Preganant And Terrified

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I have 3 children, 11, 8 and almost 2. My eldest 2 children are autistic and hard work. I love my 2 year old more than anything but she is an utter nightmare, she still doesn't sleep through the night.

My DH is adamant he wants no more kids and neither do I. I honestly don't think I could cope with another baby. We had unprotected sex on our wedding night, we were both drunk and weren't thinking. I did a test today and it's a very faint positive. How the hell do I tell DH?, what am I going to do. Im not sure if I could have a termination, but if I go through with it, it will be very complicated and possibly dangerous for me after 3 C-sections.
Sorry for the gibberish post, im just panicking atm. any advice will be appreciated.

O.K first things first - another test to get a clearer result.

Preferably visit to G.P. today to take second test and your options. One option (The morning after pill) applies up to 72 hours after unprotected sex - should you choose that option you would need to act quickly. Other options are available.

Then some honesty with your DH and perhaps he can also help you with your choices and support after that. There is no easy way to tell him I am afraid; so just sticking to the facts should initiate the conversation.

It is understandable if you feel 'terrified' in your situation . Sounds like life is very full at the moment.

I am sure that you have now thought about ongoing contraception - if you have both decided that another child is not for you. There are methods that once administered you do not have to think about too much about. Doubling up - using two methods together - e.g pill and condom/coil and cap etc. is the only real way to get as close to 100% effectiveness as possible. But no contraceptive is 100% effective.

Take what you need to do in stages if it seems like a massive thing to decide. Medical issues/confirmation first.

Good Luck

Thank you for your reply, the morning after pill is not an option anymore. If I am pregnant I will be at least 4 weeks. When I had my last baby I was very much pressured by the doctors to get steralised (sp?). They said that a 4th pregnancy and resulting C-section would be dangerous for me. Im trying very hard to calm down and figure out a way to tell DH.