, with a dressmaker's tape - it's hardly very accurate...

Plus, just like when they're out in the world, babies have growth spurts - so they'll be bigger one week, then even it out the next.

I'm a bit surprised she's measuring already - I'm pretty sure they only started with me at pushing 30 weeks - at 17 my stomach was mainly bloat rather than baby!.

donttellalfred · 21/08/2013 18:41

Yes 17 weeks is early to be measuring in any case. It's not an exact science by any means and as others have said a week here or there doesn't make much difference. Later on the baby's position can also affect bump size - I was measuring two weeks ahead at about 28/ 30 weeks, but measuring same as dates now - the difference being the baby has moved from breech to cephalic.

MrsPatMustard · 21/08/2013 19:53

Thanks everyone - feeling slightly calmer. Fear of the unknown + hormones are making me a little crazy, I think...

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rallytog1 · 21/08/2013 20:10

Normal. And 9lbs is big but it's not that big!

syl1985 · 21/08/2013 23:41

Big babies can run in the family.

I was a big at birth too and my own children were not small at birth either.

Are you going to have a 20 weeks scan? Then they'll also have a look at the babies size.

They done that with me and yes, again I'm going to have a large baby.
I'll get another scan when I'm 36 weeks pregnant.

Then together with the doctor we will decide what we shall do.
natural delivery
getting induced
or have a c-section

Because if the baby is 4+kilo then there is more change on shoulder dystocia.
en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Shoulder_dystocia

This is what happened with my second child. It can be very serious because when the head is out and the shoulders are stuck. The baby doesn't get enough oxygen at that moment.

My second child they had to brake his arm for to get him out.

Shoulder dystocia is rare, but when it happens it's very dangerous for the baby.

My advice:
If you know the 'little one' is going to be a large baby.

  • have grow scans
  • don't let him/her become 4+ kilo. Also after birth that isn't pleasant for the baby. Because 4+ kilo babies can't always keep up their sugar levels in their blood. So they'll get regular blood tests to check their sugar levels.
  • when you give birth naturally don't do it lying down. It's the worse position to give birth in. It's more painful and there's less room for the baby to get threw the 'exit'.
Best position is to do it on all fours. It's less painful and there'll be more room for the baby.
  • Birth is painful, but try not to go for an epidural. Because then you'll give birth lying down. So there will be more change of shoulder dystocia.
  • If you know the baby is going to be big. Absolutely have your baby in the hospital! Don't go for a home delivery. If due to his/her size the baby does get stuck with the shoulders behind your pelvic bones. You'll have about 5 minutes for to get the baby out.
After those 5 minutes the baby might suffer permanent brain damage and worse. If you'd be at home the midwife or who's with you at that moment will be limited in what she can do for you and your baby. An ambulance will have to be called. You got to wait for the ambulance, then go to the hospital. That'll take to much time. If it goes wrong in the hospital then help is just a shout or a click on a button away from you.

Also when the baby is out there's immediately the right medical care for the baby.

With my second son I was allowed to have a home delivery. This was in Holland where most women do have their baby's at home.
Thankgoodness I decided to have him in the hospital.

Everything went well, but then when his head came out he got stuck. They tried to get him out, but nothing. Then broke his arm and he was out.
His was unconscious and they rushed him to a special room. He became conscious and they gave him oxygen and also a specialist came to have a look at him.

This all happened directly after he was born. At home all they would have been able to do was give him oxygen. With an ambulance being taken to the hospital before the baby would have got extra special care.

I stayed in the hospital for a couple of days. He got extra care and pain relief for his broken arm.

I don't tell you this to even make you more scared then you already are. But to let you know what to look out for.
If you're worried about the babies size. Have the 20 week scan and make sure they'll check his size.
If it's ok, but later in your pregnancy you're still worried about the babies size. Then ask for another scan for around 36 weeks to check the size of the baby.

With me, we didn't know the baby was going to be 4.5 kilo.
My first was 3.7 kilo. We know he was going to be bigger, but almost an extra kilo. That was a surprise for us.

Unfortunately I didn't know about the dangers of delivering large babies. If I had known this up front I would have demanded to have grow scans. Being induced around 38 - 39 weeks.
Not giving birth laying on my back, but on all fours.

Thankfully he's doing well now.
Don't be scared and don't let my story scare you. But take the advice. Learn from what happened to me that it's important to keep an eye on the babies size if you're worried about it.

Sylvia

midori1999 · 22/08/2013 01:26

Just to reassure you, having a big baby isn't necessarily a problem. DS2 was 4.5KG when born at 38 weeks. He came out just fine and I didn't even need so much as stitch.

However, measuring 1cm over your number of weeks means absolutely nothing really. As others have said, 2cm either way is completely normal, there is a margin of error and fundal height is not accurate. It can also vary depending on how much fluid you are carrying and how your baby is lying.

Mikeysmummy506 · 22/08/2013 08:47

It's always a good idea to try and stay healthy as you'll feel better and find things easier after the birth. But definitely don't let the measuring worry you too much as it doesn't tell you very much about the size of your baby. I measured completely normal and had friends measuring much bigger yet I had the biggest baby out of all of them! One friend was bigger by a couple of weeks her whole pregnancy but her baby was under 8lbs. Another friend always measured small and barely looked pregnant yet her baby was a similar weight to the friend who measured really big! If you were a big baby there is more chance that your lo will be as well but a big baby doesn't guarantee a difficult birth. My friend had a 9lb6ozer and had a really easy birth.

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