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9 weeks pregnant and feel totally useless

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MortifiedAdams · 08/08/2013 17:51

I work full time, shifts, which wears me out at the best of times, yet being nine weeks has just hit me like a ton of bricks.

DH and DD are currently eating dinner and he will do.bath bed etc and I am.lying in bed as I just feel.too tired to think of anything else.

I feel like.a shit mum and wife and to top it all off I think Im.getting a cold.

Bloody hell «sob»

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badguider · 08/08/2013 17:52

If it helps, I'm now 36 weeks and have never again felt as bad as I did at 9 weeks. For me it was the worst week so far by a loooong way....

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MortifiedAdams · 08/08/2013 18:01

I would be wonderful if this is the worst I am going to feel I was nine weeks pregnant 2 years ago and just cannot remember feeling this tired - but then I didnt have dd to worry about then and could juat swan off to bed.

Is it awful of me to leave dh to it or should i be pulling jp.my socks and trying to 'get on woth it'?

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Charingcrossbun · 08/08/2013 18:08

You are not a shit mum or wife! You are clearly an excellent mum building heart, spine and organs for your new baby (which is tiring) whilst ensuring you have a partner who provides for DD.
9weeks is tough - I'm 11 weeks and spent the last few weeks in bed! Exhausted.

annamelissa · 08/08/2013 19:25

It'll get better - I was surprised at how crappy I felt for those few weeks (about week 8-14), sick, knackered and weirdly depressed! Remember saying crying to my partner that I just wanted a week off being pregnant! But honestly it was pretty much forgotten by week 15...

Mayanbob · 08/08/2013 19:25

OP I can't speak from bounds of knowledge as this is my first pregnancy. However, at 9 weeks for me I was exhausted. Lolloping around at work and just feeling so tired i'd nap at lunch, in front of people. When I got home, I'd sleep on the sofa while DH made me food/ bought me food from somewhere.

38 weeks now and sleeping is interrupted by a baby in my belly so tired again, but even now don't feel as tired as I did back then - this is a different type of tired. So no, i don't think it's awful of you to leave dh to it. Just try and relax and look after yourself and the baby you are growing.

MrsPatMustard · 08/08/2013 19:49

At nine weeks I could barely walk 10 yards in front of me without needing to sit down and rest. Am now 15 weeks and feeling so much better. Hang on in there - it gets easier...

Strokethefurrywall · 08/08/2013 19:59

Ahhh 9 weeks. That was the week I fell asleep at my desk on more than one occasion.

I'm currently 6+5 with hobbit #2 and I'm sick as a dog and dosed up to the eyeballs on medication to get me through the day. I think it's worse the second time around because you know that it's going to get worse before it gets better! I'm fully anticipating napping during my lunch break and given that I almost just threw up on a colleague, I don't reckon this pregnancy will remain a secret for long.

Hopefully you've only got a couple more weeks before it starts to get better!! I'm telling myself I've only got to get to 10 weeks and it'll get easier.

Pozzled · 08/08/2013 20:00

When I was pregnant with DD2 I felt the same. I could just about manage the day at work, but couldn't get off the sofa once I was home. DH did all the cooking, bedtime routine etc. It does get easier, though. Just take it day by day.

stickortwist · 08/08/2013 20:04

Go to bed. Do not feel guilty.
I can remember what we ate for weeks 8-12 and it was solely stuff i could put in a microwave and tip on a plate.... Chopping up an onion seemed like an insurmountable task.

It gets a bit better honest although then the back ache and reflux start

ThursdayLast · 08/08/2013 20:04

When I was about nine weeks in I was working full time in the summer hols in a business very much effected by the holiday makers and I hadn't told anyone apart from DP I was preggers...
One evening I was soooooooo incredibly tired that I crawled under the dining room table to lie down with the dog and fell asleep for an hour!
That first trimester really knocked me for six, I can sympathise

SugarMiceInTheRain · 08/08/2013 20:07

Don't feel guilty. I'm 12 weeks and have been useless for the past 4. I really hope it passes soon, DH goes to work then comes home, sorts out the DC, makes dinner, gets them ready for bed, reads to them... everything. I just feel too exhausted to move most of the time even though I only work very part time and am a SAHM. Definitely wasn't this bad in my previous pregnancies. You have my sympathies. It should get easier soon!

WillYouDoTheFandango · 08/08/2013 20:15

Get your head down and don't worry about it. At 9 weeks I spent all of my time being force fed by DP (horrendous morning sickness and I threw a tantrum and decided I wouldn't eat again ever) and lying in bed sobbing over dramatically that I couldn't go on any longer I went to a baby shower that weekend and marvelled that my 36wk gone friend could eat sandwiches and laugh and joke and it gave me hope. I still went home, put the duvet over my head and had another sob that it wasn't me who was almost due though.

Congratulations in a few weeks you'll feel much better. After all you've done this once before and survived.

Writerwannabe83 · 08/08/2013 20:43

I feel your pain.

I'm only 6+6 and I'm good for nothing. I'm a pointless human being at the moment.

I manage to drag myself to work but once I'm there it is a battle to do anything. Everything seems like such an effort. I'm just exhausted. I actually started crying at work this morning.

Last night I came home at 5pm and was in bed by 5.20pm. My husband woke me at 7pm for me to eat my dinner and then I went straight back to bed. I came home from work today, started doing some washing up and I'd barely washed a few plates and cups before I started crying. Hubby came and gave me a cuddle and marched me off to bed - where I am now.

I'm dreading the thought of going to work tomorrow. I just have nothing to give - every muscle aches ands my brain doesn't work. I'm exhausted.

I thought pregnancy was going to be fun and exciting.....

Quodlibet · 08/08/2013 21:05

I had this too. 'Tired' doesn't cover it, a new word needs to be invented for the feeling that all your energy has been sucked out of you by a little parasitic being! Good news is it was gone by about 13 weeks.

Don't make things harder for yourself by adding guilt into the mix. It's totally unnecessary. You are growing a human. Sometimes you have to lie down a lot to do that. Someone else will have to do the other stuff for a bit.

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MortifiedAdams · 08/08/2013 21:12

I had a good little chat with dh tonight. He really is doing everything round the house and with dd and I wanted him to know that I dont enjoy being useless and really am grateful for everything he is doing. His response was that this was his contribution to the pregnancy seeing as he cant actually do the 'growing a human' part

#sob# thanks for all the support and similar stories.

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Quodlibet · 09/08/2013 18:24

He is right. Sounds like you've got a goodun. Glad you are feeling a bit more in perspective about it all.

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