Looking for some reassurance... Getting that anxious feeling again knowing my scan is coming up...

[louise182]

I am pregnant, 19+2, and everything has been absolutely fine and normal up to now, no complications.

Just before my 12 week scan I made myself so ill with worry that the baby wouldn't really exist, or I would have miscarried, or something would be drastically wrong. Sure enough my little baby was there perfect as it could have been, and later on at 16 weeks heard a good strong heartbeat.

My 20 week scan is coming up very soon and I am getting this horrid nervous feeling again, that something won't be right. I know this scan brings a whole load of measurements and checks and I dread hearing something isn't right.

We were ttc for 18 months, I have PCO and it was a very worrying time. We managed to conceive completely out of the blue without any treatment, but I think a lot of my anxiety comes from the amount of time it took and worry we had hanging over us for so long and wanted this baby is.

I am still suffering from quite bad sickness, which reassures me a huge amount as I know that can mean a healthy pregnancy, but I still have this horrible feeling hanging over me and just wondered if anybody else felt like this even after having the reassurance of the first scan and Doppler?

Thanks ever so much in advance for any replies.

I totally get where you're coming from - I'm 26+2 & scored higher risk for down syndrome. Everything seems fine, & I found thinking logically and rationally was my first defence, followed by a strong sense that I could do this, hear whatever was going to be said bravely - finding our doesn't alter whether something is wrong or not. Just remember, statistics are on your side and the most likely outcome is that EVERYTHING is fine. You can do this x

out, not our

Also, handheld Doppler (Angelsounds) £20 from Amazon has given me daily reassurance

Hi Louise
I will be 19 weeks on Monday so just a few days behind you :-)
I already have a dd but after having two mc I am also extra worried for this pregnancy. As rura has said the odds are in our favour now, try to remind yourself that every person you come across from day to day has been a tiny baby in its mothers tummy right the way through the 40 weeks ( or however long it took ) and have grown to be healthy and living, there is no reason your baby should be any different.
I also have a Doppler that I uses to calm my paranoia, I know it's scary thinking you might not hear anything but at 19 weeks you probably would do so might be worth looking in to. It's lovely for dh to hear babies heart beat as well :-)
Have you felt any movement yet? Are you going to find out if bump is pink or blue?
Xx

louise i am 19+1 and have my 20 week scan on friday and am petrified.
Its my first child and my 12 week scan was fine, 16 weeks there was a strong heartbeat but i am still filled with worry. I think it is just what i am like I guess. I am a natural over thinker and worrier and always have been. No matter how i try to rationalise the fact that the chances of something being seriously wrong are very unlikely that small posibility still plays on my mind.
I concieved very quickly and have not suffered any mc so i think it is just natural for me to be worried as what we carry inside is so important to each and every one of us.
I like to think that all this worrying is just preparing me for when it is born as i will never stop worrying!