How did you announce your pregnancy!

[Shellywelly1973]

This is becoming a big issue for me...literally!
Im almost 16 weeks pregnant with 6 th baby. So far only Dp, my sister & best friend know Im pregnant.

I will not get a good response from my family or oldest dc regarding the pregnancy.

Its becoming all consuming now. I am really tired of hiding the pregnancy, holding my stomach in or just not being able to relax.

How did you tell your family & friends especially if you knew they wouldn't be sharing congratulations!!

well we knew our family would be excited - but I didn't want your post to be unanswered. we got both sets of parents round for tea and afterwards over a brew asked them how they fancied being grandparents.
in your shoes tho, I would perhaps pre-prepare answers to any negative questions and then if you sound organised they might be more accepting? I guess it depends why you wont get a good response - maybe if you said why you might get some more useful responses, if you are happy sharing of course.

congrats by the way - i'm not sure what i'm going to do with one, never mind 6!

Congratulations!
Don't really have any advise. We just told family when visiting but knew they would be happy.
I'm impressed you are still managing to keep it a secret I struggled to last until my 12 week scan.
Best of luck with your announcement

The reason we wont be expecting a good response is that its the 6th dc. We have a ds with autism. I have 2 dc in their 20's. Its madly busy. Not very sensible point in our lives to be having another dc...

No support from family or friends.

My mother lived very far away & is unable to travel. I have no contact with my dad. Dp mother is very ill with cancer due to start radiotherapy this week. Dp dad had a hip replacement last week so inviting the parents round for tea isn't an option!

I think i will make up a text & send it out... Be done with it!!

Congrats.

I just told people.

Maybe a text to everyone saying we are expecting, we are very happy about it.

I suppose there's no way you would add and we expect you to be happy too!

I knew I wouldn't get a good response from my parents - they're religious and I'm not getting married until next year. I just rang them and told my dad. My mom didn't ring me for days. They've come round a bit since then but it's very hard to forgive family when they have an adverse reaction.

It's your life and your choice tho so don't let other people's opinions chip away at your happy news

I would maybe put something in the text along of the lines of 'we know you won't necessarily share our excitement, but we are happy and if you can't be happy for us please keep it to yourself'

Congratulations!

shellywelly im markin my place on this thread as im in very similar situation.
Im on dc 3 and got 12 week scan on thurs altho not expectin to be that far as think dates r wrong.
Anyway im thinkin ile hav to break the news after that as ile show sooner this time and people already noticin im not drinkin plus i go in hol the day after scan with family so they will be sure to pick up on signs. However i know they are goin to think im mad for doing this again due to various circumstances so im dreading telling them.
My dp obviously knows and best friend and thats it. Im sorry i dont actually have advice as i think im going to jst bite the bullet and have done with it after scan. I really cant see an alternative way.
But you arent alone in the situation and im sure once its out you will feel so much better, maybe not initially but ultimately. Gud luk

I have never announced any of the pregnancies early but i had a mmc in February so waited til i had the scan. Then due to my age wanted til i got all the results from screening tests.

Then Mil was suddenly taken ill & something happened between my dd & her boyfriend so waited... Now Im 16 wks. Im small, size 8 so Im struggling to hide my bump.

Im going to make the text factual & to the point. Im sick of worrying about this....i feel like a teenager again!!

I waited until was about 20 weeks to tell my parents, did it via email, was also expecting a tense reaction.

Didn't tell work until 24/25 weeks. No one suspected. Good luck!

Was that your 1st Kelly?

With my first, second & third no one could tell until i was about 25 weeks.

4Th & 5 th i was enormous!! Not weight wise just my actual stomach. At 26 weeks with my 5th people were shocked i still had so long to go including the midwife!!

I've told everyone other than work. my boss knows but I've no idea how to tell my team. I've two weeks breather as I'm on holiday, but I'll have to tell them on my return.

Eeyorelsh- How many weeks are you?

