desperate need of a rant, please indulge me! AIBU here?!

[purpleaura]

OK, this is really petty but my blood is boiling and I feel so mad I have to get this off my chest!!

So I'm studying in the uni library and I'm 36 weeks pregnant i.e. massive bump. I'm really hot and so I had opened the window about 3 inches. Guy comes in, sits down at a nearby computer and shuts window. Now I'm not great at being assertive in these situations but after 5 minutes my face felt on fire so I politely explained that I was feeling very hot and would he mind if I opened it a little bit. He replied "But I'm cold."

Not being naturally assertive, I said OK and sat back down. Thinking it through, I started to feel really mad that he didn't seem willing to compromise and open it just a little. I thought I'd have another go, this time sticking my bump out as far as I could (!) I said "Excuse me I'm ever so hot- do you think we could compromise and open the window just a little?" He said "No, I'm cold." He was wearing a T shirt and had a jacket on the back of his chair. I was about to say something I'd regret when he suggested swapping computers as his was marginally nearer the window. "That would be great!" I said and thanked him, probably rather too profusely.

We swapped computers and I opened the window literally an inch. He just came over and said the window was open too much!!! Grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr!!!!!!!!

AIBU? Because right now I feel like he's being an absolute TW** and I can't concentrate on my work cos I'm so cross!

Give me an hour or two and I'll be fine, I'm sure. It's just right now I want to ask him who the F* he thinks he is!!!

He might not have wanted to study wearing his coat. Did you not have a layer you could have taken off?

I have a 3 month old so on the one hand I feel your pain. I remember matching about in our doctors surgery when I was 40 weeks gibbering about how unnecessarily bloody hot it was and didn't they know it wasn't the depths of chuffing winter and how am I supposed to survive its a bloody oven in a pregnant woman aaargh

But on the other hand you are being a teeeeeny tiny bit unreasonable, other people shouldn't have to be uncomfortable so you can be comfortable just because you're pregnant, it's not a medal-worthy state.

So many subtle autocorrects rendering the vast majority of my post completely nonsensical, Apple you are truly spoiling us...

Thank you both for taking the time to reply to my petty little rant!!

Thanks for the empathy purrpurr but I do feel like I shouldn't have to be uncomfortable so that he can be comfortable, IYSWIM! I asked a couple of other people nearby if they minded me opening the window and they were quite happy. Most of us in here are comfortably in T shirts.

champagnebubble- you're quite right- I think it is about compromise, whether I am pregnant or not.

I'm with you completely... In my mind, as a heavily pregnant lady there are benefits. Tiny things - people being a bit more considerate, letting you stand somewhere there's more space, opening a window a little if you need it. Basically, all the things I've always tried to do for pregnant ladies I've come across.
I guess the hardline would be that you dont deserve perks, but frankly that sounds as inconsiderate as the alternative... You are growing a human, and are probably uncomfortable, so a little niceness seems only fair.

It's August, he can't be THAT cold. I'm sure you're more uncomfortable than he is.

Open the window properly and point out that you're heavily pregnant (this should give him an understanding of your need for temperature regulation). If he moans again then point out that you were here first and he can move if he's really that cold... in the middle of the day, in August.

He will get over it.

Thank you mustard and bunnylion a little niceness goes a long way doesn't it?! :) I am feeling better about the situation. I wish I had your guts though bunnylion!

So NOT unreasonable

Ah but you do

He should put on his jacket! For godsake, it is totally appropriate to have a window a tiny bit open in August! Couldn't you speak to the librarian?

You are not being unreasonable at all. Well done for studying at 36 weeks! I'm impressed, as I am glued to my couch. He is just being an inconsiderate git, open the window - it's summer.

Thanks ladies! Feeling much better in the confidence that I was perfectly reasonable :) I heart MN!

Ta fibrecruncher- I have 2 more days studying before I'm sending myself off on maternity leave! Looking forward to hitting the couch on Thursday!!

He was definitely the one being unreasonable. What a typical selfish man. That has made me feel really cross on your behalf! Even if you hadn't been pregnant. Why is his comfort more important than yours, when you were there first? He could have sat somewhere else. And it doesn't sound like you were marching around being unreasonable in the slightest, it sounds like you were very polite. What are you supposed to do, strip down to your underwear?!

You just made me lol ratqueen! Perhaps I should have stripped off- I think my stretch marks and werewolf belly would have certainly seen him running for the lobby! :)

Ha ha, yes that might have shifted the idiot!!!