terrified to tell others im pregnant

[islasmummy2013]

Hi,

I'm 17 weeks pregnant with my second child and I still haven't told anybody, except my partner obviously. I dont know why I have this fear, im not ashamed or regret full of the pregnancy at all I just really don't want to tell people.

I am showing quite abit but my family all live far away and I have no friends here as I'm in a new area, so it's not been hard keeping it a secret but it really is starting to get me down.

I no I just need to bite the bullet and tell people but every time I go to I completely chicken out, maybe through fear of negative reaction? I don't know.

Has anybody else ever felt like this?

hi islasmummy2013 ive not been in that situation myself only in early pregnancy because id had a previoues mc just wanted to offor some [hugs]

I felt like this with my first and did not tell anyone until I was 23 weeks. Even then I felt slightly panicked when I told people, and quite a few friends I do not see regularly were shocked when I posted my first newborn pictures of DD on Facebook as they did not know I was expecting...

No idea why I did not want to tell people (although there had been a MC previously, I don't think it was worry about losing the baby as such) - I just did not feel comfortable mentioning it.

Needless to say, it was pretty clear to people who saw me after a while!

Don't worry too much about it - it will come out when you are ready, and you can always get your partner to tell people if you find it difficult to bring the topic into conversation naturally?

I didnt really announce it with baby#3 til after my 20 wk scan. Family knew, close friends knew, but i wanted the big scan done and i didnt really show til then anyway.

I felt like this and even though I told my Boss early on at about 10 weeks, I just couldn't tell my colleagues until about 15 weeks and I was so nervous. I guess I didn't want them to see or treat me differently because they are all guys, but after I told them they were really interested and asked me lots about it and treated me the same. I guess also I was still scared something would be wrong. You said you only told your dp, have u even been to the docs yet?

My colleagues had to know straightaway because of the job i do but im 14 weeks now and havent told a soul. My DH wanted to tell everyone and has done so but i find it so hard just to say the words. No idea why. I still have no desire to tell anyone so a lot of my friends have no idea. Even my family dont know. Even though ive had a MC before it isnt fear stopping me. I just dont want to tell anyone. Im glad you posted this, at least im not the only one to feel this way

Hi, I felt funny about telling people (after the 12 week scan, certainly not before that), it wasn't that I minded people knowing, I just didn't want to talk about it!
I asked my sister to announce it for me at a family party, so that sorted the family out. Told a couple of strategic big mouths at work who I knew would pass it on haha, so that was work friends sorted.. I still haven't put anything on Facebook or anything and I'm 22 weeks now. I contacted a few close friends after 20 week scan but there are still people who don't know. I don't live in the same country as family and close friends so the news flows a little differently I suppose.
I am very content and happy in my pregnancy I just don't enjoy the cliched conversations and repetitive questions and answers. I am also naturally quite a private person. My DH on the other hand tells everyone he knows, to the point where he told his work friends when I asked him not to (long story but I was trying to get a job and we work in the same industry) and I saw them out and they were congratulating me etc and all I could think was how furious I was with DH.
I would just start with a few key people and make sure they know its ok to mention it to other people so word can get around without you having to tell people. Is there a reason you are expecting a negative reaction? You say it's your 2nd so presumably you've been in this situation before, what was it like announcing your first pregnancy?

Thank you for the replies!
I didn't tell anybody about my first pregnancy untill I was 16 weeks either! I just can't seem to bring it up in conversation although I'm not really good at talking about anything!
Yes iv been to the doctors, had my scan etc, everything's fine and progressing well.

With my last pregnancy I told somebody who I knew would rush off and tell everybody so I may just do that again, or I could just walk into a crowded room full a huge belly? Hmm :)

I just feel as if it's my business..

Congratulations on your pregnancy! We only told parents and my boss before 12 weeks but even then have only told family and close friends. Work also know due to bump but I made sure I told a few motor mouths so they would tell everyone else.

I still haven't put it on fb or anything. Everything's going great and the pregnancy is very much planned and wanted but I think I quite liked just us knowing for some reason.

You'll tell when you're ready and that's totally fine x

I was the same this time around it's dc3 but had a mmc just before this and this time I didn't not want anyone to know just in case something goes wrong and then it just seemed more and more difficult to come out with it and it's funny as im so happy about the pregnancy, I somehow didn't manage to express this feeling when I did tell people and I think I did look I wasn't happy about it and some people even questioned if it was planned and if we were pleased 28 weeks now and at a stage that it's obvious but the way I deal with it is that if people don't bring it up even tho I know they are surprised I don't say anything.
all that matters that you are happy and feel good about things x