I agree with the text preempting their unhappiness and telling them to keep it shut!

We are going to have to tell my PIL in a couple of weeks when I will only be 7 weeks, but we are all pretty big drinkers and going away for a weekend where I wont be able to avoid it.

We are planning on doing this:

Might do the same with my family too, i'll be about 10 weeks when its my bday so might give them all a present and tell them then :lol:

I don't drink or smoke so no changes there!

I could have hidden this pregnancy for ages if it wasn't the increasingly obvious bump!!

I would act oblivious to their reaction. I am sure you and dp are happy, and it isn't like it is you are going to have 6 under 5s to manage.

Also, I can't assume the relationship you have with your20 year olds, but I have a 17 and half step son who lives with me and he is chuffed to bits about the baby. He will be 18 just two months after the bean is due.

As long as you and dp support each other, it might be easier.

My view is that a text message might be a little antagonistic. And by the sounds, your family might like/need some good news.

Btw - congratulations

shelley I'm 15 weeks now, will be 17 weeks by the time I get back from holiday. so need to break the news at some point. I was thinking about sending an email to say the goodies I've bought back from holiday are also to celebrate me being pregnant.

Eeyorelsh... U could include ur scan picture in the email...

Its my dc & mum who will be least impressed. Dps side of the family are much easier going about things.

shelly work was the odd one for me. We have told evryone face to face and asked them not to share on fb.

The down side to that is the people who I haven't seen don't know and I would feel a bit braggy sending them a text. If I haven't seen them since I 've been pregnant, I probably haven't seen them for a bit longer than that! A few exceptions aside, but they are on my radar.

But work was odd as I probably wouldn't consider anyone a close friend, yet I needed to share something quite personal with them. So I told a few office friends and let them know I didn't mind the cat being let out of the bag. I also included it in some of my meetings in a very matter of fact way when we discussedthe future meetings, or plans etc "as you might be aware, I will be heading off on maternity leave at the end of the year and I am keen to support as much as possible before I do" or something like that.

I was 16 weeks when I told them, most people thought Iwas just getting fat! But it took a good couple of weeks before everyone knew. No big announcement, just slow seeping of news.

Everyone gets on with their job now and I have a few interested mother hens who want regular updates, but it is quite nice to have something non worky to talk about.

Sorry, last response was to eeoeish (lo ve e the name).

What I wanted to say to shelly is - I hope you have been able to work out how you are going to tackle this one and I hope it works out ok for you.

Let us know (wink)

Sorry, last response was to eeoeish (lo ve e the name).

What I wanted to say to shelly is - I hope you have been able to work out how you are going to tackle this one and I hope it works out ok for you.

Let us know

I mean EeyoreIsh not eeoeish. I am tired, I am sorry.

shelly, yes it's my first. am now 32 weeks and some people haven't noticed, i didn't get a bump until 29. i was in a bikini up until that point!

i posted on here asking for advice about telling my parents and got some great tips.

agree with what some said about how you frame it. i basically told my parents that we were delighted, and that they could either get onto the positivity bus, or eff off!

funnily enough, they got on the bus! i completely understand how stressful it can be, hope it goes well for you.

Good luck. With ds 1 work knew before my other half did!!! He wa at sea and had no contact. He found out about 2 weeks before he came alongside. We then phoned our parents when he got home and I was 14 weeks. We had our wedding booked for near my due date so had to move everything!!

Congratulations! I was also in a situation where I knew my family wouldn't be happy about my pregnancy (It was my first and only child but I was 17). I sat my parents down and just said 'I'm pregnant. I know you're not going to be happy about it but I am, and the baby is going to be born whether you like it or not'. They went mad and were very unsupportive. My DH told his parents I was pregnant by saying the same thing, they were distraught (cultural issues) but came round very quickly (within weeks) and adore DD. 11 years later its all good, although my parents are still distant and DD much prefers DH's parents. I hope everything works out ok for you!